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Sensual Dominance.
Sensual Dominance.
This collection was requested by Veroe, and so I dedicate it in part to him, and of course to my dark angel, both of whom believed me when I said it was possible.
He wanted it to be a category for pictures where a power dynamic from a dominance and submission relationship was implied.
That it does not need to have chains and whips, leather corsets, or spanking...etc...It just needed the power exchange, the trust, the devotion between people.
It is my pleasure to grant his request.
I always begin my collections with some preamble; interesting tidbits, a poem or some fun anecdote. Today with be no different I shall merge my own thoughts with those of Precious Sub.
For many people, the term BDSM conjures up images of whips, chains and dungeons. Horror and torture stories abound of submissives and slaves being tied up, beaten and having unmentionable things done to them.
Dominants and Masters alike are painted as unfeeling sadists who only get enjoyment from forcing their partners to do things they themselves would never be caught dead doing.
While there is indeed a darker aspect to BDSM , and these are indeed the stories most often related to newcomers on the scene as well as to those outside of it...
There is a side of the lifestyle that is more sensual in nature.
It is of this side that our collection will be dedicated to…the more subtle nuances of our lifestyle.
[/CENTER]Let me say up front that I intend no disrespect at all towards those who participate in the activities I mentioned above. It takes a lot of courage to admit that you need to have these things done in order to be fulfilled in your life, and even more to seek out someone who can help you meet those needs. However, there are those of us in the scene that chooses a different approach to Dominance and submission. It meets our needs and fulfills us the same as the more physical aspects does that of others.
Firstly, let me interject something that I learned early in my venture into the BDSM way of life. There are different categories of Dom's and subs, Masters and slaves. One is neither better/worse, lower/higher, nor less/more than the other. They are merely various facets of the varied way we all choose to live our lives.
The first category, has to do with the Master/slave, or extreme physical end of the spectrum. In this relationship, the slave gives up all rights and privacy except for the privileges given by the Master. The relationship itself often tends to be much more physical in nature, slaves usually claiming to have "no limits" and submitting to whatever the Master deems appropriate, often including servicing other people, humiliation play, role-play, physical torture, emotional deprivation, and asking permission to attend to personal needs. Such slaves may have a specific place to sleep, often on the floor or in a space designated for them, up to and including a cage. They may only be permitted to eat out of dishes placed on the floor. Their privacy and time alone is severely restricted and much of their time is plotted out for them as far as chores, duties, and assignments. It is very physically and emotionally intense, though it supplies gratification in itself for those who need this type of direction in their lives. I have heard more than one slave relate that without the structure provided by such a Master, their lives would be haphazard and unorganized at best.
The second category, includes those in the Master/slave portion of the lifestyle who participate in the heavier physical aspects to a lesser extent than those mentioned before, as well as many Dominants and submissives. Their participation may range from full-time to bedroom only; the slaves or subs may or may not hold an outside job; many times there are children involved in these relationships that perhaps prevent, for a time, the partners from being as deeply integrated into the lifestyle as they might wish. There are others, however, who do not desire to Dominate or submit to the level of the extremely physical, may simply desire physical play, but not humiliation; scening, but not public display; the possibilities and combinations are endless and finite. Again, the participants in this category seek a relationship within the scope of BDSM that fills their own individual needs.
The third category,encompasses the sensual realms of Dominance and Submission. While there is much sensuality involved in BDSM in and of itself, for many the focus is not on this sensuality as an end. The sensual aspects of the varied toys and utensils utilized by the D/s community are often overlooked.
The sensual realm of BDSM is an intense one. It may not appear to be so at first glance, but looking deeper into it will give the seeker many things to consider. Even the strictest Master/Mistress will tell you that until the slave's mind is under control, the slave is not truly theirs. It is possible to submit in body while being rebellious in the mind, but that attitude will eventually out itself in one way or another. The giving of the will is perhaps the hardest thing a submissive will ever do. Once it is fully yielded, the body will follow suit out of willing obedience and a true desire to serve. This form of submitting comes easier to some than to others. It has been theorized that there are natural-born subs. These types of people spend their lives serving others, often at the expense of their own interests or desires. They frequently enter a profession that involves serving or helping others. whether it be as a nurse, or an attorney. They are most satisfied when they succeed in fulfilling another's dream or wish.
In contrast to the slave who must be trained in this arena, the natural-born slave lives to serve. They easily pick up on their Master's preferences and memorize them, taking care to almost anticipate needs before they arise. They thrive on praise instead of discipline. In fact, they may require very little in the way of corrective measures due to their intuitive natures.
