Being a fetish… and those who desire them

[RacyWilde]

Being a natural redhead I've always enjoyed being with guys who are turned on by redheads. I mean it's me, it's not something I'm trying to be. Redheads have that stereotype off being fiery and passionate and I get to explore that side of me when I'm with someone who really wants it.

Ah, but ideas change over time. For example, the redhead used to be the symbol of virgins. It is often thought that Mary, Christ's mother, and Mary Magdalene was a redhead. Many noble women and goddesses are portrayed as redheads. But during the dark ages they were often considered witches, and a little later as lower class citizens (because of the relationship between the English and Scots.) It is often laughed at that redheads have no souls. And I've heard in certain men's circles that it's fun to have a redhead as a one-off but never as a wife because all the other men will be coveting her, which brings all sorts of problems. One of my friends, she is a lesbian and a redhead - the two together do not go down well...lol.

I don't need to use my hair colour to attract men. I stand back to watch the frenzy around redheads. I then choose the men who stay away from her. It's not that they don't like redheads, it's that they have a sense of self control - and to me that is very attractive. When I do this, I tend to get the very best men. I guess I'm giving away some of my secrets here

One thing I've learned about men's fetishes, especially since joining Lit...it seems "Yellow Fever" is quite common

lol - yes! It can work for you if you aren't fussy or are an exhibitionist...lol... but when you want to find the best...

 

[RacyWilde]

I don't know if supermodels count since they're usually tall and petite is more about overall smallness http://www.dictionary.com/browse/petite
They don't count for me.

Based on the amount of people who have said it here it must be more common than I thought. If you see my post I didn't even realize I must have that fetish for many years. I subconciously always chose a petite girl.

Asian/young petite = yes yes yes

Ah, yes... sometimes fetishes are hidden for years! And I think they are relative to – a heightened version of – types.

I was chatting to one of my sexting buddies about this very thing, and he suddenly realised he had a type! - active/sporty girls (like me ...lol. ) He was very put out because he thought he was free of having a type...lol. Typing can be like horse blinkers - you can miss out on so many wonderful people because of it.

 

[The_Ghost_Man]

So I scored five out of ten on the poll.

But I have to admit, I'm feeling a little insecure after reading the thread. How do I know now if a woman is just throwing herself at me for my man fur and v-lines.

I think its time to start wearing suits and ties to cover myself up. Wait, would that work?

 

[RacyWilde]

So I scored five out of ten on the poll.

But I have to admit, I'm feeling a little insecure after reading the thread. How do I know now if a woman is just throwing herself at me for my man fur and v-lines.

I think its time to start wearing suits and ties to cover myself up. Wait, would that work?

Haha! The dilemma for a man with v-lines and hair.

But you're right... I am attracted to your body - simply put, you have what I like – and even though your mind is super fantastic, your body makes up the whole package for me. It's not PC to like someone for their shell, (but somehow having a 'fetish' is a more acceptable reason...lol), but a person who values kinesthetic intelligence and works towards it, forming their body through health and exercise, is more sexual attractive to me. Hair is the icing...lol.

 

[Asian_Flower]

It refers to, well, going crazy just because an East Asian girl is East Asian.

Thank you, saved me from explaining.

I cant tell you how many PM's I have received that start with something like..."I've never been with an Asian girl" or "I've always wanted to try"...YAWN.

 

[Nezhul]

Thank you, saved me from explaining.

I cant tell you how many PM's I have received that start with something like..."I've never been with an Asian girl" or "I've always wanted to try"...YAWN.

These types of approaches always fascinated me.

Him: I've never been with an asian girl and wanted to try.
Her: YESSSSS! Let's go, baby!

... I mean, is that what they picture to themselves? At least they could be creative and say something like "Hey, Asian! Have you ever been with a Latino man?!"
That'd be offering something.

 

[KatieTay]

I mean it's also in the word "Asian", the "yellow fever" fetish I mean.

Asia is... a huge place.

They're thinking of East Asian - Chinese, Japanese, Korean. Pale skin, dark-haired, usually small-framed, with stereotyped personalities. If they really stretch it, Southeast-Asian (Vietnamese, Thai, etc) might be included in their fetish, but still basically light skin tones.

But when Westerners think "Asian", they almost never think of South Asian (Indian subcontinent).

 

[SimpleGifts]

But when Westerners think "Asian", they almost never think of South Asian (Indian subcontinent).

True, although I DO have a sexual fascination with South Asian women. Not quite sure why, but they seem more exotic. I've lived in East Asia, so that seems less alluring.

I am really tired of how Japanese culture keeps getting fetishized, like what Quentin Tarantino did in Kill Bill...

SG

 

[Asian_Flower]

I mean it's also in the word "Asian", the "yellow fever" fetish I mean.

Asia is... a huge place.

They're thinking of East Asian - Chinese, Japanese, Korean. Pale skin, dark-haired, usually small-framed, with stereotyped personalities. If they really stretch it, Southeast-Asian (Vietnamese, Thai, etc) might be included in their fetish, but still basically light skin tones.

But when Westerners think "Asian", they almost never think of South Asian (Indian subcontinent).

I disagree just slightly with that. The term Asians in Australia and NZ is applied directly to people from SEA, China etc. Never is it used like in the UK to describe people from the Sub Continent

 

[Asian_Flower]

True, although I DO have a sexual fascination with South Asian women. Not quite sure why, but they seem more exotic. I've lived in East Asia, so that seems less alluring.

I am really tired of how Japanese culture keeps getting fetishized, like what Quentin Tarantino did in Kill Bill...

SG

Yes, the Japanese have become stereotyped in that manner. The type of erotica they produce doesn't help things much either.

