surrenderedfaith
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I love this image. It resonates deeply. Though the emotion it evokes for me is not control, it is serenity. Everything going on there has more to do with what is going on *inside her* or *inside him* and far less to do with the external influence of One over the other. imho.
For me, I'm finding that the greatest element of control is a tone or a look. It has everything to do with the eyes, the face, and the voice. Phrasing is everything. "I want you to" is incredibly powerful. I find that the less I'm told and the more I'm asked the more I want to do. Similarly, repetition is incredibly powerful. When meaning or purpose is attached to an action then the action is repeated intentionally and purposefully that is incredibly effective. It becomes control slowly. When that look, tone, or request is then not used and you realize it is missed or absent, then it has become control. You realize how much you came to rely on it.
"good girl"
Right now, one of the most effective tools is a bell. I've been working on mindfulness and not dwelling on stress. I've become aware that if I realize I'm walking around and I cant hear my bell I need to STOP and be consciously aware of what I've been thinking about/stressing about and either deal with it, or put it away. It has been a game changer for me. At first I realized I was deaf to my bell a significant part of my day, and I was living in stress and worry about things I could do nothing about. I was constantly focused on it and turning things over and over in my mind. Now, it is pretty rare that I realize I havent heard my bell in a while and have to stop myself.
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please sir
