Disappointed?

[liberatedslave]

Well.... I can be borrowed for short periods!

Oooh *raises both hands and jumps up and down*

Me first please Sir

 

[liberatedslave]

You sound like a very good girl to me.

Tell me, have you practiced alone with a dildo and no pressure?

Fury

Yes, although I do have terrified visions of being found days later after I managed to choke on a silicone dick. The gagging is so bad that I have to remove it. I sweat and shake and get all light headed and still I can't keep the damn thing in.

 

[FurryFury]

Yes, although I do have terrified visions of being found days later after I managed to choke on a silicone dick. The gagging is so bad that I have to remove it. I sweat and shake and get all light headed and still I can't keep the damn thing in.

That's one thing that helped me. That and different positions.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[liberatedslave]

The best position we tried is with my lying across the bed with my head hanging off the edge. He can get in and thrust a couple of times but by then I'm heaving and terrified I'll accidentally bite him.







Not asphyxiate, pass out, die, throw up or everything at once. I'm terrified I'll bite him when gagging LOL

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Well I have found that pushing a sub's limits is most of the fun for me. I have to know I'm driving her crazy or I'm not happy. So if it is something she is totally against then it would be a turnoff for me . BUT, teaching her to like it is much fun. When you can make a your sub cum doing something that originally was out of limits it is a real sense of accomplishment.

like the man said.. Work out how to get from where you are to where you want to go.. That's the key.

very well said and sounds alot like what Master would say *smiles* He loves pushing my limits and just recently i got to see a little more of His sadistic side than i had before, when during a scene i'm screaming 'OW THAT F'IN HURTS' and He says, (with a grin of course) "Good, it's supposed to hurt, i want to see you in pain" *purrrrs* i know, i know sounds tame to some of you, but we are after, still new, and learning. i've only been in the lifestyle for 3 years and i have SO much more to learn and experience.

but to answer the original questions, i'd say it's going to be different for everyone. For Master, i'm sure that He is disappointed when He tries something and i end up not liking it, because in our relationship He does care whether or not i'm 'into' something or not, BUT that doesn't mean that He won't repeat something that i've previously said i didn't like. we were So sure that i was going to like the crop, well this last visit, He used it for the first time, and i HATED it. instead of never using it again, He decided it was best to be used as punishment. eventually He will use the cane, and i'm terrified of it, but again, that does not mean He won't use it for His own pleasure because after all, it IS about His pleasure in the end, not mine.

with all of that said, i don't think He'd continue to use something that i just could not stand meaning, i don't think He'd use it everytime we 'play' because if He did then it would begin to feel like He just didn't care about my feelings. i hope that makes sense lol. there are alot of things i do simply because they please Him not because i like it like cleaning (yea, that was kind of a joke lol) anyway, to end my rambling, i guess there will always be disappointment it's part of life..ya know? but ya take what works, and you move forward, either by pushing my limits and trying to get me over whatever issue i have with a certain 'act' or just cutting it from our 'play' all together.....

 

[lil_slave_rose]

The best position we tried is with my lying across the bed with my head hanging off the edge. He can get in and thrust a couple of times but by then I'm heaving and terrified I'll accidentally bite him.







Not asphyxiate, pass out, die, throw up or everything at once. I'm terrified I'll bite him when gagging LOL

there is some stuff that you can buy at any sex shop, that numbs your gag reflex, they use it in Porn movies i have a very bad gag reflex too

 

[Leatherargento]

there is some stuff that you can buy at any sex shop, that numbs your gag reflex, they use it in Porn movies i have a very bad gag reflex too

This is, I know, a bad place to bring up my *actual Mom*, but her gag reflex is so bad she can't get her *front* teeth cleaned at the dentist's office w/out some sort of spray. If you have the same trouble, you might be able to use Chloraseptic (a LOT of it). Or Anbesol. If your dentist is good, and you act really interested in his work, etc., you can sometimes get him to give you a prescription codeine spray with coffee-stirrer-sized applicator straw, called "Hurricaine." It costs, but if your self-image really depends upon reenacting some trick photography (I know that it is. My cousin, before he got Born Again, was a Centurion in Flesh Gordon.) he's rewound a billion times, go for it. He might throw in some of those nipple clamps they use to hold the bib on with, too...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

