daddy ?

[Technodivinitas]

Didn't think of it that way.

But then, I'm kinda hard-boiled symbolist/metaphorist. To me, I'd say that using the term Daddy would be all about undercurrents & archetypes, but I'm heavy into psyche, and that may well be just me- especially since this time last year, the word Daddy simply wouldn't have crossed my lips. (At least, not without a giggle.)

What's your take, Betticus? How does the undercurrent feel to you?

 

[Betticus]

But then, I'm kinda hard-boiled symbolist/metaphorist. To me, I'd say that using the term Daddy would be all about undercurrents & archetypes, but I'm heavy into psyche, and that may well be just me- especially since this time last year, the word Daddy simply wouldn't have crossed my lips. (At least, not without a giggle.)

What's your take, Betticus? How does the undercurrent feel to you?

A good, close friend of mine in Colorado. A girl, quite beautiful too calls me daddy from time to time. It really depends on her mood. Not a sub, or at least yet but close enough for me to protect her and be her confidante.

When she calls me that I don't feel dirty at all. I don't think of it in an incestuous, pedophilic context. It makes me feel warm and valued and trusted. It's just kinky enough though that it makes me happy.

She usually only says it when we are having fun and maybe I make her feel safe and happy like a little girl should feel.

 

[Netzach]

There are lots of female Daddies, if Pagan Switch wants to be one, it's totally up for grabs. See Etoiles infamous expanding sigline for my opinion on Daddy and gender.

I, personally, have been a Daddy, both with crossdressing to reinforce the idea of a masculine archetype and without....

I would be into doing a scene as Mommy though, ***esp Mommy/girl.

Mommy, because of all that intimacy, has a nice creepy undercurrent. Daddy may have shotguns and sugar but Mommy changes diapers and administers rectal thermometers and kisses boo boos and cleans with spit...it's very visceral to me.

 

[kissmet]

Could part of it be "Daddy" and "little girl" scenarios to be other outlets for control. Being in the mindset of little girl/princess/whatever, puts you in the place where you have an ultimate authority figure who knows what's best, and you get to trust them and just enjoy what happens.

Yes, Richard, i believe so! i feel all of these questions can really be wrapped up and answered in total with your last line- "you get to trust them and just enjoy what happens".

i really think that these questions are in the same category with trying to define the terms Dominant or submissive. If you ask 100 people, you will get 110 answers! It just boils down to the dynamics. The Daddy/lil girl touches and brings out emotions and feelings both within the relationship and from each person's history. This is not a whole lot different from Master/slave or any of the infinate ways that relationship can and is defined.

IE, when Sir calls me His fucktoy or bitch or cunt or.......long line of pet names, i AM that name....i dig deep into my being and that is what is pulled out at that moment. i dont stop to analyze or think about it........i merely respond and react. And yes, i realise that some may well flinch at some of those names....they hold negative conotations, *smiles* just as, for some, a grown woman feeling girlish calling a grown man Daddy has for others.

 

[Queen Bee]

Re: Re: From a Domme

This made me make a little leap.

Little girl space - it's not just for subs.

Two of my subs are much older than I am, and I think this is true for most young Dommes who enjoy the submale.

There's something about wrapping Daddy around your finger, making him give you horsey rides and buy you things and threatening to scream again if he doesn't do the "I'm a stupid fuckmonkey dance" and pointedly ignoring the bulge in his Humbert Humbert crotch. As if, Daddy.

Pardon me, off on a tangent. I really long to do some ageplay sometime. I think I'd be soooo irresistable in maryjanes and a little grey pleated skirt, like some Edwardian goth bad seed.

I was just thinking about this dynamic recently; I could really get into that enfant terrible role, like Eloise demanding witch hazel on her toenails, or Veruca Salt screaming, "I want an Oompa Loompa NOW!" I would also like a Valet Daddy, who would bathe and groom and dress me while I enjoy a popsicle and read a comic book or something.

I used to have some wistful interest in DaddyDom stuff, but it's mostly been replaced in my pysche by the fetishization of traditional marriage roles and domestic discipline.

