Changing Limits

[Ms_Lilith]

I know what you mean about figuring what you once were, its never as clear as you thought it would be.

I like the idea of a see-through blindfold, do you know where to get one.

I am equally gald that I am not alone on the blindfold issue

I'm thinking any strip or two of taffetta would work.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm thinking any strip or two of taffetta would work.

Taffeta might be a bit thick but voile, organza or chiffon should do it....voile might be more allergy friendly.

Catalina

 

[not_so_innocent_flirting]

limits constantly change

My limits change constantly and i am glad for this. i found over the years that things once completely off limits become a softer limit and some have eventually become tolerated, then on to desirable. There are hard limits within everyone, well most everyone that will never change and that is okay. As a slave, i believe that Master's limits are mine which is why compatability should be in order. i have delved into the "off limits" a lot over the last year and was suprised at myself and my reactions, a good Master can take you to dark corners and make them far less scarey. It works both ways too, He may have ventured into things not of interest to Him, in order to allow me that fullfilment i may have needed and found Himself in a happy place as well. We constantly grow, therefore our limits change with us. Be open at least and the discoveries are amazing.


flirt aka enigma

 

[shy slave]

My limits change constantly and i am glad for this. i found over the years that things once completely off limits become a softer limit and some have eventually become tolerated, then on to desirable. There are hard limits within everyone, well most everyone that will never change and that is okay. As a slave, i believe that Master's limits are mine which is why compatability should be in order. i have delved into the "off limits" a lot over the last year and was suprised at myself and my reactions, a good Master can take you to dark corners and make them far less scarey. It works both ways too, He may have ventured into things not of interest to Him, in order to allow me that fullfilment i may have needed and found Himself in a happy place as well. We constantly grow, therefore our limits change with us. Be open at least and the discoveries are amazing.


flirt aka enigma

I agree a good Master can take you to new places.

Sometimes its such a relief to find that dark corners are not as scary once they have been explored by someone who knows you and you, in turn, trust.

Compatability is so important, if a PYL limits, ideas and areas of fulfilment are very different it can be a difficult relationship to maintain.

OTOH sometimes differences help both people explore further and grow together.

 

[snowy ciara]

Taffeta might be a bit thick but voile, organza or chiffon should do it....voile might be more allergy friendly.

Catalina

Or a strip of plain old gauze. Function leading form, here.

 

[shy slave]

Can you imagine me in the material shop trying out various srips of material across my eyes to figure out what will work best.

Then the ever helpful sales woman comes up and says 'Can I help you?, Where you looking for something in particular'

And I would say 'Actually, yes. I am .....

 

[catalina_francisco]

Can you imagine me in the material shop trying out various srips of material across my eyes to figure out what will work best.

Then the ever helpful sales woman comes up and says 'Can I help you?, Where you looking for something in particular'

And I would say 'Actually, yes. I am .....

LOL, careful or a certain man may make that your next challenge!!

Catalina

 

[shy slave]

LOL, careful or a certain man may make that your next challenge!!

Catalina

Catalina your a mod

Can you lock him out of here and the female ejaculation thread

please, please, please, please, please

You being so kind, sweet, nice, helpful, caring etc etc etc

I never was any good at grovelling
*sigh*

 

[Immolator]

...a good Master can take you to dark corners and make them far less scarey. It works both ways too, He may have ventured into things not of interest to Him, in order to allow me that fullfilment i may have needed and found Himself in a happy place as well. We constantly grow, therefore our limits change with us. Be open at least and the discoveries are amazing.

My puppy has two hard limits: scat and needles. I have no interest in the former, either, so no problem there. I would love to have his cock pierced, though...yum! We have talked about it, and he has said he'd do it, fully restrained and gagged.

*fans self* Is it hot in here?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Catalina your a mod

Can you lock him out of here and the female ejaculation thread

please, please, please, please, please

You being so kind, sweet, nice, helpful, caring etc etc etc

I never was any good at grovelling
*sigh*

LOL, I'm not nice at all!!!!! Maybe I should PM him incase he missed them.

Catalina

 

[shy slave]

My puppy has two hard limits: scat and needles. I have no interest in the former, either, so no problem there. I would love to have his cock pierced, though...yum! We have talked about it, and he has said he'd do it, fully restrained and gagged.

*fans self* Is it hot in here?

Hi
Immolater, just read your post in the 'new faces' thread

Helping him overcome a piercing limit must be a good feeling for both of you, its such a permanent thing.

