BDSM Lifestyle?

[ecstaticsub]

Marriage is a BDSM lifestyle. Someone's dominant, and someone's perpetually submissive.

Not every marriage.

 

[Sayyid]

Yeah I'm not really a fan of marriage but that's not a very good characterization of it as an institution.

Historically most marriages were male-dominated but things are more egalitarian now.

 

[kitten_candy]

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I don't get to go out too often. My husband takes me to the hairstylist once a week and we go to church every Sunday. In addition, we go out perhaps once or twice a month. When we are in our community, I am normally in a wheelchair with my wrists and ankles in leather restraints. People assume that I have been in some kind of horrible accident or that I have had a stroke. We play along with that. I wear a surgical mask to conceal my gag. I have opaque contacts that function well as an invisible blindfold. Last winter we went on a church sponsored ski trip with me in this condition. While my husband was on the slopes, the little ladies from the church kept me company. They held my hand and patted my head. They would have been SO shocked if they realized they were aiding and abetting public bondage! This is the part of bondage that I enjoy.

At night I am completely restrained in the classic spread eagle fashion. Basically all I get to move is my fingers. I wear the same thing I do during the day with the exception of my outerwear. I even keep my gloves on. I also wear a blindfold at night.

Note: A few months after I posted this reply my jaw was wired shut with a dental appliance in place to keep me from speaking. I no longer have to wear a gag or muzzle.

i would be pretty pissed off if i were helping out someone who portrayed themselves as disabled and really, were just getting their kink on.

also... hope you have that Plan B ready if the husband's health issues prevent him from getting you out of your bondage gear.

 

[Bandit58]

also... hope you have that Plan B ready if the husband's health issues prevent him from getting you out of your bondage gear.

I guess the live in help would take care of that

 

[Gil_T2]

Marriage is a BDSM lifestyle. Someone's dominant, and someone's perpetually submissive.

We use LOVE, RESPECT, OPEN & HONEST, BANDIT is submissive in all aspects of her life so the Sir/sub deal works easily for us & have adapted it to suit our lives.

 

[SubMrs]

For whatever reason we never really got into the "Sir/Slave" thing. I don't speak but my husband always refers to me by my given name.

Our relationship has evolved over the years that we have been married with me progressively losing personal freedom. I no longer have any "free range" personal mobility and I am only permitted some limited use of my hands four days a week. I am also blindfolded all but 28 hours each week.

Ironically, I am much more content with being rigorously restrained today than I was twenty years ago when I only had to wear handcuffs and ahackles most of the time. With maturity comes acceptance I suppose.

 

[eastern sun]

For whatever reason we never really got into the "Sir/Slave" thing. I don't speak but my husband always refers to me by my given name.

Our relationship has evolved over the years that we have been married with me progressively losing personal freedom. I no longer have any "free range" personal mobility and I am only permitted some limited use of my hands four days a week. I am also blindfolded all but 28 hours each week.

Ironically, I am much more content with being rigorously restrained today than I was twenty years ago when I only had to wear handcuffs and ahackles most of the time. With maturity comes acceptance I suppose.

With that kind of immobility over long periods, how do you cope with the possibility of pressure or friction ulcers?

 

[Bandit58]

With that kind of immobility over long periods, how do you cope with the possibility of pressure or friction ulcers?

I would also be worried about muscle wastage and the possibility of developing osteoporosis without any weight bearing exercise....

 

[callinectes2]

How do you eat if your jaws are wired shut? Protein drinks? How did you find a dentist to do it for non-medical reasons? Wouldn't being blindfolded for such long periods of time affect your eyesight? I'd think looking at a monitor would be sheer torture.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Pictures or it didn't happen.

 

[callinectes2]

Pictures or it didn't happen.

Shhh..be vewy vewy qwiet, I am hunting BS.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Shhh..be vewy vewy qwiet, I am hunting BS.

Watch it-- if it stampedes you could be trampled.

And stinky.

 

[Mistress_Sheli]

dont you worry you wll lose mobility

 

[callinectes2]

Watch it-- if it stampedes you could be trampled.

And stinky.

Hence the tree stand. It was hell climbing up here in my full body corset though.

 

[seela]

How does she go to bathroom if she can't use her hands? Or maybe she only goes on four days a week.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Herm, it reminds me of a story I read once.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The last story I read like this was gay male, and ended with the first-person narrator being completely transformed via hand-wave surgery into a metal-clad sex robot... Hot as fuck, and in fantasy everything is possible...

 

[00Syd]

With that kind of immobility over long periods, how do you cope with the possibility of pressure or friction ulcers?

Oh hey, totally off topic, but really nice new AV!

 

[where]

I would also be worried about muscle wastage and the possibility of developing osteoporosis without any weight bearing exercise....

irrelevant. She hardly moves.

 

[Keroin]

Oh hey, totally off topic, but really nice new AV!

Yeah, my thoughts exactly. Though I have to confess that ES looks NOTHING like I imagined her. Weird.