Cuddling

[Snoozebutton2]

I'm a fan of cuddling too...whether I'm the cuddler or the cuddlee

Well sure either way whomever in your arms smiles.

 

[kittenartist]

Oh we are a couple of cuddle bugs. We can sit for hours and hours just cuddling. The best is sitting with him in front of me so I can wrap my arms and legs around him while watching television. Our height difference (I am 6'1" and he is 5'8") makes it perfect for his head to rest back on my chest/shoulder. Add in the occasional neck kisses and we are in a place of bliss... Add in a sharp bite and cuddling becomes a bit more

 

[Lady_Midnight]

Oooh you are very tall! No wonder you thought I was tiny when I told you my height!

 

[Lady_Midnight]

Well sure either way whomever in your arms smiles.

But of course

 

[minx1]

I love cuddling. He pulls me into his chest so that my head nuzzles into the bit between his neck and collar bone. I fit just right

We cuddled and kissed lots today and it certainly strengthens the bond. I felt such a strong connection with him today because of that

 

[Harmony_1985]

Cuddles rock, spesh when his arms are long enough to wrap all the way around you!

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

Think theres nothing nicer than cuddle with a man you dearly love. Been missing that real bad in my past relationship. My ex is the kind of person who like his own half of bed while sleep, while I am like a glue. I need huggs and cuddles. I crave sleep held tight, his body pressed on mine, enjoying the warmth and the nearness of person I love and who loves 'me'.

I am used to being told where my half of bed is, as my ex hated the heat my naked body provides. Said I am like a heater and that he cannot sleep if my body touching his. Couldnt sleep with my hand around him either. Too heavy hand he said lol. When I look back I wonder why oh WHY I've spent 16 years with someone who obviously didnt love me and who would slap my hand if I wanted hold his hand in mine, and I dunno. Guess I was stupid and too in love.

I love physical contact, be it touches, cuddles, kisses - I need that. Cannot imagine to be ever again in relationship with someone like my ex and being denyed to get my huggs and cuddles again. Nothing is lonelier than being in bed with someone you feel alienated from.

I am so glad and so thankfull A. is different. And so happy he needs huggs and cuddles just as I do! Cannot wait to snuggle into his arms and have him hold me tight for a long looooong time.

 

[SubKekiLee]

cuddling is important he always holds me for a few before we drift off to sleep..I dont think he is used to cuddling all night cause he is always way on the other side of the bed by morning.. I tease him that he wants to be in iceland.. LOL... I think he could get used to it... time will tell..

 

[LadyC]

Ok strange as it may sound I have found since I have been a Dom I enjoy cuddling. I was always a My side your side of bed before. Laying her head on my chest and just stroking her hair brings such a warm calming feeling to me. I've always been into eye contact but never knew the joy this simple transfer gives me.

I agree, there is nothing so soothing as cuddling with a lover, and I find nothing more soothing than cuddling with the lovely Teri, feeling her breasts against my breasts, her belly against my belly, my fingers combing through her silken blonde hair, my hand caressing her back, her firm young behind. I thank the Goddess for the moments I spend holding Teri, caressing her, loving her.

 

[ShyVixen]

I love physical contact, be it touches, cuddles, kisses - I need that.

I'm very much like Kate in the sense I need cuddles and kisses. I'm reassured through touch -doesn't always have to be sexual touch, just soothing.

 

[ataxia.girl]

i have a hard time with cuddling unless i've been used pretty hard first. If there's a lot of kissing and cuddling before i feel really controlled i'll likely push back. There was a period many months ago where i was being used regularly *wistful sigh* and during that time i craved to be cuddled all the time. When i don't feel dominated i can be sort of like trying to cuddle a cat that isn't in the mood.

 

[LadyC]

Often, after I have worked Billy-boy, I calm myself by cuddling with the lovely Teri....feeling her breasts against my breasts, her pussy on my thigh and her thigh pressed to my pussy. On many occasions, I have become so calmed, so relaxed lying with Teri, that I have napped in her gentle embrace, and upon being awakened by her sweet kisses I felt totally renewed.

 

[BiBunny]

i have a hard time with cuddling unless i've been used pretty hard first. If there's a lot of kissing and cuddling before i feel really controlled i'll likely push back. There was a period many months ago where i was being used regularly *wistful sigh* and during that time i craved to be cuddled all the time. When i don't feel dominated i can be sort of like trying to cuddle a cat that isn't in the mood.

Holy shit, that's me, too.

