Change in vagina due to menopause?

[Crios]

Yeah pH balance does change. I know that for me it's changed in the way my breast smell when I sweat. I do shower everyday though which helps. I can't see myself going without a shower everyday. If your wife is interested maybe she should visit A GYN who is compassionate and empathetic and can help her through this. There's a lot of other things that are in this like somebody else stated going through menopause is not easy. It does affect self-esteem big time and it messes with chemical imbalances in the brain
The depression I have experienced alone along with the hot flashes have been awful. However what works for me is marijuana. And also I take equelle. Maybe sit with your wife and remember why you married her. Remember how she does turn you on and tell her that. Ask her how she's been feeling. Sometimes that helps too.

Thanks!
We do still have lots of fun in bed although her libido has dropped so that we're down to once a week. Throughout our marriage, when we're playing in bed, I've always taken time to touch her, kiss her and wrap her up in big hugs so she knows I love her and find her attractive. I'm 68 and she's 64 so bedroom acrobatics are pretty much limited!

She's worked with her internal medicine doc and her ob-gyn to address the issues but she's really thinking that this is a normal part of aging.

Love her to pieces!

 

[Wanderg]

I haven’t noticed any change in my wife’s menopausal vagina other than she doesn’t get as wet as before. She sees a great gyno. I’ve been to her office before and seen the sex toys she has for sale and my wife buys her lube from her.

I’m conscious that she doesn’t get as wet anymore and take my time to warm her up. Sometimes she’ll grab the lube and other times she’s wet enough for me to get her off with my fingers. She always lubricates enough right before orgasm for me to penetrate.

The biggest change I’ve noticed is that I don’t think she masturbates anymore. Maybe only a couple times a year. She told me she has a gyno appointment in a couple of months and I’m going to suggest she picks out a toy.

 

[LMWM321]

If a GYN told me that I was getting to that age where sex is more trouble than it was worth the GYN would be fired. I would never come back to them. Sex is important and it doesn't have to end no matter what age you are. My great grandparents f***** till they were dead I mean for real. There were ways to become lubricated. They have lubrications you can use. I mean I know that I have to lubricate a little more now that I'm perimenopausal. But I still figure out ways to enjoy my sex life with my husband.

If I had to guess about my wife's OBGYN who said that...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think for a woman to enjoy sex with a given partner AFTER menopause she would have had to thoroughly enjoyed sex with that partner BEFORE menopause. ..And sadly, that often isn't the case. There are a lot of women who are in highly dysfunctional marriages where having sex is something she begrudgingly does to appease an asshole husband - it's an obligation rather than a shared joy. In those cases, it would be hard to imagine all the new physical and emotional challenges of menopause being worth overcoming. Indeed, it may be the point at which the woman says, "enough! ..I'm done with sex!" That's my guess about the first doc she saw. Of course, that doesn't explain, or excuse, a doctor projecting her own unhappiness regarding sex onto a patient seeking help.

 

[PSO77]

If I had to guess about my wife's OBGYN who said that...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think for a woman to enjoy sex with a given partner AFTER menopause she would have had to thoroughly enjoyed sex with that partner BEFORE menopause. ..And sadly, that often isn't the case. There are a lot of women who are in highly dysfunctional marriages where sex is something she begrudgingly does to appease an asshole husband - it's an obligation rather than a shared joy. In those cases, it would be hard to imagine all the new physical and emotional challenges of menopause being worth overcoming. Indeed, it may be the point at which the woman says, "enough! ..I'm done with sex!" That's my guess about the first doc she saw. Of course, that doesn't explain, or excuse, a doctor projecting her own unhappiness regarding sex onto a patient seeking help.

This is very true. I have been in that situation.

 

[Beachsyrf]

I saw the topic and wanted to weigh-in …… my gf was going through menopause when we met; hot flashes, mood swings, sleeplessness …. but as we’d just met, we were having a lot of sex. In fact, when we first met, she was having quite a bit of sex with various people! LOL!

