BDSM n Nonconsent? Help

[blackwatch1881]

Re: Re: BDSM n Nonconsent? Help

I like roleplaying nonconsent, but I'm not into nonconsensual BDSM play at all.

I imagine most people are like that... isnt that just dangerous?!?

 

[LunarKitten]

Re: Re: Re: BDSM n Nonconsent? Help

I imagine most people are like that... isnt that just dangerous?!?

*nods* I think so

 

[pyramider]

Just something Ive been wondering...

Do those who gain pleasure from non concent stories also gain pleasure from BDSM?

Both being about control, I'm not being nieve n saying that they are the same, Im just wondering as most Ive encountered that have rape fantasies also have a taste in the BDSM scene.

I haven't done neither myself but I know of one lady who keeps bugging me to try it on her and she loves it so much. I know of few other people who swear by it. It is not my cup of tea, coffee or hot chocolate.
I love sex as a tender and loving act.

 

[blackwatch1881]

sex can be a tender loving act, but I also think in a loving D/s relationship that there is also tender love making.

My own personal opinion is that once youve 'dip your toe' in doing other things theres no turning back. I almost see just doing the 'tender loving' thing all the time as monotonous and for me personally unfulfilling.

So I think its down to each personal preferance. Ive discovered a new fetish with my partner that maybe unless I was open minded enough would never have discovered but now it has enhanced our relationship and brought us closer and to a higher level of satisfaction. Its something that niether of us knew much about so we were learning together which made the 'love making' times more fun and different.

But saying all this before I discovered D/s in my late teens/ early 20's I was quite content in the vanilla world, knowing no different. but maybe I wasnt old enough to experience the monotony of vanilla relationships.

(lol you wouldnt think I was such a quite n shy gal in real life would you )

 

[ammre]

The non consent stuff is fun in fantasy and I enjoy the stories. So I voted both. However, for real life, I'll stick with BDSM, thank you.

ditto.
been down that nonconsent road. it's definatelly something that's only fun in fantasies. Setting up a seen to mock-nonconsent is different becaue you can discuss limits and all the intentions are different. You don't tell your partner "oh i think i like nonconsent stuff" and he dosn'et grab you and force you to do everything he wants without a thought as to your well being mentally and physically. There's communication. I've read both bdsm and nonconsent, i know the difference between imaginary and real.

 

[Brazen Irish]

When I was a young teen I had allot of nonconsent fantasies. I can still distinctly remeber quite a bit of them. I think part of why I found them so thrilling was because they were so bad and I knew that if any of them happened in real life that it would not be half as pleasurable.

And then one morning my sister came home and I found out that she'd been raped. That ended any interest I might have had in the subject.

In short, I can understand the lure of the fantasies, but I no longer care to take part in them.