As a sensual submissive/dominant, my motivation is the pleasure of the one I am bonded unto, for example, my dark Angel. I bear in mind at all times that my attitude and behavior is a reflection of our combined relationship and that it affects his reputation in the lifestyle as well as my own. I would not consciously attempt to conduct myself in such a manner that would bring dishonor to either one of us. To know that I have disappointed him would be more of a punishment to me than any whipping could ever bring. Consequently, I have few rules or constraints. He is confident that I will behave in a way that will please him and I feel the same way about him.
D/s relationships that are primarily sensual in nature differ in several ways from the more physical ones. Perhaps the most obvious difference is reflected in the toy collection of the sensual Dominant. There are no torture implements, and the toys that are owned are utilized in ways that might not seem like D/s at all to the casual observer, or even to some in the lifestyle itself. Floggers are not used to bring pain here. The intent is to tenderize the skin, making it sensitive to touch and other stimulus. Our toys are mostly made of softer material, and the techniques used are more along the lines of a caress or stroke along the skin rather than an overhand or sidearm motion.
Much can be accomplished by requiring the submissive to lie still with closed eyes as a deerskin flogger is drawn in feather-gentle motions along the outlines of one’s body. The anticipation factor is tremendous. Rabbit-fur mitts are a favorite with sensual's, as are simple things like silk scarves (not only for tying down), feather dusters, and different textures of fabric.
The body of the lucky submissive who has become accustomed to this kind of play becomes a like a large nerve ending. *shudders happily at the very thought* The smallest touch can create unexpected reactions.
A simple breath across one's neck brings some to the verge of climax without ever being physically stimulated. A word or a phrase can trigger a blessed orgasm.
I know this first hand, *blushes*
While extending the capabilities, and abilities, of the submissive is often part of the goal of a Dom/sub or Master/slave relationship, the sensually oriented Dominant seeks to do this through a different avenue than those more geared to the physical aspect. Endurance is built by taking the sub to higher and higher levels of pleasure; however, in contrast to denying the sub permission to orgasm, the Dom frequently seeks to heighten them for their partner by slowly building the sensations in intensity and backing down just as the sub reaches the verge of climaxing. They seek to find new and different ways to bring their subs to this point through the use of sensual touch, massage, sounds, and anything else they can come up with to assist the submissive to reach that higher plane.
While some Masters and Dominants train their slaves with many of the same techniques for each successive one, the goal of the sensual Dominant is to bring their submissive to the highest level that sub can reach as an individual. Consequently, the training is more tailored to the personality of a specific submissive. Care is taken to consider the sub's past experiences and fears when engaging in new forms of play. The pace may seem very slow as the Dominant seeks to build a base of trust and confidence with the new partner before attempting to breach any lines of inhibition. Encouragement and praise is often given to reward the sub for progress in these areas.
Physical punishment has little place in the sensual aspect of the lifestyle. The very nature of the parties involved leans toward less intense forms of discipline. For the sensual sub, a few words conveying the disappointment of the Dominant in their behavior or conduct is enough to bring the desired change.
The types of submissive's who engage in this kind of relationship are usually highly sensitive to pleasing their Dominant. The knowledge that they have erred is often sufficient stimulus in itself to make a change for the better.
As a sensual submissive, the smile on my Dominant's face is the best reward I could ever hope for. Knowing that he is proud of me, and that I am growing in a way that pleases him, gives me the confidence I need to strive to become even better at bringing him that pleasure
I am learning daily to let go of the fears and inhibitions of my past and this is one of the most difficult things I have to work on daily. Knowing that my Dominant / Symbiotic other in my case, loves me and that my safety and happiness is his utmost concern at all-times allows me to relax. Rider and I discussed our limits and more importantly why we had them; what aspects of our pasts that might pose difficulties in our new relationship; and where our weaknesses and strengths were. Opening up completely was paramount it helped us both establish a trust that continues to grow to this very day.
My goal in writing this rather long missive *blushes again * has been multifaceted.
First and foremost, I simply needed to share how I feel about this lifestyle I have chosen to live. I find it very fulfilling,
It has taught me much about myself and others as well as explaining yearnings and desires I had hidden deep inside myself for a long time.
Secondly, I have on occasion been the brunt of criticism and condemnation especially here on Lit because I prefer the more sensual aspects of BDSM and in fact my small romantic writing endeavors.
Yet to my mind it is simply not the action that makes one a Dominant, nor is it serving that makes one a submissive.
The Dominant trait is inherent, as is the submissive one. Rider and I are truly blessed that we can flow from one state to another truly becoming what is needed by one another.