 

[KatieTay]

I disagree just slightly with that. The term Asians in Australia and NZ is applied directly to people from SEA, China etc. Never is it used like in the UK to describe people from the Sub Continent

Oh yes - you are right! Due to the colonial history and the immigration trends. Yes, "Westerners" was too broad for me to use that way.

Also, Australia (and maybe NZ) would also include Indonesians and Filipinos in their concept of "Asian"... I should've remembered that. Thanks.

 

[KatieTay]

Haha! The dilemma for a man with v-lines and hair.

But you're right... I am attracted to your body - simply put, you have what I like – and even though your mind is super fantastic, your body makes up the whole package for me. It's not PC to like someone for their shell, (but somehow having a 'fetish' is a more acceptable reason...lol), but a person who values kinesthetic intelligence and works towards it, forming their body through health and exercise, is more sexual attractive to me. Hair is the icing...lol.

Oh, it would be difficult for anyone to deny the link between physicality and sex.

I am sure many would agree with you that being healthy and willing to take care of one's own body makes for innate attractiveness.

 

[Porkwarrior]

Oh, it would be difficult for anyone to deny the link between physicality and sex.

I am sure many would agree with you that being healthy and willing to take care of one's own body makes for innate attractiveness.

I was never a fan of East Indian ladies, the few I hooked up with in my 20's were generally disappointing. Not to mention physically unappealing nude in bed, and in Canada there's a pretty large sub-continent demographic.
Until I was in a Krispy Kreme mesmerized by the assembly line of doughnuts, and over my shoulder I heard a woman mutter almost under her breath but just hair too loud, as she was looking as the icing cascade, "Wow, it looks like a porno movie"...turned out she was a Sikh almost born in Punjab that had been brought to Canada as a toddler.
She was also an avid jiu jitsu as well as liking the occasional round of boxing, probably the only chick I've slept with that could kick my ass (on a good day ).

She was a valuable lesson in teaching this young horny know it all stud in his early 20's not to judge or ethnofetishize. I also feel REALLY bad for her husband, I'm sure she's kicked his ass a few times, lol.

I do wonder about the guys that have "Yellow Fever" or chase leggy Russians how much time they've spent around them, I mean how much time they've spent playing mah jong or understanding the odd Russian stoicism before idolizing the 'doll' underneath them.

Meh I need to stop posting after the 1st half of a bottle of wine...just blurting it out there.

 

[mwf2ffan]

What would be considered the difference between having a fetish and having a fantasy? Would fetish mean that you can't get off unless you are with the fetish?

I do like redheads. I like latinas too. I also am fascinated by black girls with afros. On pale skinned girls, I like lots of freckles. I like curly hair a lot too. So an athletic, pale-skinned freckled natural redhead with long curly hair would be my kryptonite.

My favorite genre of erotic stories would be related to transformation stories. Those could never get fulfilled as it would be a woman capable of shapeshifting into multiple women while still being her. I think that is because I could still be faithful and have variety. I love it whenever I find a f2f (Female to Female transformation) story like that. One day, I will write a story of my own and may do research like this poll.

 

[Asian_Flower]

Oh, it would be difficult for anyone to deny the link between physicality and sex.

I am sure many would agree with you that being healthy and willing to take care of one's own body makes for innate attractiveness.

Oh I so agree, both my hubby and I are regular gym goers. Hubs has been into bodybuilding for more than 20 years and it shows. I absolutely love his bod and judging by the glances I see some women...and at times other guys....give him I know others do too! Makes me feel sooo lucky!

 

[Asian_Flower]

Oh yes - you are right! Due to the colonial history and the immigration trends. Yes, "Westerners" was too broad for me to use that way.

Also, Australia (and maybe NZ) would also include Indonesians and Filipinos in their concept of "Asian"... I should've remembered that. Thanks.

Oh definitely Katie, Malaysians, Thai, Koreans would all be lumped into the Asian Basket.

 

[CuMex1]

I have a huge fetish for women with a nice big round ass. It's been that way ever since I can remember. Even before puberty.

 

[RacyWilde]

What would be considered the difference between having a fetish and having a fantasy? Would fetish mean that you can't get off unless you are with the fetish?

I do like redheads. I like latinas too. I also am fascinated by black girls with afros. On pale skinned girls, I like lots of freckles. I like curly hair a lot too. So an athletic, pale-skinned freckled natural redhead with long curly hair would be my kryptonite.

My favorite genre of erotic stories would be related to transformation stories. Those could never get fulfilled as it would be a woman capable of shapeshifting into multiple women while still being her. I think that is because I could still be faithful and have variety. I love it whenever I find a f2f (Female to Female transformation) story like that. One day, I will write a story of my own and may do research like this poll.

A fetish is a discriminating/obsessive liking for something - a colour, an action (pegging) or a shape, size, body part, etc. A fantasy is usually just a story or an action. For example: If there were twins - one with red hair, one with brown - and you choose the red haired one because you like reds... that's not really a fetish, it's a preference. But, if you specifically seek out red heads... Click on red head posts and images on Lit only because the person is a red head (no matter if you like anything else about them or not - it's just the colour of their hair gets you off)... that's a fetish. And, of course, there are different degrees, and it is personalised - subjective.

 

[KatieTay]

http://reductress.com/post/i-married-a-man-because-i-was-so-impressed-that-he-could-say-ni-hao/

This is just too funny not to share.

 

[hornynhardm4f]

A social poll and meta discussion...

No one advertises for small, skinny, super fit/athletic girls because that might be politically incorrect…lol.

Damn... that pretty well sums up my perfect woman, throw in some soft skin and dark beautiful eyes. What more could a man want. It's the imagination that really drives your fetish, that unknown twist that sets your heart racing, the possibility.

We should all celebrate our fetishes, it what makes us, and if you can find partners that have the same desires live is so much better.