 

[ethereal~minx]

...I would be into doing a scene as Mommy though, ***esp Mommy/girl.

Mommy, because of all that intimacy, has a nice creepy undercurrent. Daddy may have shotguns and sugar but Mommy changes diapers and administers rectal thermometers and kisses boo boos and cleans with spit...it's very visceral to me.

Yes, I would be into playing a Mommy/boy scene. thinking of all the fun little annoying things mothers do *laughing* I think that would be fun. .... but seriously, I agree with you.

 

[Queen Bee]

You know that solicitous, coaxing, slightly patronizing tone that mothers use with young children? I like using that voice when I'm topping a girl.

 

[Betticus]

You know that solicitous, coaxing, slightly patronizing tone that mothers use with young children? I like using that voice when I'm topping a girl.

That was hot on so many levels. I like you.

 

[Richard49]

There are lots of female Daddies, if Pagan Switch wants to be one, it's totally up for grabs. See Etoiles infamous expanding sigline for my opinion on Daddy and gender.

I wish Etoiles would stop by here and share her views

 

[newflowers]

Richard,

Thanks for inviting me to view this discussion on "Daddy" - a bit different than the other. To respond to your query about the differences between Daddy and Master, I am posting what I have previously written - what can I say, I'm lazy today).

1. Daddy as a title is preferable because it connotes love and guidance and understanding and fun and spankings and play and control and affection(and i could go on here) without the harsh remote connotative qualities of terms like Sir or Master.

And there is hearing that "good girl" praise that can make one rather soft and squishy.

2. Looking it up (i have a word fetish) many of the denotations of *Master* are emcompassed in Daddy. Having authority over another; one that conquers, the male head of the household; a male teacher, having chief authority; to gain through understanding - these are all "Master" and one has the synonyms of expert, victor, leader.

Encompassing the qualities of "Master," as a title, "Daddy" is different. Master may carefully guard and care for his property; as a good and responsible steward so should he. The objectification of that duty, however, may, but does not necessaily, include the warmer, more emotive qualities of "Daddy."

Additionally, daddies have little girls (and thank heaven for them). Little girls need the qualities of a master which daddy does indeed possess, but they also need more than that; to be cared for and nurtured, to be kept safe, to feel safe, to experience a playful outlet, to have one who kisses the ouchies, among others with the one who is those things and wishes to express those qualities within a personal dynamic.

No doubt there are masters who encompass the qualities of a daddy and there are slaves who have littles inside, however, the *Master* does not connote the same personal and intimate bonding of complements as does Daddies and their girls.

newflowers

 

[Richard49]

Richard,

Thanks for inviting me to view this discussion on "Daddy" - a bit different than the other. To respond to your query about the differences between Daddy and Master, I am posting what I have previously written - what can I say, I'm lazy today).

newflowers

newflowers thank you for accepting my invitation
I think this post adds to the discussion
and I believe answers another posters question/request

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

There are lots of female Daddies, if Pagan Switch wants to be one, it's totally up for grabs. See Etoiles infamous expanding sigline for my opinion on Daddy and gender.

I guess I could be. I'd still prefer to be called Mistress though.

And yes, it would be great if Etoile would stop by this thread. I think I'll pm her about it.

 

[Richard49]

And yes, it would be great if Etoile would stop by this thread. I think I'll pm her about it.

Thank you
that would be nice

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

Pm sent.

 

[dejah]

What does the term daddy mean to you?.....

Well Sir,

In the D/s realtionship i am in, it is sort like a standing knowledge that He has the right to discipline and correct, to nurture and support, to love and use.........

If i have done something a little sassy? It is "Daddy spank!"

If i have done something good it is "Daddy loves you!"

If i am sad or depressed and He wants to comfort me? He holds out His arms and says, "come to Daddy, I will make it better!"

In other words? He does that things that a Dad would do, a little differently maybe, but the idea is the same for us. He takes care of me and loves me. And i give HIm the love and respect He deserves for that.

