Can you help me make him cum?

[IsItBad]

some ideas

Hey guys,

I just can't seem to get my bf to cum with my mouth. I have made him cum with my hand and also during sex. And before you say that the problem may not be me, it is me. Other girls have made him cum from bj so it's all down to me IMO. It's really starting to affect my confidence which is actually quite low anyway.

My mouth is very small I feel and I can't fit a lot of him in. A lot of the time he lies there so quiet and I wonder if it feels good, I also can't help feeling that he's bored when I'm down there. I'll be honest and say that this is actually making me not want to do it even though I really want to make him cum with my mouth so bad.

We have talked about it and he says I slow down too much and he gets frustrated. The other night I was licking him and stopped for a second and he got frustrated and annoyed at me and then pushed me away when I tried to go back down there. It wasn't the fact that he got mad that hurt me, it was the fact that he pushed me away.

I love him with all my heart but this is really getting me down. I need some tips on how to get him to cum and how to stop myself being so scared to go down on him again after what happened. I know there are a million and one threads on oral sex but I felt like I needed to start my own.

Help.

to me the #1 thing is.....does she want to do it? is it turning her on? does she crave my cock? things like that. i do not want a girl to blow me because she knows that's what i want. if she doesn't want it or enjoy it.....i don't want her to do it. so .....#1 is.....are you really wanting to do it? does it turn you on? are you getting wet from doing it?

#2 is .....get the guy to find some porn videos of his ideal blowjob......watch it with him.....get him to tell you what it is about it that is so good to him.....and then watch it and practice it......

#3.....don't even attempt it until he is already totally torn up.....strip for him.....masturbate for him....whatever the things are you know turn him on...have him already oozing precum before you ever put your mouth on him.....your odds of success will be much higher.......

so....those are a few ideas that may can help......

good luck!

 

[ICM8781]

It's really starting to affect my confidence which is actually quite low anyway.

Well, your confidence may just be your problem. Sex in general is a passionate, natural activity. It shouldn't take too much thought, just practice. If you've been trying for two years and haven't improved, it may just be that you're trying too hard.

I can't really help you with your confidence. Sometimes this problem can last your entire life, and while it doesn't sound quality of life affecting, talking with a professional therapist is really the only thing to help that problem.

My only suggestion is to try not to think about it so hard. Your brain knows what to do as long as your brain doesn't get in the way... if that makes any sense.

We have talked about it and he says I slow down too much and he gets frustrated. The other night I was licking him and stopped for a second and he got frustrated and annoyed at me and then pushed me away when I tried to go back down there.

He obviously wants it as much as you do. Ask him to help you out. Ask him to grab your hair/head and guide the motions. Him getting involved will actually help him get excited, and it might help you know better what he likes.

 

[Gelista]

Jeez, the guy in the OP sounded like such a dick. Glad they broke up

 

[Snowbunnie12]

Have fun with it and if he’s complaining about getting a blow job he’s out of his mind lol! Not sure your lifestyle etc or level of kink but lie in the bed on your back with your head to the edge, let your head lean back it will open your throat. Have him enter your mouth... I believe the term is more throat fucking than a bj lol. Does this a few times and is always very well received by a partner. You will gag your eyes will water but he will live you for it

 

[Sugarwolf]

so many interesting replies....well heres my 2 cents so forgive me...

my wife cant deepthroat...horrid horrid gag reflex. BUT... for the amount she can take in her mouth, the amount of time she spends just licking all over pretty much from ass to tip. ive had my share before i met my wife and the flip side is im only her second man. she felt similar at first, not so much with mouth size but gag reflex. amounted to the same thing, couldnt get me off which frustrated her more which led to greater stress about it which led to....viscious circle. within the first few week together i took her to bed and started at square one....the big thing was communication. second was patience. after that it was trial and error and encouragement. never crossed my mind to EVER push her away. she now gives head in a variety of positions, sometimes uses her hands, she has all the control on how quick she gets me off now....its fucking wonderful! and no, she still cant deepthroat but thats not what its about. pardon my bluntness, but your boyfriend sounds like an ass for his treatment of you for something that should be greatly pleasurable. hes got to be understanding and patient and willing to work within your capability. and for the nickle, vice versa follows the same rules. i may have gone down on a number of women, but each one liked things a different way. my first time with my wife, while teasingly licking her, i told her to guide me to what she likes and wants. and its not the same way every time either, for either of us. back to communication in that after 22yrs together we still tell each other what we want, when, how, and if it changes midstride from wanting slow, or hard, soft, fast, more or less saliva...just everything about it.

 

[JenniferSimms]

I'm sure someone has already said this, but it works just about every time. After you get him good and hard concentrate on his knob with your lips and tongue while stroking him with your hand. In particular, flick your tongue back and forth across his glans (just under his knob on the bottom side). It is the most sensitive part. You can also slide a hand under his scrotum and rub. Just keep at it and he will be gusing in no time.