Conflicted about sucking cock

[LeeNorCal]

Too much thinking...

I remember how I felt for the longest time before I finally sucked my first cock. It was the same feelings I used to get in my teens before I would ask a girl out on a date. Lots of self doubt, anxiety and fear of rejection. I'm sure most guys can relate.

Just like those good (bad?) old days, the key is to NOT THINK SO MUCH ABOUT IT...JUST DO IT!

 

[CuriousOlderM]

Don't know if I am conflicted... it is something I want to do.. definitely on my bucket list... just need the right person and opportunity...

 

[yukonnights]

...is finding someone like myself who wants the experience but also a friendly relationship as well. Blow and go - no thanks.

That and I would want to go slow. Enjoy some time watching, jacking eachother and if the day is right, suck my first cock. And then again...again...again...over time.

TinaAndy, I'm glad you brought this up about wanting a friendship. I have the same desire and the same problems. I think it begs the question; How do most men feel about this? Anonymous blow&go...or friendship/connection first?

How about it guys? How do you vote on this issue?

 

[yukonnights]

Feel her out about bi sex before you confess your interests. Watch a movie with and watch her watch the sexual scenes or react to the bisexual innuendo. That may help you avoid a big mess.

I wish I had done that and never confessed I was curious to my now ex-wife. I told her I was curious and I wanted to know what it be like to suck cock. That's a large part of what ended our marriage.

This is very good advice. My own situation unfolded along the suggestions given by DS_Curious. My first homo experiences were as a teen. Like many guys, it all seemed so natural and normal and really good. Of course, with a few more years of age it became very clear that "those kind of guys" were not cool at all Long story short, during pillow talk early in our marriage we shared our "secrets" and I told her. Lucky for me she found it exciting. As a young married couple we would go to the old style drive-in where they showed gay porn...again we both enjoyed it and got turned on by it. But, oddly enough she just assumed that my interest was not really anything. Finally, many years later, I told her I was still attracted to men. As DS_Curious said, feel her out slowly. I also think it is very important to use the internet to not only surf porn, but use it to study the more scientific information regarding human sexuality in general. It really is pretty absurd, once you get a grasp on the vast spectrum of human sexuality, to ever think that there is some kind of "normal" !

Oh yes, to conclude; I am open to my wife who supports me in my need to explore my bi side.

 

[blowit]

TinaAndy, I'm glad you brought this up about wanting a friendship. I have the same desire and the same problems. I think it begs the question; How do most men feel about this? Anonymous blow&go...or friendship/connection first?

How about it guys? How do you vote on this issue?

Ideally I would very much like this sort of friendship. Being 'mates' that do more than just watch sport together. Not a romance thing but being very comfortable in each others general company and also enjoying sexually pleasuring each other occasionally. That would be the ideal for me.

 

[Hitchiker69]

TinaAndy, I'm glad you brought this up about wanting a friendship. I have the same desire and the same problems. I think it begs the question; How do most men feel about this? Anonymous blow&go...or friendship/connection first?

How about it guys? How do you vote on this issue?

For me it's always been 'blow and go', except that sometimes I spent the night. And the best episodes included kissing, embracing, caring about the guy, even if I knew that I'd leave in the morning, and never see him again.

I'd love to have an ongoing sexual relationship with a trusted friend.

 

[photobuff56]

I'm new to it but have been with a few guys, my wife doesn't know and wouldn't understand but needed to explore this Avenue.

 

[TinaAndy76]

Ideally I would very much like this sort of friendship. Being 'mates' that do more than just watch sport together. Not a romance thing but being very comfortable in each others general company and also enjoying sexually pleasuring each other occasionally. That would be the ideal for me.

Exactly.

 

[haurni]

For me it's always been 'blow and go', except that sometimes I spent the night. And the best episodes included kissing, embracing, caring about the guy, even if I knew that I'd leave in the morning, and never see him again.

I'd love to have an ongoing sexual relationship with a trusted friend.

My sentiments exactly. I've had both types, and I definitely favour the latter.

 

[stickygirl]

Gay couples are generally great fun to be with: it doesn't mean they're all lovey-dovey like some teenage dopes, but living life and just ... real guys Sex is SO much better when there's a real affection, no matter what your label.