Coming to a pivotal point...

[Netzach]

I'm glad you came down on this side of things. Being slightly unhappy at work and pulling in 40K - for a duration, not even permanently - is a million trillion times better than being unhappy all the time outside of work and any amount of money.

You can always MAKE more money.

You don't get more time to be happy.

 

[Byakuya]

wow, I'm going through pretty much the same thing with my wife.. there are so many things I'd like to do with her, but she always just wants plain ole boring "normal" sex.. it's really tough getting someone into bdsm when they aren't at all interested in it to begin with.. I've tied her up before, but she wasn't into it.. I asked if she'd like to tie me up and she was like "nah".. she's just not into it.. and it's very depressing to me.. so I know what you're going through.. *comfort*

 

[SometimesNever]

Netzach Thanks for the kind words. I am going to keep the business. I have quite a bit of legal business knowledge, self taught and have already had a couple sessions with a lawyer.

Byakuya Yeah, I knew I was not alone in this. My husband has a lot of vanilla kink in him so it isnt purely the sex I am dissatisfied with, its the whole picture. He is a fine enough man and will make some woman happy, just not me.

Hey, at least you got a chance to tie her up, i go for a basic blindfold or wrist cuffs and he freaks out. He thinks the whole lifestyle thing is garbage as is the people who practice it. As much as I try to educate him he still doesnt understand the basics of emotions, trust, guiding, learning, consensual and experimenting of it.

Just the basic fact that I have made a decision but not acted on it yet, I already feel my arms opening up and my lungs exhaling, its invigorating.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm happy to see that you have decided to do the very brave and difficult thing of changing your life and have as you put it "chosen life."

*HUG*

Good for you.

Thanks for the update.

Fury

 

[Byakuya]

Byakuya Yeah, I knew I was not alone in this. My husband has a lot of vanilla kink in him so it isnt purely the sex I am dissatisfied with, its the whole picture.

I know what you mean.. my wife definitely loves having vanilla sex.. she wants sex more often than I do in fact.. but I really long for something more than just vanilla sex.. I know it sounds awful, but sometimes I'd rather be reading bdsm stories online than having vanilla sex with my wife.. it's not that I'm not attracted to her.. I just get so bored with plain ole vanilla sex over and over..

I know I might be fighting a losing battle, but I'm trying to bring her around to the "dark" side.. just tonight when we were going at it, I was biting her neck and pulling her hair and she didn't complain.. she didn't tell me she liked it either though.. I'm hoping that one day (if I'm very subtle and gradual about it) she'll learn to enjoy that sort of thing..

I've been recently trying to introduce more and more kink into our sex lives.. the fact that she enjoys sex so much is a big advantage because she becomes desperate enough for it that she's unlikely to stop me if I do something that's out of her vanilla comfort zone.. I'm testing her bdsm limits without her realizing what I'm doing.. maybe it's sneaky of me, but the way I look at it it's better than the alternatives..

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Hey SN,

Feeling the chains coming off, the weight being lifted... it's like your soul coming free after years of oppression.

Do not be surprised at a giddiness coming, a euphoria. It's natural and normal. It's also a good indicator that your inner self is at peace with your decision, that it's right for you.

Don't be surprised at doubts, second thoughts, the creeping "what if's..." that pop into your mind from time to time, either. They are natural and normal, too. You are among friends and kindred spirits here, people who have shared similar experiences, feelings, circumstances, and people who have very different experiences, feelings, and circumstances. Advice will be given freely, and you can take what works for you and discard the rest.

And you are never alone here. Even if all you do is lurk in the background, you are not alone. We're never farther than a few electrons away.