Bachelor and bachelorette parties and cheating

It worked for us. She had sex with others in our 30's and none since turning 40.
That's the important bit - if it works for you, then no issue. I always thought it was good for our relationship to give my wife some sexual freedom and have no issues with her having sex with other guys. But, like you, I do enjoy her telling me about her adventures.
 
That's the important bit - if it works for you, then no issue. I always thought it was good for our relationship to give my wife some sexual freedom and have no issues with her having sex with other guys. But, like you, I do enjoy her telling me about her adventures.
My wife ha a lot of sex her first two years in college, which I suspected, but which she denied. I'm glad she lied at the time because I might have done something stupid like leaving her. When she told me about it after we married, she emphasized that it was just sex, no romantic attachments. That made me willing to let her do it later. Now I can enjoy the stories from college and more recently.
 
My wife ha a lot of sex her first two years in college, which I suspected, but which she denied. I'm glad she lied at the time because I might have done something stupid like leaving her. When she told me about it after we married, she emphasized that it was just sex, no romantic attachments. That made me willing to let her do it later. Now I can enjoy the stories from college and more recently.
We enjoy telling each other about our adventures—it often leads to a great night in bed, when we can recreate those memories!
 
We enjoy telling each other about our adventures—it often leads to a great night in bed, when we can recreate those memories!
Same here. Lynn and I started dating when we were 15 but did not have sex with each other until our wedding night. That was my call, not hers. She was ready sooner.
 
Same here. Lynn and I started dating when we were 15 but did not have sex with each other until our wedding night. That was my call, not hers. She was ready sooner.
We didn't wait for our wedding night; my wife was much more experienced than me. I still don't know how many men she has been with, but it was in double figures before we met!
 
I had sex at my bachelor's party so I guess I'm in the 36%. I also had sex at a friend's bachelor party with one of the other male guests.
 
We didn't wait for our wedding night; my wife was much more experienced than me. I still don't know how many men she has been with, but it was in double figures before we met!
Since we started dating at 15, Lynn only had sex one time before we met. Her number in college was probably 10 or 12 men.
 
Since we started dating at 15, Lynn only had sex one time before we met. Her number in college was probably 10 or 12 men.
But probably most were just sexual one-night stands and nothing else. Women have similar needs as men, so it is really no big deal if your sexual history is well into double figures provided there is no deceit or jealousy. There is a difference between simple sexual pleasure and love.
 
But probably most were just sexual one-night stands and nothing else. Women have similar needs as men, so it is really no big deal if your sexual history is well into double figures provided there is no deceit or jealousy. There is a difference between simple sexual pleasure and love.
True. Lynn made sure her "dates" knew about me and that their sex was just for fun. She dumped them if they got serious. Some were one-nighters and other relationships went on for weeks.
 
True. Lynn made sure her "dates" knew about me and that their sex was just for fun. She dumped them if they got serious. Some were one-nighters and other relationships went on for weeks.
That is how my wife approached it, a girls want to have and sometimes with variety.
 
Not that it matters, but this article was published last May and surveyed 6000 people. Most of the activities admitted to were “chaste” (their word): 33% cited lap dances, for example, though 11% said they slept with someone, 9% in a threesome.
IMO a lap dance is NOT cheating
 
That is how my wife approached it, a girls want to have and sometimes with variety.
Yes. Since my wife and I only saw each other once or twice a month, it was only fair to let her date others. We finally stopped it during her junior year, and she didn't date anyone else. So she didn't have any sex from then until our wedding night, almost two years later.
 
Yes. Since my wife and I only saw each other once or twice a month, it was only fair to let her date others. We finally stopped it during her junior year, and she didn't date anyone else. So she didn't have any sex from then until our wedding night, almost two years later.
You have recognised your wife had and still has sexual needs. All too often men don't and wonder why when things go wrong.
 
