cuckolding without the humiliation part

[hotwifeandhubby]

I agree with you and policywank, fetishes, and our experiences of them, are very personal. We all have reasons for defining ourselves or activities in a specific category. That's why I mean to state in my opinions that this is why I define myself this way.

BTW, I'm enjoying this high level and very intelligent discussion. It helps me to understand and express myself better. Thanks!

Well that makes at least 2 of us who are enjoying this and getting good things from it....hope it stays active.

 

[Rawb138]

This is one of the best threads I've ever seen on here.
Thanks to all for their opinions etc.

Just to weigh in: I am like the OP--I love the idea of a wife being sexual with other partners (male or female) while the husband takes pleasure either from watching or hearing about the experience later.
(Thank you especially, hotwifeandhubby for the definition for Candaulism--sounds close to exactly what I'm looking for)

Humiliation plays no role in it for me.
When I watch videos that are getting close to what I'm looking for and the lady starts talking about how small the husband's cock is or how he can't satisfy her the way this other guy does etc, etc, I go limp and move on.

Thanks again all...

 

[Dreamer110]

I feel the same way. No humiliation here. Just mutual enjoyment.

 

[justherhusband]

This is one of the best threads I've ever seen on here.
Thanks to all for their opinions etc.

Just to weigh in: I am like the OP--I love the idea of a wife being sexual with other partners (male or female) while the husband takes pleasure either from watching or hearing about the experience later.
(Thank you especially, hotwifeandhubby for the definition for Candaulism--sounds close to exactly what I'm looking for)

Humiliation plays no role in it for me.
When I watch videos that are getting close to what I'm looking for and the lady starts talking about how small the husband's cock is or how he can't satisfy her the way this other guy does etc, etc, I go limp and move on.

Thanks again all...

This pretty much sums it up for me too. I have no interest in degradation or humiliation at all. I understand that's part of the appeal for some - just not my thing. Unfortunately, my wife isn't into any of it so it remains only theoretical for me anyway.

 

[naughtoldperv]

It seems to me that this fetish of sharing and watching our women being with other guys is one of the fastest growing fetishes out there now. I first got into it with a wild and crazy girl at her suggestion and wanting to please her, I agreed and found that it was a great turn on for us. Since then, it's been my most consistent and strongest fetish [with no humiliation], as I want to be right in the middle of the action........not on the side lines.
I'm now married to a great woman and have great sex and she has gone along with a little experimenting with MMF, FFM just to please me mostly as I pleaded with her to help me fill my bucket list. I'm now trying to get her to try some more experimenting, and she is asking 'Why do I want to share her love with other guys' and I have to ask my self the same thing and cum up with no good answers. So maybe someone out there in 'Litland' can answer that question..........

Why do I want to share my loving wife with a strange cock??

 

[eroticspank]

One key point that we must all remember......we are each somewhat different and unique....it is those occasions when we happen upon that person who does seem like the "right one" that we feel really fortunate. Hubby and I have that feeling for one another. We are also of the mindset, I can say this because we've talked about the situation.....that if we ever encounter a time when jealousy or humiliation enters into the equation of things....be it from either of us, or from a suggestion of a partner(s) we will back away and regroup.....we both are completely of the understanding that jealousy is not a part of the picture....and humiliation is not what we are about.

Having said all that, I just will add that I can certainly see your point and the points of the others who have posted here. This is a great thread that I hope has opened the eyes of some regarding this topic....it's not for everyone, and for sure, we all see things slightly different as as such....none are completely wrong. It is all about enjoyment of sex, enjoyment of a lifestyle, and enjoyment of a loved one and friends or sometimes strangers.....let it be a fun thing for all.


Hot Wife

I am not married but I find myself really enjoying this thread and most all of the points made about cuckolding, especially this above.

A few of my own thoughts:

1. I am a hedonist. I see some descriptions on this thread as just a loving husband who wants his wife to be completely fulfilled sexually. Finding the right guy may be a challenge but it is worth it, I imagine, because watching you wife pleased is a big turn on. I like that some people can look at sex just as "sex" and be able to have a strong emotional relationship with their wife and vice versa while she has sex with another man.

2. Like mentioned above and in other posts, finding the right guy or cuck is very important. It has to be someone they both are okay with, is not abusive or conceited and understands his role.

3. I am sure there are many different scenarios but the ones that turn me on the most involve the wife fucking the cuck until she has had several orgasms, has him empty his load into her and then he is done. She pushes him away like she would put her vibrator back in the drawer and has her husband lay down next to her and hold her. In that moment she is enjoying the afterglow of what just happened and how wonderful it was for her husband to want her to be pleased like that.

When she is rested or maybe right away she would make sure he is satisfied also, but the main event is her satisfaction and it is made even better by their closeness and touching after.

The cuck has grabbed his clothes and left, his job done.

