Couples Meeting a Third

[aziegmann]

Bringing a third or more into the bed can be fun and exciting, but TOTAL honesty with each other and the potential partner or partners is crucial. We have also seen the negative side of this, but almost always there are underlying marital problems at play

Could you tell us more details, please, about this negative side? What happened?

 

[Kenrychard]

When my wife and I were on occasion playing with a 3rd it was because having another man working with me or taking turns would really get her to a new height in orgasms. It was a joy to be a part of. The encounters where I, the husband, made the "offer" to the other man went the best. There were 2 times the offer went through my wife and both times the men tried to set the rules and not include me. As if they were assuming we were looking for a third because I was weak or inadequate. We also made some contacts on an adult dating site and both of us talked to the men. We met one for sex. We never had an encounter with a man who "advertised" as dominant. We did meet a man online and talk for several weeks, some of the talks were as a couple, and some individual. When it came to setting a date and meeting my wife chickened out. She is both a control freak AND knew that the Dom had some bi sexual experience and I might have told him about my bi curious leanings. I was VERY disappointed, her control bullshit ruined some things, and I was really looking forward to a man who was just going to take over the minute he was in the room. She needed to see she was NOT the master of all things sexual she thought she was. Following the same "script" to please her was reliable, but come on girl, be creative. When she did pressure( as in NO sex at all if I wasn't catering to her needs) me into a more "hot wife" game, where she fucked someone else out of the house, she failed to live up to the way it works. The Hot wife, as we understood it, is supposed to come home and share in detail what happened with her husband. Take the "intimacy" of the time with the other man and then give it back to the husband for his entertainment. But my wife thought that was "betraying" the other guys privacy... DOH, that's the point. He wasn't entitled to privacy, she was MY wife. She got her way in the end. We compromised and I suggested she go visit an "old" lover from her distant past, tell him she had a single weekend" introduction" for him, and that we were looking for someone interested in sharing her with me together. He called on the phone to be sure it was OK for her to be there even. But she never told him, she lied from the first time, about my wanting to be involved. It led to an 18 month affair and when I went to his place and talked to him, he dumped her and I divorced her. I was never jealous of the other guy, I was pissed that I wasn't being a part of it. They did end up marrying about 18 months later. She tried to kill herself the day after he dumped her and I told her I wanted a divorce, and I called him and asked him to give her a chance she needed him and gave him her hospital info.
The real shame was over the next 7 years her husband and I got to know each other, they moved into a home I owned close to her family, and she could have had what she asked me for 25 years earlier. When we were just really close friends she told me her husband (at the time) knew he wasn't providing for all her needs( mostly financial but some sexual, she was NOT over sexed, he was terribly inexperienced) and had actually brought up sharing her with me. She would be a pseudo polygamist, not "married" to both but living like she was. I said NO, he was fun and I liked him, but no ambition, I would end up working to support BOTH of them and their child. By the time she realized this scenario could have worked out for OUR relationship, her husband, a much older guy that had been her favorite teacher in High School, was too sick. Damn shame, the first couple of times she fucked him she came home with stories, a great attitude, and I liked her being wet with use. The old fart had huge loads of semen, she was still full and fresh after a 45 minute drive home. And he sent me a couple of pictures, he had a beautiful 9 inches I would have loved to seen pleasuring her. I was never jealous of HIM being with her. I was angry because I wasn't a part. After the first couple of times she went totally into "not betraying his privacy" mode, told me nothing, and even started to resent having to give me sex.
He has passed away now, the ex and I are friends, and I STILL think about, too often, two things that never happened. Meeting up with the Bi Dom, who was DEFINTELY on board with my curiosity, and never sharing her with her last husband.

 

[Scotchlander]

