When you feel your coming pull out and no stimulation. You might cum a few spurts but wait a minute or two. It’s called a ruined orgasm. You’ll get the sensation of cumming while also the desire to cum. You’ll stay hard and be able to cum again without the normal refractory period. If your really have self control you can do that 2-3 times. Each orgasm more intense. Knee weakening.
Cumming Too Soon
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That’s the problem. Society says the man should last all night
with proper foreplay you may only last a few seconds but there’s nothing wrong with thatsweettalk4u
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Yes! Control is the key. Sometimes edging can help
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My wife tells me this all the time. I can never believe that. But I know you are right. God bless those that can last.That’s the problem. Society says the man should last all night
My wife says she is that good and that’s why I come quick. She knows she is doing a good job. LOL
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I honestly don't want him stressed about it. If he needs to cum....he should. It's not a huge deal. I like masturbating with his cum if I need to finish.
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Wow, that is a great attitude. However, I learned years ago that I don't "need to cum" so early during intercourse. The ironic part was I learned it from a woman I was giving oral sex. She told me to stop because she was going to cum. I was surprised that she did not want to cum. Doesn't everyone want to cum were my thoughts. She explained to me if she has an orgasm right away, it will be nice but not as strong as the one she will have if she waits. Yes, she could have multiple orgasms, but in her case if she came right away the rest of the orgasms were light ones.
So I learned to stop just prior to her orgasm and go onto something else. I would massage her stomach and breasts and then enter her. After a few minutes I was ready to cum so I pulled out and gave her oral for a bit. She would tell me when she was ready and I would enter her and we would cum together. It didn't work all the time, sometimes I would cum before she did or she came before I did. But it was great adult fun to hold out for each other!
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This may have been mentioned before, but some sexual positions make it easier for the woman to be in control so the man will not cum so quickly or not at all.
The cowgirl position, for example, works great for me and my partner. A lady introduced me to that position years ago and what made it very hot, was I was tied to the bed face up. I could not touch her or move my legs at all. She got on top, slipped me inside, and started thrusting. What I realized very quickly, was she was fucking me and thrusting for her pleasure not our mutual pleasure. She did a circular motion with her hips making sure to get constant friction on her clit with my pubic bone. She brought herself to orgasm fairly quickly and though I was close, I did not cum with her. It was simple. I needed up and down thrusting to cum vs her circular hip movements. It was hot to watch her cum but I could not cum with her. She liked that position a lot because she could cum easily and if she wanted to make me cum too, she could by adding some up and down strokes to her movements.
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The cowgirl position, for example, works great for me and my partner. A lady introduced me to that position years ago and what made it very hot, was I was tied to the bed face up. I could not touch her or move my legs at all. She got on top, slipped me inside, and started thrusting. What I realized very quickly, was she was fucking me and thrusting for her pleasure not our mutual pleasure. She did a circular motion with her hips making sure to get constant friction on her clit with my pubic bone. She brought herself to orgasm fairly quickly and though I was close, I did not cum with her. It was simple. I needed up and down thrusting to cum vs her circular hip movements. It was hot to watch her cum but I could not cum with her. She liked that position a lot because she could cum easily and if she wanted to make me cum too, she could by adding some up and down strokes to her movements.
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Edging while focusing attention on her clit. That and like you said, sweettalk4U, oral. Going down. Anything that keeps her elevated and cumming.
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I forgot to mention cock rings. There are all kinds out there that will keep you hard and not allow you to cum until she wants you to cum. Some cock rings will keep you hard even after you cum.
I had a FWB that liked D/s play. So one day she put a small vibe about 2 inches long and 3/4 inches thick on my dick. It was attached to a cock ring and she had a remote to operate it. When I put it on, it kept me in a semi-hard state. We went to dinner and she had her fun turning it on and off.
Once we got home, she flipped it over so the vibe was on top of my dick, and then added a ball separator to keep my balls very tight and away from my body. I was very HARD and we were both surprised my dick seemed larger. It felt great being that hard and there was no pain in my balls.
We started fucking in the missionary position with her laying on the bed face up. The vibe was lined up perfectly with her clit and she loved it. She came very fast and very hard the first time. We had to rest for about 5 min before continuing. She had at least two more orgasms and for each orgasm, I was very close to orgasm but the cockring prevented it. It was nice to be able to just focus on her pleasure and make her feel great throughout her orgasms.