My wife ha a lot of sex her first two years in college, which I suspected, but which she denied. I'm glad she lied at the time because I might have done something stupid like leaving her. When she told me about it after we married, she emphasized that it was just sex, no romantic attachments. That made me willing to let her do it later. Now I can enjoy the stories from college and more recently.
My story with my wife is somewhat similar to yours. From the summer after my junior year until graduation I was in Indiana and she was back at the college we both met at. She ended up having sex with a guy she was spending time with that summer and then others during her senior year. I found out after we had been married some years when he college friend and senior year roommate let something slip when she was visiting us.
 
My story with my wife is somewhat similar to yours. From the summer after my junior year until graduation I was in Indiana and she was back at the college we both met at. She ended up having sex with a guy she was spending time with that summer and then others during her senior year. I found out after we had been married some years when he college friend and senior year roommate let something slip when she was visiting us.
Sometimes it's good not to know. I finally asked her after we had been married a couple of years and she told me all about her sex life in college. It was fun since she was mine and all the other guys only had memories.
 
I'm so turned on by stories of brides-to-be cheating on their man, the closer to the wedding day, the better. Too bad there isn't a lot of porn or stories about that scenario.
 
My very conservative ex-wife had her very slutty cousin arrainge a male stripper for her Bachelorette party. Ex-wife was not pleased ... slutty cousin ended up fucking him.
 
My very conservative ex-wife had her very slutty cousin arrainge a male stripper for her Bachelorette party. Ex-wife was not pleased ... slutty cousin ended up fucking him.
I would like one day for my wife and I to renew our vows. She would never want a bachelorette. But I like the idea of maybe hiring a male stripper for our own private party. A few days before our ceremony, he comes to our place. Seat my wife in our living room. Then he strips for her. Completely naked. His cock in her face and everything. And for a couple bucks extra, Mrs. Screwher and him continue the party up in our bedroom.
 
I've been the bachelor party entertainment in the limo or party bus on several occasions. I've yet to find a bachelor that didn't take full advantage of the situation.
 
Honestly, I always thought that bachelor and bachelorette parties were assumed to be a bit of a free pass to have some wild fun. The whole premise behind a bachelor / bachelorette party is to bid farewell to the things that you supposedly won't be doing once you're married. To me that would include having sex with other people.
Yeah, this.

I suppose strictly speaking it's only the guest of honor who is going to be giving up la vida solo, so only (s)he should actually DO anything.

I don't approve of cheating per se, though it is not my business to police anyone else's marriage. (I came up with THAT after trying to reconcile the first part of the sentence with having had sex with someone else's wife [I knew she a "thing" for me, I just didn't know how far she would take it, and as I wss unattached at the time ...].) I'd be uncomfortable seeing married men cheating and would not be titillated at the thought of a married woman having sampled the wares.

But in general, these are situations where the rule has GOT to be, "Don't ask or tell, unless hearing or telling something happened is YOUR turn-on."
 
I never participated with the sex at a bachelor party. Saw plenty of guys get blown, saw some disappear in to a room with the dancer for a quick fuck. Why didn't I participate? My idea idea was that the dancer was a hooker and I wasn't going to "pay" for sex. No problem with people doing it but even though I didn't get laid a lot, my pride wouldn't let me pay for sex. Today it might be different.
I did not cheat at mine - after some other festivities, we went to a strip club. I did get a lap dance. That's it.
My wife/fiance on the other hand, I'm convinced did something. Why? her sister had worked construction for 10 years and was a total whore (she used those words herself) convinced her that EVERY guy got laid on their bachelor party. As much as I tried to assure her that wasn't true, I'm pretty certain she believed it, and the day after the bachelor/bachelorette parties she was acting very sheepish and ashamed and kept asking me if I did anything, likely to assuage her guilt. I didn't ask her, I didn't want to know, convinced myself she made put with someone, who cares.
Now, I'd bet a million bucks she at least made out with some dude, leaning toward the idea that she likely blew some one and would not be the least bit surprised if she got fucked.
 
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I’m not really big on the idea of bachelor or bachelorette parties. Maybe it’s changed over the years, but isn’t the concept suppose to be “one last night of fun” before marriage? If you’re going to have that attitude, then don’t get married.
That said, my wife and I want to renew our wedding vows one day. In the event she wants to have a bachelorette, she knows she has my full approval to have a “final fling”. Or two. Or three.
 
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