It is the attitude is what matters, not how we choose to live it out.
Lastly, I really wanted to give those who have felt that they had submissive, or perhaps even Dominant, tendencies, people like Veroe, who were not into the heavier forms of play, encouragement that there is indeed a place in the lifestyle for them.
One does not have to be into the deeply physical portions of the lifestyle to be a Dominant or a submissive.
It is whatever works for the individuals involved that matters no matter who might tell you otherwise… this is an absolute truth.
BDSM is a way of life...not a set of rules.
Tolerance is crucial, as is concern for the emotional and physical safety of all involved.
Continuously seeking to expand knowledge and understanding should be the goal of all participants.
While I am essentially a sensual submissive who is symbiotically inclined with the right partner nevertheless I have the greatest respect and honor for those who choose to live the other side of the lifestyle.
Please enjoy the upcoming collection for it is very dear to my heart…
Thank you Veroe for requesting I host it here in Bliss
.
Sensual Dominance.
This collection was requested by Veroe, and so I dedicate it in part to him, and of course to my dark angel, both of whom believed me when I said it was possible.
He wanted it to be a category for pictures where a power dynamic from a dominance and submission relationship was implied.
That it does not need to have chains and whips, leather corsets, or spanking...etc...It just needed the power exchange, the trust, the devotion between people.
It is my pleasure to grant his request.
I always begin my collections with some preamble; interesting tidbits, a poem or some fun anecdote. Today with be no different I shall merge my own thoughts with those of Precious Sub.
For many people, the term BDSM conjures up images of whips, chains and dungeons. Horror and torture stories abound of submissives and slaves being tied up, beaten and having unmentionable things done to them.
Dominants and Masters alike are painted as unfeeling sadists who only get enjoyment from forcing their partners to do things they themselves would never be caught dead doing.
While there is indeed a darker aspect to BDSM , and these are indeed the stories most often related to newcomers on the scene as well as to those outside of it...
There is a side of the lifestyle that is more sensual in nature.
It is of this side that our collection will be dedicated to…the more subtle nuances of our lifestyle.
[/CENTER]Let me say up front that I intend no disrespect at all towards those who participate in the activities I mentioned above. It takes a lot of courage to admit that you need to have these things done in order to be fulfilled in your life, and even more to seek out someone who can help you meet those needs. However, there are those of us in the scene that chooses a different approach to Dominance and submission. It meets our needs and fulfills us the same as the more physical aspects does that of others.
Firstly, let me interject something that I learned early in my venture into the BDSM way of life. There are different categories of Dom's and subs, Masters and slaves. One is neither better/worse, lower/higher, nor less/more than the other. They are merely various facets of the varied way we all choose to live our lives.
The first category, has to do with the Master/slave, or extreme physical end of the spectrum. In this relationship, the slave gives up all rights and privacy except for the privileges given by the Master. The relationship itself often tends to be much more physical in nature, slaves usually claiming to have "no limits" and submitting to whatever the Master deems appropriate, often including servicing other people, humiliation play, role-play, physical torture, emotional deprivation, and asking permission to attend to personal needs. Such slaves may have a specific place to sleep, often on the floor or in a space designated for them, up to and including a cage. They may only be permitted to eat out of dishes placed on the floor. Their privacy and time alone is severely restricted and much of their time is plotted out for them as far as chores, duties, and assignments. It is very physically and emotionally intense, though it supplies gratification in itself for those who need this type of direction in their lives. I have heard more than one slave relate that without the structure provided by such a Master, their lives would be haphazard and unorganized at best.
The second category, includes those in the Master/slave portion of the lifestyle who participate in the heavier physical aspects to a lesser extent than those mentioned before, as well as many Dominants and submissives. Their participation may range from full-time to bedroom only; the slaves or subs may or may not hold an outside job; many times there are children involved in these relationships that perhaps prevent, for a time, the partners from being as deeply integrated into the lifestyle as they might wish. There are others, however, who do not desire to Dominate or submit to the level of the extremely physical, may simply desire physical play, but not humiliation; scening, but not public display; the possibilities and combinations are endless and finite. Again, the participants in this category seek a relationship within the scope of BDSM that fills their own individual needs.
The third category,encompasses the sensual realms of Dominance and Submission. While there is much sensuality involved in BDSM in and of itself, for many the focus is not on this sensuality as an end. The sensual aspects of the varied toys and utensils utilized by the D/s community are often overlooked.
It the sensual realms of Dominance and Submission that I wish to address in this my new collection.