ES

 

[policywank]

This is an interesting thread and here are my two cents worth. First off, it seems the OP's intent is to put a label on his particular fantasies so that he can find porn that reflects said fantasies. I personally think that Cuckholding, as a fetish, comprises a very wide range of activities but at the root of it is a wife that is not sexually fulfilled by her husband alone, and so seeks sex from other men. There are infinite variations on the theme and I don't think porn even begins to scratch the surface of it. On the other hand, the stories and forum posts I've read here on LIT offer great insight to the countless variations on the cuckhold theme.

When I first came to LIT I had no idea that Cuckholding was a fetish. I only knew it by the traditional definition of an adulterous wife. Also implied in the definition was the fact that the wife's cheating was known by others and by the "cuckhold" husband who was powerless to stop it. So this definition does imply a measure of humiliation, often public.

Before my days on LIT, and before the internet existed even, the extent of my erotic literature experience was what I read in explicit historical fiction and Penthouse Letters. I was always drawn to the stories about men seeing their wives with other men. Some seemed really extreme with the humiliation theme, but even those intrigued me. The stories that made me the hottest were the ones where the husband was able to be an actual participant rather than just watching or being told about it. I was especially turned on by the stories that included feminization of the husband leading to bisexual encounters.

A few years into our marriage my wife and I began opening up to each other about our fantasies which led to bringing another man into our bedroom four different times for threesomes. At the time I wouldn't have defined it as a Cuckholding experience, but now some 16 years later I think that is exactly what it was to me. My wife and I had a great sex life, and even though she always assured me that I pleased her sexually, I never felt that I really was satisfying her. The man we played with was a close friend, and not only was his cock much larger than mine, he was much longer lasting as well. He was able to fuck my wife longer and deeper than I ever had and I loved watching her being pleased by another man that way. I also became obsessed with desire for his cock myself, which my wife was not into at all, but led to me exploring my bisexual side with him, but that's another story.

The threesomes were put to a stop because my wife and I wanted a family, so we had two children and our sex life became nearly non-existent for the next dozen years or so. All the while I kept my fantasies alive and even did some occasional exploration on the side, then about a year ago something amazing happened, my wife entered menopause and her libido came back! Now we are having regular sex again, at least once a week, and she is amazing, she gets me hard with her great blowjobs and I fuck her the best that I can, but my dick hasn't got any bigger, and I am not always able to maintain an erection, and even when I do, I often ejaculate prematurely. Now I am a man that wants to please my lady, so toys have become an integral part of our sex life. I just love how turned on she gets and how many orgasms she can get with a vibrator. It's such a turn on when she sucks my cock while she fucks herself with a dildo. She gets so into it and I talk dirty to her and tell her what a naughty cock loving slut she is and how much she loves being filled with two cocks, and when I cum in her mouth I am totally imagining her being fucked by another man. I don't think it's much of a leap that she would actually enjoy another cock, but she doesn't even want to talk about it anymore, so I just keep fantasizing and enjoying what we have.

Sorry to go on so long about my own story, my point is that for me there is definitely a bit of humiliation factor involved in Cuckholding. I don't think my wife could ever verbally humiliate me, but my fantasies revolve around my own feelings of sexual inadequacy. I have embraced this though, and to me part of being a good cuckhold is finding ways to please my partner. In my wildest fantasy I would be completely at the mercy of a sexually empowered woman, one that knows my deepest darkest desires and pushes the boundaries, even if that includes some humiliation.

Thanks for sharing your unique experience and perspective.

I find it interesting that a common thread for many people seems to be the sexual inadequacy and resulting humiliation of the husband. I can see that as one of the more powerful motivations for many people and obviously it is not for me to judge.

However, it seems to be based on an incomplete perspective of the woman. We accept without question that a man wants to fuck different women without inferring anything about the adequacy of his wife. But we don't really allow for the reverse scenario. There is often the underlying assumption that if my husband was pleasing me properly I wouldn't go elsewhere. Women can and do desire variety independent of the adequacy their husband.

Nor do we really allow for the reality that a woman is far more capable of taking on multiple partners than a man. Unlike men our basic biology effectively allows us to please as many men as we desire and society is such that it is generally easier for us to attract sexual partners.

Even for those who insist that humiliation of the cuckold is part of the formula he can feel that sentiment whether I am fucking other men because he is inadequate or because I am a slut who wants multiple men.

 

[naughtoldperv]

From eroticspank............

3. I am sure there are many different scenarios but the ones that turn me on the most involve the wife fucking the cuck until she has had several orgasms, has him empty his load into her and then he is done. She pushes him away like she would put her vibrator back in the drawer and has her husband lay down next to her and hold her. In that moment she is enjoying the afterglow of what just happened and how wonderful it was for her husband to want her to be pleased like that.

When she is rested or maybe right away she would make sure he is satisfied also, but the main event is her satisfaction and it is made even better by their closeness and touching after.

