Catheters

[Kailey_86]

Again, i understand that you are worried about my safety and again, i AM being safe. i'm telling you, i really am. Believe me, there is no list. It sounds like i should be following a recipe or schedule when it comes to my lifestyle. i must have missed that meeting, or was there a memo? It sounds like i'm not doing it right.

The truth is, there IS no right way to do this. If J and i are happy and are taking the precautions needed, why is our pace and what we do such a big deal? We really haven't done anything that is all that risky anyway. We're not playing with knives or electricity or anything like that. The riskiest thing we've done is flogging probably. Otherwise we are dealing with diapers, vibes, spanking, light bondage, etc. i don't understand why everyone thinks that i'm not being safe. i am. Also, even if i AM going down a list (which, i swear, i'm not), who cares? Why would that be such a big deal?

Yes, it might be unusual that J and i are sharing and combining kinks but just because it's unusual, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. If we are happy in doing this, that's all that matters. It's not like we can get hurt doing these things. AB/DL and puppy play are very different in the outward appearance but they make us both feel the same emotionally. He enjoys taking care of me in those roles and i like the lack of control i have.

Yes, 6 months is a short time but a lot can happen in 6 months. i had A LOT of time on my hands for about 3 of that 6 months since i wasn't going to school or work. i read and read about all sorts of things BDSM. i talked to many many people about it. i know that this is much different then experiencing......so that's what i'm doing now.

i know what i'm doing. i did all my homework on procedure and safety. We have safewords in place. We take things slowly when we are starting something new. We talk about it before, during, and after the experience to make sure we're on the same page. What more can we do to make things safe? Honestly, i think we are safer than a lot of people out there.

This is the happiest i've ever been in my short life. Something has to be right about this. As long as i am being safe and i'm not seriously hurting anyone, i don't see why i can't do what makes me happy. If that means going through a checklist (which, again, i'm not), so be it. If that means quitting my job, school, and moving out of my mom's house, so be it. If that means combining kinks, so be it. i'm happy. J is happy. Everyone around me is happy. Life is good.

 

[Netzach]

Kailey, I'm not making any value judgements about your timeline or anything.

I just really hope you are listening to what I posted and my rationale behind it.

Good luck.

 

[Kailey_86]

Kailey, I'm not making any value judgements about your timeline or anything.

I just really hope you are listening to what I posted and my rationale behind it.

Good luck.

Thank you. i am definatly listening to what you said and i understand your rationale. i was looking for this kind of advice. i'm not going to be using a catheter after reading what people have said about it here.

 

[Wetdl]

Just one question

Sorry for the noob question, the above info is noted and taken to heart.
Just one question, would you also stress the same warning for a male?

I'll never have the opportunity for training.

Thanks

 

[Shankara20]

Sorry for the noob question, the above info is noted and taken to heart.
Just one question, would you also stress the same warning for a male?

I'll never have the opportunity for training.

Thanks

Welcome - if you are asking about the risks of insertion into the bladder, I would say yes - I do a lot of insertion play with my male-equipment and take great care to reduce the risks of infection and damage.

Do you have an interest in insertion play?

 

[shy slave]

Sorry for the noob question, the above info is noted and taken to heart.
Just one question, would you also stress the same warning for a male?

I'll never have the opportunity for training.

Thanks

When I was a nurse I was allowed to catheterise men (after a brief course on 'how to' run by District nurses) but not women.

Only qualified nurse who had had specific and additonal traing could catheterise women.

It is more straight forward to catheterise a man,
but it still carries a high degree of infection and risk of damage to various tubes and bladder.

 

[Scarlet_Lady]

Dear Kailey

I noticed you have recieved your share of warning and also information on the subject so I would only like to share two thoughts with you.

1. I am not a medical professional yet - but soon to be - and as such would not advise anyone to play around with catheterisation either. The health risks associated with a tiny bit of a wrong angle, too much pressure, or simply the phone going off or a the bell ringing and startling someone who is not experienced and professionally instructed are simply not worth it in my opinion. I know that the rules and practice differ from country to country, for instance in mine, only doctors are allowed to perform catheterisation regardless of the patients gender. Limitations are there for a good reason.

2. I think the fact that you started the thread and asked about the matter shows a desire to make well-informed decisions. I also think the attention the other posters are paying you is very touching and an experssion of the fact that you are important to many people who care about you. That includes happiness as much as safety in my opinion. I am sure you know that they worry because they like you. In many regards the site sometimes reminds me of a family. You can tell a family member not to worry all you want, there is no point in it really. And the same is true for caring friends in my opinion.

I think you are a very fortunate person and wish you much happiness for your future

 

[Etoile]

It's been about six weeks since Kailey posted here or anywhere else...I wonder how things are going for her.

 

[Wetdl]

Thanks for the info

Thanks for the info, I read the original post and it seemed to make it clear it might not be a good idea. But I also had read it was for riskier for females, (as was the original topic) I was hoping for a consensus of "OK for a male, if absolute care was used to prevent infection".
You don't always get what you want, its not worth a trip to the ER.

I'm really not into insertion play, just a diaper lover. That explains the desire for a cath. I have always been interested in them but saw some (straight cath not foley) at a rummage sale and grabbed them (with lube). I found instructions on the net, but continued to research and found this post. Never doubt the value of a forum such as this.

I'm married and this is just not the thing to bring to her, maybe someday.
Thanks again.

 

[Shankara20]

Thanks for the info, I read the original post and it seemed to make it clear it might not be a good idea. But I also had read it was for riskier for females, (as was the original topic) I was hoping for a consensus of "OK for a male, if absolute care was used to prevent infection".
You don't always get what you want, its not worth a trip to the ER.

I'm really not into insertion play, just a diaper lover. That explains the desire for a cath. I have always been interested in them but saw some (straight cath not foley) at a rummage sale and grabbed them (with lube). I found instructions on the net, but continued to research and found this post. Never doubt the value of a forum such as this.

I'm married and this is just not the thing to bring to her, maybe someday.
Thanks again.

Your welcome, and I applaud you for doing your research before making an error. Smart guy, choosing to play it safe.

Shank