choosing clothing/underwear

[TeachMeSir]

I personally don't think it is micromanaging.

It is just the exercising of my power and control as the Dominant in the relationship.

Plus the added bonus of her thinking about me when she gets dressed first thing in the morning and throughout the day when she sees the undies I picked out for her.

I agree that it isn't micro-managing to everyone. Just as people like different touches, they like different indications of "power", orgasm denial, orgasm control, orgasm gifting.

I, personally am very stubborn about this. I could not handle it. But then agin, if it was used sparingly, and I obeyed on these rare occassions (because really, why wouldn't I?), then because it was something unusual it would have a bigger effect on me. Like a shiny new toy that doesn't get used enough to tarnish.

As for thiking of him first thing in the morning..... If I'm deep inside someones head & they in mine, then I wake with them in my head. I don't need an indication of his power to make me think of them. Which is even more frustrating and will shock me out of any mundane daily thought I was having.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I agree that it isn't micro-managing to everyone. Just as people like different touches, they like different indications of "power", orgasm denial, orgasm control, orgasm gifting.

I, personally am very stubborn about this. I could not handle it. But then agin, if it was used sparingly, and I obeyed on these rare occassions (because really, why wouldn't I?), then because it was something unusual it would have a bigger effect on me. Like a shiny new toy that doesn't get used enough to tarnish.

As for thiking of him first thing in the morning..... If I'm deep inside someones head & they in mine, then I wake with them in my head. I don't need an indication of his power to make me think of them. Which is even more frustrating and will shock me out of any mundane daily thought I was having.

I understand what you are saying.

I guess I view it differently because I am in a LDR with my little girl. So to me its sort of a daily reminder that even though we are miles apart, I'm always right there with her even with something as simple as picking out what color panties she wears.

Its a way for her to feel my power, control, and love from a distant.

 

[greeneyed_Lady]

There is some quiet, and important, hotness here.

The pinnacle of service, at least for me, is Anticipatory Service. If a submissive can divine my needs and fulfill them before I even express them, that is perfect service in my eyes.

In this case, Caitlynne talks about learning the preferences of her PYL and modifying her dress accordingly. Anticipatory Service, rawr.

This would be my view on things. In every aspect of life to some degree. Try & figure out what it is you think the other person would like and make all their dreams come true. Don't micromanage me. If you can't handle me without trying to control every little thing about me then you're never going to handle me ever. And I am a handful.

This is me as well. I take my time getting to know someone, what makes them tick, what makes them purr, what gets them hot without them knowing that is what I'm doing. It's one reason when my dad is doing home reno projects he likes to work with me 'cause I'm always one step ahead of him, knowing what he wants without him having to ask. For me tho, this level of understanding takes a long time to develop. I like knowing that I've done something someone else is or will enjoy.

 

[twysted73]

I agree that it isn't micro-managing to everyone. Just as people like different touches, they like different indications of "power", orgasm denial, orgasm control, orgasm gifting.

I, personally am very stubborn about this. I could not handle it. But then agin, if it was used sparingly, and I obeyed on these rare occassions (because really, why wouldn't I?), then because it was something unusual it would have a bigger effect on me. Like a shiny new toy that doesn't get used enough to tarnish.

As for thiking of him first thing in the morning..... If I'm deep inside someones head & they in mine, then I wake with them in my head. I don't need an indication of his power to make me think of them. Which is even more frustrating and will shock me out of any mundane daily thought I was having.

Agreed.

How powerful is one truly if they must continually exert and re-introduce said "power"?

No....if you wake in the morning (or as you are coming out of your sleep and not quite there)....and what escorts you out of said sleep is my voice and my presence...and I'm not even there...then I've done well.