I'm usually a "don't-fucking-touch-me" kind of girl. But if I feel submissive (which rarely happens anymore), I want to be loved on. It doesn't necessarily take pain or humiliation to make me feel submissive, either, though I do enjoy both those things. It can be as simple as stroking my hair and talking to me in that voice.

I don't really know how to explain it.

 

[ataxia.girl]

I'm usually a "don't-fucking-touch-me" kind of girl. But if I feel submissive (which rarely happens anymore), I want to be loved on. It doesn't necessarily take pain or humiliation to make me feel submissive, either, though I do enjoy both those things. It can be as simple as stroking my hair and talking to me in that voice.

I don't really know how to explain it.

Yeah that's me. i don't need the pain\humiliation to happen right before that particular cuddle there just has to be a very strong dynamic of D/s surrounding that relationship most likely comprised of pain\humiliation in the past from that person. The voice works on me too.

With my primary SO our D/s dynamic is sort of off and on depending on whether or not he's in the mood for it. We have just an insane amount of responsibility between the 2 of us and it makes it hard for him to have the added strain of trying to be Mr-In-Charge all the time especially since in the bedroom he is more naturally lovely dovey and traditional. Soooo with him i'm off and on with the don't touch me stuff. If he's Dominating i love it, if he isn't its 50/50 depending on how long its been since we've connected on the D/s level. He does know he can get me there simply by turning on Mr D which is usually what he does if i'm too agitated to do the lovey dovey stuff. i do always try, just not always successful. So that was kind of what i meant by i have to be used hard first which was misleading i think and not altogether correct.

i used to be much less submissive but i've mellowed and just gotten tired i think. i have enough power and responsibility in the other parts of my life so that in romantic relationships i am more or less submissive depending on the other person. Except for my SO i wouldn't choose to be with someone who didn't make me feel very Dominated and submissive.

 

[Snoozebutton2]

Yeah that's me. i don't need the pain\humiliation to happen right before that particular cuddle there just has to be a very strong dynamic of D/s surrounding that relationship most likely comprised of pain\humiliation in the past from that person. The voice works on me too.

With my primary SO our D/s dynamic is sort of off and on depending on whether or not he's in the mood for it. We have just an insane amount of responsibility between the 2 of us and it makes it hard for him to have the added strain of trying to be Mr-In-Charge all the time especially since in the bedroom he is more naturally lovely dovey and traditional. Soooo with him i'm off and on with the don't touch me stuff. If he's Dominating i love it, if he isn't its 50/50 depending on how long its been since we've connected on the D/s level. He does know he can get me there simply by turning on Mr D which is usually what he does if i'm too agitated to do the lovey dovey stuff. i do always try, just not always successful. So that was kind of what i meant by i have to be used hard first which was misleading i think and not altogether correct.

i used to be much less submissive but i've mellowed and just gotten tired i think. i have enough power and responsibility in the other parts of my life so that in romantic relationships i am more or less submissive depending on the other person. Except for my SO i wouldn't choose to be with someone who didn't make me feel very Dominated and submissive.

When I have let the sadist in me run free with a partner. I find after they enjoy being brought back into the light so to speak. A lot of touching a nd cooing to settle those jitters and shakes. Again we are all different but want her secure in knowledge can let go of the maso inside her and have that soft landing.

 

[gloriann]

Cuddling is a necessity for me, whether I've been worked or done the working. Brings the relationship back into focus... reaffirming...

 

[cherokee_dove]

When I have let the sadist in me run free with a partner. I find after they enjoy being brought back into the light so to speak. A lot of touching a nd cooing to settle those jitters and shakes. Again we are all different but want her secure in knowledge can let go of the maso inside her and have that soft landing.

That first time with her, it might take a lot for her to let go of the maso within to have a soft landing, though.

 

[Netzach]

Holy shit, that's me, too.

I'm usually a "don't-fucking-touch-me" kind of girl. But if I feel submissive (which rarely happens anymore), I want to be loved on. It doesn't necessarily take pain or humiliation to make me feel submissive, either, though I do enjoy both those things. It can be as simple as stroking my hair and talking to me in that voice.

I don't really know how to explain it.

This is really weird, because other than my lover who tops me, I am a don't fucking cuddle me, just ride me hard bottom. I used to dread "aftercare" *slight nausea at the recollection* Blergh. I always had this feeling like I was being talked down to - I found the cuddling a strange kind of not-good humiliating. I guess it's because I was being topped by people I wasn't in love with, and that's where I get cuddlier.

I'm not like this at all, I'm quite affectionate, being my naturally Dominant self, when I know I'm in control or that things are mutual, I have no problem making out with a girlfriend and cuddling after, or even just lying on one another and reading, which is nice.