Anyway, that was 15 years ago and she is well past those symptoms. And age and our time together have not negatively impacted our sex life or her anatomy other than she does need me to go a lot slower and easier upon penetration; unless we’ve had lots of foreplay first. Especially if I ask her to suck my cock a little longer and encourage her while she’s doing so. Then she gets super wet and always stops what she’s doing and almost begs me to fuck her!

God, I love her!

 

[PSO77]

That is hot as hell! I love sucking off my husband. It makes me feel powerful in a way because I always know he's going to c** in my mouth and I will swallow. Anyway, he becomes dominant when he wants me to go down on him after we are making out for a while and it's a soft kind of dominant that turns me on. And then he tells me what he wants from me and he tells me to suck his cock and how he likes it and then he tells me I'm a good girl etc. It's pretty f****** hot and when he comes it goes down my throat. Sucking my husband's cock is one of my all-time favorites!

 

[Beachsyrf]

“I love sucking off my husband. ……. he tells me what he wants from me and he tells me to suck his cock and how he likes it and then he tells me I'm a good girl etc.

Love this! I do the same thing; I praise her and tell her how good it feels and how good she is at sucking cock, how she seems to have gotten better since we met. Sometimes I’ll tease her and ask her if she’s been “practicing” on other men or tell her much men love it when a woman sucks their cock.

I may tell her how naughty she is for sucking off other men but how I actually appreciate it because she’s become so damn good at it. I’ll suggest she try different techniques like licking around the head or sticking her tongue out as it slides in. And not to forget to gently squeeze or tug on the balls ….

It's pretty f****** hot and when he comes it goes down my throat. Sucking my husband's cock is one of my all-time favorites!

Actually, the last time we did this I asked her if she would let me come in her mouth and though she was really enjoying giving me head, she was adamant that this wasn’t ever going to happen. I teased her that I knew she has swallowed other guys’ cum (which she admits, and really turns me on!) but that she isn’t going to do it again ….. we’ll see. It’s nice having goals in life …..

 

[PSO77]

Love this! I do the same thing; I praise her and tell her how good it feels and how good she is at sucking cock, how she seems to have gotten better since we met. Sometimes I’ll tease her and ask her if she’s been “practicing” on other men or tell her much men love it when a woman sucks their cock.

I may tell her how naughty she is for sucking off other men but how I actually appreciate it because she’s become so damn good at it. I’ll suggest she try different techniques like licking around the head or sticking her tongue out as it slides in. And not to forget to gently squeeze or tug on the balls ….



Actually, the last time we did this I asked her if she would let me come in her mouth and though she was really enjoying giving me head, she was adamant that this wasn’t ever going to happen. I teased her that I knew she has swallowed other guys’ cum (which she admits, and really turns me on!) but that she isn’t going to do it again ….. we’ll see. It’s nice having goals in life …..

I enjoy sucking my husband's cock. I flick my tongue right below the head of his cock and thn I do a twisting motion on the shaft of his cock with my hand and that when he loses control and starts telling me I'm so good at sucking his cock and then his head falls back and as he moans and grunts and his cum runs down my throat.

 

[OldnCurious]

Prior to menopause our sex lives was rather active, but now it hurts her too much to penetrate so it strictly oral.

 

[PSO77]

Prior to menopause our sex lives was rather active, but now it hurts her too much to penetrate so it strictly oral.

I'm sorry that it is been painful for the vaginal sex. I can actually relate to that. But I've always struggled with vaginumus. It takes a while for me to loosen up in there. In the meantime it's a lot of amazing oral sex and play. And of course we add our toys!

 

[PSO77]

I enjoy sucking my husband's cock. I flick my tongue right below the head of his cock and thn I do a twisting motion on the shaft of his cock with my hand and that when he loses control and starts telling me I'm so good at sucking his cock and then his head falls back and as he moans and grunts and his cum runs down my throat.

Just sucked my husband's cock on his work break. He rubbed the back of my head as I did and he stroked my hair. He told me how he wanted it and how he liked it and when he came he's spasmed and moaned and continued to moan as I continue to suck him off, swallowing his warm cum.