For is the cornerstone of who I am and I guess it will come as no surprise to most that although I may have started my submissive life with a Sadist this is the area that fulfills me.
It completes me the most on so very many levels and the one which I most identify with.
Again, let me stress that belonging to one or another of these sectors of the lifestyle we have chosen does not define one as more or less committed, deeper or shallower, more or less serious than any other.
Every person has needs; some are more physically oriented than others, some requiring an intense stimulus to achieve a level of satisfaction that another may achieve with the merest whisper.
]I am not attempting to judge or place labels on anyone.
It has been suggested that those into the erotic and sensual aspects of the lifestyle are not true Dominants or submissives.
That belief is to my mind is erroneous at best.
The Dominant nature is an inherent trait, as is the submissive's need to serve.
We are born that way. It is not something we wake up and decide to do one day out of the blue.
The tendencies are there from the very beginning.
BDSM is not exclusively sadomasochism, though SM is often incorporated into the lifestyle.
Perhaps that is where part of the misunderstanding begins.
The pictures we see of whips, crops and floggers being used for punishment and torture have tinged our minds so that we have come to see the terms as synonymous.
In fact, they are not.
Dominance and submission begins and ends, for all practical purposes, in the mind.
The physical acts follow the conscious determination to yield or wield the power we have over ourselves
For is the cornerstone of who I am and I guess it will come as no surprise to most that although I may have started my submissive life with a Sadist this is the area that fulfills me.
It completes me the most on so very many levels and the one which I most identify with.
Again, let me stress that belonging to one or another of these sectors of the lifestyle we have chosen does not define one as more or less committed, deeper or shallower, more or less serious than any other.
Every person has needs; some are more physically oriented than others, some requiring an intense stimulus to achieve a level of satisfaction that another may achieve with the merest whisper.
]I am not attempting to judge or place labels on anyone.
It has been suggested that those into the erotic and sensual aspects of the lifestyle are not true Dominants or submissives.
That belief is to my mind is erroneous at best.
The Dominant nature is an inherent trait, as is the submissive's need to serve.
We are born that way. It is not something we wake up and decide to do one day out of the blue.
The tendencies are there from the very beginning.
BDSM is not exclusively sadomasochism, though SM is often incorporated into the lifestyle.
Perhaps that is where part of the misunderstanding begins.
The pictures we see of whips, crops and floggers being used for punishment and torture have tinged our minds so that we have come to see the terms as synonymous.
In fact, they are not.
Dominance and submission begins and ends, for all practical purposes, in the mind.
The physical acts follow the conscious determination to yield or wield the power we have over ourselves
The sensual realm of BDSM is an intense one. It may not appear to be so at first glance, but looking deeper into it will give the seeker many things to consider. Even the strictest Master/Mistress will tell you that until the slave's mind is under control, the slave is not truly theirs. It is possible to submit in body while being rebellious in the mind, but that attitude will eventually out itself in one way or another. The giving of the will is perhaps the hardest thing a submissive will ever do. Once it is fully yielded, the body will follow suit out of willing obedience and a true desire to serve. This form of submitting comes easier to some than to others. It has been theorized that there are natural-born subs. These types of people spend their lives serving others, often at the expense of their own interests or desires. They frequently enter a profession that involves serving or helping others. whether it be as a nurse, or an attorney. They are most satisfied when they succeed in fulfilling another's dream or wish.
In contrast to the slave who must be trained in this arena, the natural-born slave lives to serve. They easily pick up on their Master's preferences and memorize them, taking care to almost anticipate needs before they arise. They thrive on praise instead of discipline. In fact, they may require very little in the way of corrective measures due to their intuitive natures.
As a sensual submissive/dominant, my motivation is the pleasure of the one I am bonded unto, for example, my dark Angel. I bear in mind at all times that my attitude and behavior is a reflection of our combined relationship and that it affects his reputation in the lifestyle as well as my own. I would not consciously attempt to conduct myself in such a manner that would bring dishonor to either one of us. To know that I have disappointed him would be more of a punishment to me than any whipping could ever bring. Consequently, I have few rules or constraints. He is confident that I will behave in a way that will please him and I feel the same way about him.
D/s relationships that are primarily sensual in nature differ in several ways from the more physical ones. Perhaps the most obvious difference is reflected in the toy collection of the sensual Dominant. There are no torture implements, and the toys that are owned are utilized in ways that might not seem like D/s at all to the casual observer, or even to some in the lifestyle itself. Floggers are not used to bring pain here. The intent is to tenderize the skin, making it sensitive to touch and other stimulus. Our toys are mostly made of softer material, and the techniques used are more along the lines of a caress or stroke along the skin rather than an overhand or sidearm motion.