*smiles*

dejah

 

[Etoile]

Re: Another Daddy Dom Essay

Thanks to pagan switch for pointing me toward this thread. I was away from the computer for a few days (and nearly went through withdrawal!).

Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants.

This isn't true for me. In my case, the Daddy appellation came because Daddy is 20 years older than me. Anybody can have a kid at 20 years old. So yes, I really could be my Daddy's daughter. (My real father was older when he had me, though.)

I think an important element of being a Daddy is being a guide and a teacher. My Daddy was my leader into the lifestyle. Everything practical that I know I have learned from my Daddy. (We have tried a lot of things! Though I've learned a lot by reading too.)

My Daddy/girl relationship isn't really focused on me being the little girl as much as it is Daddy being Daddy. I just fall into the little girl role as a result. I wouldn't say that I'm a bratty sub, either; I don't think that's necessarily part of a Daddy/girl lifestyle.

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

Yes, that just might be true. I'm one of the lucky ones.

 

[Etoile]

There are lots of female Daddies, if Pagan Switch wants to be one, it's totally up for grabs. See Etoiles infamous expanding sigline for my opinion on Daddy and gender.

I'm honored that you agree with it, Netzach, thank you. heh, expanding!

There are indeed female Daddies. It's a personality, not a gender! I view "Mommy" as an entirely different role (and I also associate it with ab/dl). That said, when my Daddy was going through an emotional period e asked if I would be eir Mommy. That meant holding em, comforting em, taking care of em. E needed someone to support em during a distressing time, and that was what the Mommy role was for us.

But again, yes, it is possible to be a female Daddy. I believe WD started a thread a while back about "What is a lesbian Daddy" or something like that.

 

[snowy ciara]

Hi Etoile..

Thanks for stopping by. I hope this doesn't count as a hijack, but I have a question on something you said about mommies up there.. You said:

I view "Mommy" as an entirely different role (and I also associate it with ab/dl).

I can see how it's a different role, or style of D/s, but what is "ab/dl"? I know it's probably something simple and easy and obvious but I'm still sort of a newbie and don't have all my acronyms straight.

 

[Etoile]

Hi Etoile..

Thanks for stopping by. I hope this doesn't count as a hijack, but I have a question on something you said about mommies up there.. You said:



I can see how it's a different role, or style of D/s, but what is "ab/dl"? I know it's probably something simple and easy and obvious but I'm still sort of a newbie and don't have all my acronyms straight.

It's not a hijack at all! ab/dl is adult baby/diaper lovers.

 

[Richard49]

Etoile..

I am glad the pm got to you and you made it here
thank you for your impute

BTW the quote you subscribed to me I posted
but
I was quoting someone else
I think I said it was a Domme

 

[Etoile]

Etoile..

I am glad the pm got to you and you made it here
thank you for your impute

BTW the quote you subscribed to me I posted
but
I was quoting someone else
I think I said it was a Domme

So you did! It looks like her name is Kendra. Ah well, it's a fantastic quote.

 

[snowy ciara]

It's not a hijack at all! ab/dl is adult baby/diaper lovers.

Aahhh.. thank you.. That's one kink I don't quite understand.. But hey, I haven't thought of it much yet. That's further down on my Ponderation list.. (sexy pictures by the way!)

 

[Richard49]

(sexy pictures by the way!)

I agree

 

[Etoile]

Thank you both.

 

[Bloody Heart]

This is a very informative and interesting thread. The term Daddy Dom is so endearing. I love it! It made me realize that my Master is a Daddy Dom. I agree with Alonelygirl and meatflower on the subject. They explained perfectly what a Daddy Dom is to me. The fact that one would be a little less harsh and flexible because a Daddy loves his girls unconditionally, and just wants to protect her and wants her to be happy. But sometimes needs to set her straight. The only weird thing is, if I called my Master, Daddy, he would laugh his ass off! I would, too! I just can't bring myself to use the word during play. Oh well. That's what he is in my mind. And also, I don't think of my Dad in these sorts of ways because he wasn't very nice ever, so I can understand the parts about abused girls. Sad.