The cuck has grabbed his clothes and left, his job done.

Agree 100% and I would add:
Don't call us/ we'll call you!

 

[stevey29er]

Thanks for sharing your unique experience and perspective.

I find it interesting that a common thread for many people seems to be the sexual inadequacy and resulting humiliation of the husband. I can see that as one of the more powerful motivations for many people and obviously it is not for me to judge.

However, it seems to be based on an incomplete perspective of the woman. We accept without question that a man wants to fuck different women without inferring anything about the adequacy of his wife. But we don't really allow for the reverse scenario. There is often the underlying assumption that if my husband was pleasing me properly I wouldn't go elsewhere. Women can and do desire variety independent of the adequacy their husband.

Nor do we really allow for the reality that a woman is far more capable of taking on multiple partners than a man. Unlike men our basic biology effectively allows us to please as many men as we desire and society is such that it is generally easier for us to attract sexual partners.

Even for those who insist that humiliation of the cuckold is part of the formula he can feel that sentiment whether I am fucking other men because he is inadequate or because I am a slut who wants multiple men.

I agree with you entirely. Women are vastly more capable of pleasing multiple partners than men. It is fucked up that society looks down on a woman for being a "slut" while the same behavior in a man is just considered being in his nature. I personally believe that men and women both are wired to be with multiple partners and monogamy is unnatural.

On a personal note, I am completely turned on by a sexually empowered woman that fucks as many men(or women) as she wants. Of course that only adds to my own feelings of inadequacy, but for some reason I find that hot as hell! I have told my wife many times that she is free to fuck other men, but she just can't break free from the belief that it's wrong to be with more than one partner.

I think it's fantastic that we are getting different opinions from men and women on this thread, and ultimately i think the sky is the limit and there are so many different ways to pursue fetish and fantasy that it's hard to come up with a one size fits all label. policywank, thanks for sharing your views, I have to say your husband is a lucky man, as well as all the others you choose to share yourself with!

 

[policywank]

I agree with you entirely. Women are vastly more capable of pleasing multiple partners than men. It is fucked up that society looks down on a woman for being a "slut" while the same behavior in a man is just considered being in his nature. I personally believe that men and women both are wired to be with multiple partners and monogamy is unnatural.

On a personal note, I am completely turned on by a sexually empowered woman that fucks as many men(or women) as she wants. Of course that only adds to my own feelings of inadequacy, but for some reason I find that hot as hell! I have told my wife many times that she is free to fuck other men, but she just can't break free from the belief that it's wrong to be with more than one partner.

I think it's fantastic that we are getting different opinions from men and women on this thread, and ultimately i think the sky is the limit and there are so many different ways to pursue fetish and fantasy that it's hard to come up with a one size fits all label. policywank, thanks for sharing your views, I have to say your husband is a lucky man, as well as all the others you choose to share yourself with!

Interesting perspective on inadequacy. It is usually contemplated in relation to other men as opposed to in relation to the sexual capacity of a woman.

I don't know but I imagine that deep down men know that any woman they are with can have more and easier sex if she wants to. If they are paying attention they also know that it isn't always orgasmic for her. That is the reality of our biology and will be the case with any man, but I can see how guys might view that situation in the context that another man could have done better.

So there is the potential to feel inadequate relative to the woman and the fictitious guy she could have been with - not hard to see that feeding some of the bravado that can be so annoying.

Too the extent that it levels things out I think these dynamics apply to any man. No matter how young and virile the idea that a man will fuck a woman until she can't take it anymore is basically nonsense - she might get bored or tired if she is out of shape but that isn't the same thing. Not to be too crude but however many loads he can muster I have the capacity to take them all and then do all his friends too and no that doesn't magically change if his dick is big and black. Likewise any man who tells you his sexual partners always orgasm is 100% for certain full of shit.

 

[stevey29er]

Interesting perspective on inadequacy. It is usually contemplated in relation to other men as opposed to in relation to the sexual capacity of a woman.

I don't know but I imagine that deep down men know that any woman they are with can have more and easier sex if she wants to. If they are paying attention they also know that it isn't always orgasmic for her. That is the reality of our biology and will be the case with any man, but I can see how guys might view that situation in the context that another man could have done better.

So there is the potential to feel inadequate relative to the woman and the fictitious guy she could have been with - not hard to see that feeding some of the bravado that can be so annoying.

Too the extent that it levels things out I think these dynamics apply to any man. No matter how young and virile the idea that a man will fuck a woman until she can't take it anymore is basically nonsense - she might get bored or tired if she is out of shape but that isn't the same thing. Not to be too crude but however many loads he can muster I have the capacity to take them all and then do all his friends too and no that doesn't magically change if his dick is big and black. Likewise any man who tells you his sexual partners always orgasm is 100% for certain full of shit.

I am so turned on by your unapologetic sexual prowess! And yes, women are the superior sexual beings.