But the thing about T is that he's remarkably tender by inclination and I just want to make him happy - so there's something really hot and challenging and new about being fucked and held with this remarkable tenderness while I'm wearing my sens-dep hood that none of the guys seem to tolerate and breathing out through three grommets. A serious and radical disconnect between what could happen and what T wants to happen.

This is the "you can objectify and hurt me now" hood, and when T just wraps around me and I can feel these romantic, loving kisses on the padding over the forehead it's just that much better.

 

[ataxia.girl]

I used to dread "aftercare" *slight nausea at the recollection* Blergh. I always had this feeling like I was being talked down to - I found the cuddling a strange kind of not-good humiliating.

If i pick up from the top they are following some obligatory aftercare formula its definitely a little humiliating which i can kind of get into and just think of it as a continuation of the scene and not overthink "is this really making me feel better?" Uncle Jackass aftercare kinda felt like this, like the objectification never really came off during the "pat, pat, kiss, kiss". Later when we would discuss things as 2 adults it would change but during the actual formal aftercare part it remained weird, objectifying and oddly pleasurable.

i tend to be more about words than actual cuddling. i can get into the cuddling but being talked to is actually more important for me. i think i actually like the being talked down to part A LOT as a way to finish and perhaps this is becuase i do go into my little girl place and i need that verbal acknowledgement from the Top that i am still there and they recognize that. i don't want to be made to feel that i must just snap out of it especially when that is the time i feel most wonderfully in it.

What feels icky to me is when i am in one place and they think i'm in another. There have been a few instances where i have felt more isolated and alienated after a scene than before simply becuase they had no clue where i was at mentally and emotionally and that is a very bad feeling. i can't explain myself then either, i'm too offended they don't just *know* after everything that just happened. i can be a bit of a ummm challenge with expecting them to just read my mind and pick up on my obscure hinting.

 

[kitten_candy]

i have a hard time with cuddling unless i've been used pretty hard first. If there's a lot of kissing and cuddling before i feel really controlled i'll likely push back. There was a period many months ago where i was being used regularly *wistful sigh* and during that time i craved to be cuddled all the time. When i don't feel dominated i can be sort of like trying to cuddle a cat that isn't in the mood.

I totally get this. I'm not a PDA cuddle girl at all unless it's in the context of a scene. That rush of pain pain PAIN then that unexpected, sweet soft touch.

I'm splayed out, immobile except for pulling the nipple clamp chain even tighter with my teeth, can't see or hear, the heat and STING radiating off me and I don't know what to expect.

Just when I think I can't take one more painful thing, I can't breathe or cry any harder, he'd take me there once more and then be so so so gentle with me.

But cuddling just to cuddle as we drift to sleep? It's like: you can put your toe on my ankle but that's it. Maybe you can throw a leg over me later.

Hmm. Maybe I'm just not a girly girl?

 

[Snoozebutton2]

If i pick up from the top they are following some obligatory aftercare formula its definitely a little humiliating which i can kind of get into and just think of it as a continuation of the scene and not overthink "is this really making me feel better?" Uncle Jackass aftercare kinda felt like this, like the objectification never really came off during the "pat, pat, kiss, kiss". Later when we would discuss things as 2 adults it would change but during the actual formal aftercare part it remained weird, objectifying and oddly pleasurable.

i tend to be more about words than actual cuddling. i can get into the cuddling but being talked to is actually more important for me. i think i actually like the being talked down to part A LOT as a way to finish and perhaps this is becuase i do go into my little girl place and i need that verbal acknowledgement from the Top that i am still there and they recognize that. i don't want to be made to feel that i must just snap out of it especially when that is the time i feel most wonderfully in it.

What feels icky to me is when i am in one place and they think i'm in another. There have been a few instances where i have felt more isolated and alienated after a scene than before simply becuase they had no clue where i was at mentally and emotionally and that is a very bad feeling. i can't explain myself then either, i'm too offended they don't just *know* after everything that just happened. i can be a bit of a ummm challenge with expecting them to just read my mind and pick up on my obscure hinting.

Well cuddling is also aftercare for the top in the scene. As having that warm washcloth brough and her washing my cock. To hear those cooing sounds and look of joy as she knows she is pleasing me. If in a more evil mood using her mouth and a lot of verbalization during helps to bring that boiling blood down as well. Itruly cuddle though and my fingers do like tracing the marks I have left.

 

[Snoozebutton2]

That first time with her, it might take a lot for her to let go of the maso within to have a soft landing, though.

True but then again her needs may overwhelm her and she fully surrender.