Finally, she told me she had enough. I could tell she was completely exhausted. She unsnapped both cock rings and threw them on the floor. She was in a hurry to get my cum. She put me inside her and wrapped her legs around my back. I only lasted a few minutes before exploding inside her.
She was relieved and pulled me up on the bed beside her and went to sleep.
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I had a FWB that liked D/s play. So one day she put a small vibe about 2 inches long and 3/4 inches thick on my dick. It was attached to a cock ring and she had a remote to operate it. When I put it on, it kept me in a semi-hard state. We went to dinner and she had her fun turning it on and off.
Once we got home, she flipped it over so the vibe was on top of my dick, and then added a ball separator to keep my balls very tight and away from my body. I was very HARD and we were both surprised my dick seemed larger. It felt great being that hard and there was no pain in my balls.
We started fucking in the missionary position with her laying on the bed face up. The vibe was lined up perfectly with her clit and she loved it. She came very fast and very hard the first time. We had to rest for about 5 min before continuing. She had at least two more orgasms and for each orgasm, I was very close to orgasm but the cockring prevented it. It was nice to be able to just focus on her pleasure and make her feel great throughout her orgasms.
Finally, she told me she had enough. I could tell she was completely exhausted. She unsnapped both cock rings and threw them on the floor. She was in a hurry to get my cum. She put me inside her and wrapped her legs around my back. I only lasted a few minutes before exploding inside her.
She was relieved and pulled me up on the bed beside her and went to sleep.
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Well, we stress about it. Almost all men do!
Does he tell you when he is ready and needs to cum?
Does he help you cum if he comes too soon or you rather masturbate with his cum. What do you do normally with his cum when you masturbate?
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Yes he tells me.... And of course he helps. I use it as lube.
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I as a man appreciate when a woman doesn’t make a big deal out of it. I have no issue with helping her after the fact either. My tongue has never left me down so I’m not above cleaning you up afterwards to help you get off.
Short story which seems appropriate for this thread. Both worked for different companies. We'd try to book the same motel when we traveled. One night we had a few to many adult beverages and ended up in bed together. As I said, way too many adult beverages so we didn't do anything until the next morning. I woke up with a painful erect cock, maximum excited. She was flat as a pancake but had the biggest nipples I'd even felt, huge. I get her off with my tongue then she pushed me onto my back and sinks down. I think I lasted all of 10 secs. We at least both of us got off and we always a good had laugh about it. never happened again, damn!
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Happens to the best of us.
I love flat-chested woman so I can understand why you came so fast.
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I had an Asian girlfriend that was flat-chested. And her nipples got very large too, maybe that is part of being flat-chested, you get large nipples! Anyway, nowadays, I am attracted to flat-chested women.
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Whenever I’m out and about. I always look for flat-chested women. A hope they aren’t wearing a bra
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It's difficult to train yourself not to get excited and I think, at least in my case. that the excitement is what makesw me climax quickly. Something like a puppy peeing because it's happy to see it's owner. I have orgasmed many times by just being touched or by touching. I get so excited sometimes by just looking at a dick I can't help myself and I spurt my honey everywhere
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Same has happened to me by simply kissing passionately.
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Here's the view expressed by the (sentient) penis who is the protagonist in one of my stories:
Now people talk about premature ejaculation and to all of that I say 'Feh'. Any honorable penis will erupt when it is good and ready, and there is no reason for shame in that.
It is more fun if your owner has the sense and the willpower to hold out a bit, and a smart owner knows what to do to keep things going, but at some point if your balls are at boiling point, the cannon is going off, like it or not. It's not my job to handle timing, just call me Captain Propulsion, I am along for the ride.
Now people talk about premature ejaculation and to all of that I say 'Feh'. Any honorable penis will erupt when it is good and ready, and there is no reason for shame in that.
It is more fun if your owner has the sense and the willpower to hold out a bit, and a smart owner knows what to do to keep things going, but at some point if your balls are at boiling point, the cannon is going off, like it or not. It's not my job to handle timing, just call me Captain Propulsion, I am along for the ride.
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If he can more than 1 time, no problem ... he has a tongue and finger and then the second attempt take longer ... .
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