When my wife and I were on occasion playing with a 3rd it was because having another man working with me or taking turns would really get her to a new height in orgasms. It was a joy to be a part of. The encounters where I, the husband, made the "offer" to the other man went the best. There were 2 times the offer went through my wife and both times the men tried to set the rules and not include me. As if they were assuming we were looking for a third because I was weak or inadequate. We also made some contacts on an adult dating site and both of us talked to the men. We met one for sex. We never had an encounter with a man who "advertised" as dominant. We did meet a man online and talk for several weeks, some of the talks were as a couple, and some individual. When it came to setting a date and meeting my wife chickened out. She is both a control freak AND knew that the Dom had some bi sexual experience and I might have told him about my bi curious leanings. I was VERY disappointed, her control bullshit ruined some things, and I was really looking forward to a man who was just going to take over the minute he was in the room. She needed to see she was NOT the master of all things sexual she thought she was. Following the same "script" to please her was reliable, but come on girl, be creative. When she did pressure( as in NO sex at all if I wasn't catering to her needs) me into a more "hot wife" game, where she fucked someone else out of the house, she failed to live up to the way it works. The Hot wife, as we understood it, is supposed to come home and share in detail what happened with her husband. Take the "intimacy" of the time with the other man and then give it back to the husband for his entertainment. But my wife thought that was "betraying" the other guys privacy... DOH, that's the point. He wasn't entitled to privacy, she was MY wife. She got her way in the end. We compromised and I suggested she go visit an "old" lover from her distant past, tell him she had a single weekend" introduction" for him, and that we were looking for someone interested in sharing her with me together. He called on the phone to be sure it was OK for her to be there even. But she never told him, she lied from the first time, about my wanting to be involved. It led to an 18 month affair and when I went to his place and talked to him, he dumped her and I divorced her. I was never jealous of the other guy, I was pissed that I wasn't being a part of it. They did end up marrying about 18 months later. She tried to kill herself the day after he dumped her and I told her I wanted a divorce, and I called him and asked him to give her a chance she needed him and gave him her hospital info.
The real shame was over the next 7 years her husband and I got to know each other, they moved into a home I owned close to her family, and she could have had what she asked me for 25 years earlier. When we were just really close friends she told me her husband (at the time) knew he wasn't providing for all her needs( mostly financial but some sexual, she was NOT over sexed, he was terribly inexperienced) and had actually brought up sharing her with me. She would be a pseudo polygamist, not "married" to both but living like she was. I said NO, he was fun and I liked him, but no ambition, I would end up working to support BOTH of them and their child. By the time she realized this scenario could have worked out for OUR relationship, her husband, a much older guy that had been her favorite teacher in High School, was too sick. Damn shame, the first couple of times she fucked him she came home with stories, a great attitude, and I liked her being wet with use. The old fart had huge loads of semen, she was still full and fresh after a 45 minute drive home. And he sent me a couple of pictures, he had a beautiful 9 inches I would have loved to seen pleasuring her. I was never jealous of HIM being with her. I was angry because I wasn't a part. After the first couple of times she went totally into "not betraying his privacy" mode, told me nothing, and even started to resent having to give me sex.
He has passed away now, the ex and I are friends, and I STILL think about, too often, two things that never happened. Meeting up with the Bi Dom, who was DEFINTELY on board with my curiosity, and never sharing her with her last husband.

You always must include the husband in the capacity that it’s requested. I had a wife wanting regular meetings alone and I had to make sure he was aware and consented, otherwise I would not get involved.

 

[marriedpervs]

You always must include the husband in the capacity that it’s requested. I had a wife wanting regular meetings alone and I had to make sure he was aware and consented, otherwise I would not get involved.

Agree 100%

 

[SevMax2]

Agree 100%

Yep, never make an enemy of her primary partner. Just not a good plan. I would personally love to screw both the husband and the wife, but a lot of men aren't bi like me and might not be up for that. Consent is vital in these situations, both hers and his.

 

[DirtyHarry_SlutMaker]

You always must include the husband in the capacity that it’s requested. I had a wife wanting regular meetings alone and I had to make sure he was aware and consented, otherwise I would not get involved.

She got off cheating in an open relationship… then tied to off herself.
I mean really what a mental mess!
Better without her.
Honesty is everything.

 

[Scotchlander]

She got off cheating in an open relationship… then tied to off herself.
I mean really what a mental mess!
Better without her.
Honesty is everything.

Yes, what a mess.

I love your ‘slut maker’ name. I think I am a slut maker also. I have turned several prim and proper females into absolute sluts. But like yourself don’t appreciate lies and going behind your back to fulfil sexual needs.

 

[Diann_Mom]

We have enjoyed many three-sums over the years, mostly with my girlfriend being the third, but when he mentioned having a long time friend of his join us for a three-sum I was all in. That's when I learned that he really was bi-sexual as he had always told me.

 

[Uncut1969]

We have enjoyed many three-sums over the years, mostly with my girlfriend being the third, but when he mentioned having a long time friend of his join us for a three-sum I was all in. That's when I learned that he really was bi-sexual as he had always told me.

Must have been a real turn on for you!