Much can be accomplished by requiring the submissive to lie still with closed eyes as a deerskin flogger is drawn in feather-gentle motions along the outlines of one’s body. The anticipation factor is tremendous. Rabbit-fur mitts are a favorite with sensual's, as are simple things like silk scarves (not only for tying down), feather dusters, and different textures of fabric.
The body of the lucky submissive who has become accustomed to this kind of play becomes a like a large nerve ending. *shudders happily at the very thought* The smallest touch can create unexpected reactions.
A simple breath across one's neck brings some to the verge of climax without ever being physically stimulated. A word or a phrase can trigger a blessed orgasm.
I know this first hand, *blushes*
While extending the capabilities, and abilities, of the submissive is often part of the goal of a Dom/sub or Master/slave relationship, the sensually oriented Dominant seeks to do this through a different avenue than those more geared to the physical aspect. Endurance is built by taking the sub to higher and higher levels of pleasure; however, in contrast to denying the sub permission to orgasm, the Dom frequently seeks to heighten them for their partner by slowly building the sensations in intensity and backing down just as the sub reaches the verge of climaxing. They seek to find new and different ways to bring their subs to this point through the use of sensual touch, massage, sounds, and anything else they can come up with to assist the submissive to reach that higher plane.
While some Masters and Dominants train their slaves with many of the same techniques for each successive one, the goal of the sensual Dominant is to bring their submissive to the highest level that sub can reach as an individual. Consequently, the training is more tailored to the personality of a specific submissive. Care is taken to consider the sub's past experiences and fears when engaging in new forms of play. The pace may seem very slow as the Dominant seeks to build a base of trust and confidence with the new partner before attempting to breach any lines of inhibition. Encouragement and praise is often given to reward the sub for progress in these areas.
Physical punishment has little place in the sensual aspect of the lifestyle. The very nature of the parties involved leans toward less intense forms of discipline. For the sensual sub, a few words conveying the disappointment of the Dominant in their behavior or conduct is enough to bring the desired change.
The types of submissive's who engage in this kind of relationship are usually highly sensitive to pleasing their Dominant. The knowledge that they have erred is often sufficient stimulus in itself to make a change for the better.
As a sensual submissive, the smile on my Dominant's face is the best reward I could ever hope for. Knowing that he is proud of me, and that I am growing in a way that pleases him, gives me the confidence I need to strive to become even better at bringing him that pleasure
I am learning daily to let go of the fears and inhibitions of my past and this is one of the most difficult things I have to work on daily. Knowing that my Dominant / Symbiotic other in my case, loves me and that my safety and happiness is his utmost concern at all-times allows me to relax. Rider and I discussed our limits and more importantly why we had them; what aspects of our pasts that might pose difficulties in our new relationship; and where our weaknesses and strengths were. Opening up completely was paramount it helped us both establish a trust that continues to grow to this very day.
My goal in writing this rather long missive *blushes again * has been multifaceted.
First and foremost, I simply needed to share how I feel about this lifestyle I have chosen to live. I find it very fulfilling,
It has taught me much about myself and others as well as explaining yearnings and desires I had hidden deep inside myself for a long time.
Secondly, I have on occasion been the brunt of criticism and condemnation especially here on Lit because I prefer the more sensual aspects of BDSM and in fact my small romantic writing endeavors.
Yet to my mind it is simply not the action that makes one a Dominant, nor is it serving that makes one a submissive.
The Dominant trait is inherent, as is the submissive one. Rider and I are truly blessed that we can flow from one state to another truly becoming what is needed by one another.
It is the attitude is what matters, not how we choose to live it out.
Lastly, I really wanted to give those who have felt that they had submissive, or perhaps even Dominant, tendencies, people like Veroe, who were not into the heavier forms of play, encouragement that there is indeed a place in the lifestyle for them.
One does not have to be into the deeply physical portions of the lifestyle to be a Dominant or a submissive.
It is whatever works for the individuals involved that matters no matter who might tell you otherwise… this is an absolute truth.
BDSM is a way of life...not a set of rules.
Tolerance is crucial, as is concern for the emotional and physical safety of all involved.
Continuously seeking to expand knowledge and understanding should be the goal of all participants.
While I am essentially a sensual submissive who is symbiotically inclined with the right partner nevertheless I have the greatest respect and honor for those who choose to live the other side of the lifestyle.
Please enjoy the upcoming collection for it is very dear to my heart…
Thank you Veroe for requesting I host it here in Bliss
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