Depressed and blah. :( Why's life hard like this?

[txnstud21]

I'm going to reply to this one in particular, but in response to everyone.

Yesterday we had a talk, and I told him I would move to either Ohio or Virginia [only VA if I got accepted into this Fine Arts school] and he acted okay with it, but then acted like a baby. he told me he didnt want me moving out of state, or evne out of town. He just wanted me to learn how to spend my money wisely, because when I have $500 to blow, I blow it all. He understands I may not have bills, but he wants us to save up so we can get all these things we want. Because I'm always talking about how I want a range rover, and I dont have the 80,000 to just throw away on one.

So thats what he meant. The thing is with him, he gets pissed about something, and just randomly talks. It sounds horrible, but we are both so spiteful to each other when we are pissed off. But, I dunno. We just... if any of you saw us around each other, you would understand we are SO meant to be.

So everything is better now, he doesn't want me moving out, the way to fix the situation is to save money, and not go shopping so much. So for him, I'm going to do it.

But, if I find some really good shoes on sale, I will be buying them.

I really appreciate everyones replies, the way he was talking and acting, I can completely understand where you all would draw assumptions that he wanted to end it with me.

And about me taking over his stuff, what I think it is, is that he has no room for his stuff because of all my stuff. I do have over 30 perfumes, scattered about between our computer room, bedroom and bathroom. He has this weird thing of liking to see everything bare... as in, semi minimalist...

but i like everything decorated, and covered.. and just.. looking nice. I dont know how to explain it. but in ways we are so opposite, but i'm also stubborn.. so we're both going to start compromising on things, and sharing things, and being open, yadda yadda.

so all is well.

thank you all so much. so so so much. you have no idea how many PM's, IM"s, and all these replies here... they all made me feel so much better.

thanks.

<3 kandice

well as long as you are happy then so am i

 

[Gutterslut]

well as long as you are happy then so am i

awww thanks darlinnnnnn.
also.. everytime i see where you're from/username, i miss my OG hometown.
i need to go back soon man. haven't been down there since... 2001 when i totalled my car there. :/ blahh

 

[Gutterslut]

^ i edited the fuck out of that, because i said everything wrong. haha.
just in case anyone saw and was like huh!

 

[justme7]

glad you two were able to work some things out....make sure you keep talking as continue to try to make everything work

 

[Samael]

Glad to hear that all is worked out. I know how happy you are with him and was hopeful that it was just an odd thing or a misunderstanding. Sounds like there are some communication skills that need to be worked on so to avoid future freak outs.

 

[Shyguy1369]

I'm going to reply to this one in particular, but in response to everyone.

Yesterday we had a talk, and I told him I would move to either Ohio or Virginia [only VA if I got accepted into this Fine Arts school] and he acted okay with it, but then acted like a baby. he told me he didnt want me moving out of state, or evne out of town. He just wanted me to learn how to spend my money wisely, because when I have $500 to blow, I blow it all. He understands I may not have bills, but he wants us to save up so we can get all these things we want. Because I'm always talking about how I want a range rover, and I dont have the 80,000 to just throw away on one.

So thats what he meant. The thing is with him, he gets pissed about something, and just randomly talks. It sounds horrible, but we are both so spiteful to each other when we are pissed off. But, I dunno. We just... if any of you saw us around each other, you would understand we are SO meant to be.

So everything is better now, he doesn't want me moving out, the way to fix the situation is to save money, and not go shopping so much. So for him, I'm going to do it.

But, if I find some really good shoes on sale, I will be buying them.

I really appreciate everyones replies, the way he was talking and acting, I can completely understand where you all would draw assumptions that he wanted to end it with me.

And about me taking over his stuff, what I think it is, is that he has no room for his stuff because of all my stuff. I do have over 30 perfumes, scattered about between our computer room, bedroom and bathroom. He has this weird thing of liking to see everything bare... as in, semi minimalist...

but i like everything decorated, and covered.. and just.. looking nice. I dont know how to explain it. but in ways we are so opposite, but i'm also stubborn.. so we're both going to start compromising on things, and sharing things, and being open, yadda yadda.

so all is well.

thank you all so much. so so so much. you have no idea how many PM's, IM"s, and all these replies here... they all made me feel so much better.

thanks.

<3 kandice

Glad to hear you are going to try and work things out. I want you to be happy, and I know how much you care for him so I really hope things work out as they should be.

 

[Sterling]

I just don't want it to be.
It sucks so bad, because we've been together for 3 years now - and I know we jumped the gun, we've never dated.. it's like.. we just pretty much started out by moving in together. but god, i dont fucking know.
this is just driving me crazy.

If you are moving away... You should just cut it off and start over. LDR's are very hard and it may not allow you to settle properly in your new home!

 

[funny215]

personally, i feel that while i dont know you or him, you gave him the benefit of the doubt way too easily. i wish you all the luck but i think you justified things too much to make them ok.

 

[fdogg83097]

So, I feel really silly posting about this here - but you are all my friends! [I really do consider yous that] And I don't wanna post this in general - I hope this is fine here, most of you amateur photo people are my only friends here anyways.. and I don't really have anywhere else I can talk about this at, where my bf wouldn't see it, since we know most of the same people.

I'm just so depressed tonight, and trying to keep myself together, but it's so hard.

My boyfriend thinks I'm not financially independent enough, and thinks I should move out on my own to prove I can do it.

Some people are saying he's trying to let me down gently, but he's not. I think he truly believes that [what I said above], but he doesn't understand - I blow all of my money on stupid shit, because I have NO bills. I have no payments to make, the only thing I HAVE to buy are cigarettes, but I don't even have to buy them.

So anyways, now I'm just blah. We talked, and I decided I will move out. But I'm not staying here in Georgia. Fuck that. I'm going to just move to Dayton, Ohio and live near a friend up there, and I guess, live my life.

Part of me is excited - I will have freedom again! I will have my own place. I will be able to get a kitty, and put a canopy over my bed without hearing HIM bitch about it being girly. I can paint my bathroom yellow! And my bedroom too! And so many good things.

But I'm going to miss him. And I'm going to miss sex. And will I stay faithful?

Ugh. now I've wrote too much, but I'm sorry - I just need to get it out there before I go insane.

So... thoughts anyone? Just please be gentle..

kandice

The only way to grow in life is through change. If we stay the same life becomes stagnent and then growth is impossible. I hope all goes well for you.