I have discovered that being able to talk through difficult limits is a big step towards overcoming them.

will be interested to know how he feels after it has heppened.

 

[Quint]

I like doing them frequently for that reason too, also they often get us in the mood to do something new or something we've forgotten about.

Heck yeah. Lots of our best times arise from remembering "oh yeah, we haven't tried that" or "hmmm, you gave it that big of a smiley face, huh?"

My concept of a limit is really what has changed. Nothing is a limit on its own anymore, but at the same time, anything and everything could be a limit in the right (or wrong, rather) context. It's all how he uses it and how the mood is beforehand. I don't dismiss anything out of hand like I did at the beginning and I don't think my checklist shows any "hard" limits, just things that would be immensely difficult to get through, based on prior experience with myself and my reactions.

However, I'm really glad that most of my "pleasepleasepleasePLEASE don't do those to me..." deeds coincide with T's.

 

[shy slave]

LOL, I'm not nice at all!!!!! Maybe I should PM him incase he missed them.

Catalina

I think 'switching to please him' is going to your head!

I thought we were friends!!

Ummm errr

Want some chocolate as payment for your silence???

 

[shy slave]

Heck yeah. Lots of our best times arise from remembering "oh yeah, we haven't tried that" or "hmmm, you gave it that big of a smiley face, huh?"

My concept of a limit is really what has changed. Nothing is a limit on its own anymore, but at the same time, anything and everything could be a limit in the right (or wrong, rather) context. It's all how he uses it and how the mood is beforehand. I don't dismiss anything out of hand like I did at the beginning and I don't think my checklist shows any "hard" limits, just things that would be immensely difficult to get through, based on prior experience with myself and my reactions.

However, I'm really glad that most of my "pleasepleasepleasePLEASE don't do those to me..." deeds coincide with T's.

Hi Quint

Its interesting to see how limits change.

What limits have changed and was it at your request or did T push your limits when he thought you were ready?

 

[Quint]

Hi Quint

Its interesting to see how limits change.

What limits have changed and was it at your request or did T push your limits when he thought you were ready?

Bit of both. Pissplay is something my mind grew acclimated to on its own, with time. Enemas he introduced. He's always in control of how much pain and fear I endure. Cutting was a limit he had to break in himself; it wasn't ever a question in my mind but he had negative experiences and it took some time for him to overcome those. I can't remember anything else that I used to consider a hard-n-fast limit...fisting was always a "ummmmmm" point but one I was willing to concede might happen.

It's like, actions are like knives. Even really horrible, scary knives can be displayed or even used in the right hands and no real damage done...and even the meekest, dullest butter knife can be a lethal weapon, depending on how it's used. I'm not going to say "I refuse to have a knife," nor am I going to say that I'm always going to be safe with a knife, even one that I've used 99 times before without cutting myself. It depends on who is holding it, and how they're feeling that day. Gawd, was that a pathetic analogy or what!

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I find it interesting to think about where we were, and where we are now. It's been quite awhile since I gave the whole limits thing some thought. I'd have to say that I've moved more toward not having any hard limits other than the biggies (kids, animals, scat, dead people). Everything else is ..... fluid. By that I mean that we are so close, so alike in what our needs are, have such a good level of communication, that it is highly doubtful that he is going to come up with some crazy ass activity that is going to send me straight to red.

We tend to stick to a core group of things that work for us; we aren't the "let's try something COMPLETELY different every weekend types. He surprises me, within a certain set of circumstances....if that makes any sense. We prefer to have my limits pushed from an endurance standpoint (for example, caning to red) rather than fuss with something new. I get a certain satisfaction out of the count of allllll those strokes, even if I can't sit for 3 days. *grin*

He's sneaky though. Full of mindfucks. I sleep with one eye open.

~Anelize

 

[catalina_francisco]

I think 'switching to please him' is going to your head!

I thought we were friends!!

Ummm errr

Want some chocolate as payment for your silence???

LOL, I have to practice on someone....who better than those I like so much?!!

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

It is interesting looking at how and if we are willing or able to change our limits. I can honestly say I often struggle to comply, and am often quite vocal about how I feel about it, but as I have come to realise over the past months, there is a point I reach where I just accept and go with it despite my own fears, reservations, questions......I just wish I could shorten the distance and thus tension between the introduction of an idea and the full on mental surrender to accepting it is going to happen and I am going to let it and try and make it enjoyable for him. Guess I am just not cut out for blind submission at the drop of a hat.....bad slave am I.

Catalina