This is, I know, a bad place to bring up my *actual Mom*, but her gag reflex is so bad she can't get her *front* teeth cleaned at the dentist's office w/out some sort of spray. If you have the same trouble, you might be able to use Chloraseptic (a LOT of it). Or Anbesol. If your dentist is good, and you act really interested in his work, etc., you can sometimes get him to give you a prescription codeine spray with coffee-stirrer-sized applicator straw, called "Hurricaine." It costs, but if your self-image really depends upon reenacting some trick photography (I know that it is. My cousin, before he got Born Again, was a Centurion in Flesh Gordon.) he's rewound a billion times, go for it. He might throw in some of those nipple clamps they use to hold the bib on with, too...

LOL! sorry the 'nipple clamps they use to hold the bib on with' made me spew tea all over my monitor.......well almost

 

[callinectes]

He might throw in some of those nipple clamps they use to hold the bib on with, too...

OMG, I have a dental appt. next week. I will not be able to keep a straight face when the hygenist whips out the bib.

 

[FurryFury]

The best position we tried is with my lying across the bed with my head hanging off the edge. He can get in and thrust a couple of times but by then I'm heaving and terrified I'll accidentally bite him.







Not asphyxiate, pass out, die, throw up or everything at once. I'm terrified I'll bite him when gagging LOL

That's the best position for me as well.

It sounds like to me you have a healthy gag reflex. I used to think I did too. When I was actually able to deep throat I was shocked and very happy about it. I made a whole thread on it. I also felt it helped my perpetually sore throat as well.

It also sounds like you have some pretty serious mental or emotional worries about it to get past as well. Do you actually have a reflex to bite as it's going on or is it only a strong worry?

I can totally see worrying about throwing up. That little gag reflex is kind of excitingly brutal to feel for me though. I HATE to actually throw up. It hasn't happened during deep throating at all.

Fury

 

[liberatedslave]

Aw you've all been so sweet you've given me toothache...

 

[FurryFury]

Aw you've all been so sweet you've given me toothache...

God there is nothing worse for me than tooth pain.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[AvaAdore]

It costs, but if your self-image really depends upon reenacting some trick photography (I know that it is. My cousin, before he got Born Again, was a Centurion in Flesh Gordon.) he's rewound a billion times, go for it.

I watched a guy deep throat an eight inch silicone dildo down to the balls. The thing was wide too, I couldn't wrap my fingers around it. So it is possible. He was the only one who had a go that managed (there was a contest). He even did it a couple more times at the party because people didn't believe him.

 

[AvaAdore]

I know my Sir's disappointed that I still haven't mastered the art of deepthroating his cock. I try very hard to relax & take it all in but I gag uncontrollably every time & at our last attempt nearly threw up on him! He knows I really don't enjoy it, it's scary, it hurts & I can't breathe. He does facefuck me viciously as a punishment. He's pleased that I keep trying my best but I know he can't understand how I find it so impossible when so many porn stars stuff huge dicks down their necks with ease.

I have spewed up while doing it! Only a little, but it was icky

 

[liberatedslave]

God there is nothing worse for me than tooth pain.

Oh darling thanks but i was joking. I meant that I needed an excuse to go to the dentist for some of these products.

Hugs to you too

 

[liberatedslave]

I have spewed up while doing it! Only a little, but it was icky

Yep, it's a real passion killer. I'm determined to get the hang of it though. NO COCK'S GOING TO DEFEAT ME!

It's not bloody rocket science. Grrr

 

[EveAnna]

When you go down on him, try to angle your throat over him and a little to one side. He shouldn't notice that you are doing it and hopefully you'll let some air down your throat and it'll help you relax knowing that you won't suffocate.

I'd always wanted to deepthroat but I have a bad gag reflex too - then by accident I took him really deep, started to gag and managed to push him a little to one side - it was enough to stop the reflex.

 

[liberatedslave]

When you go down on him, try to angle your throat over him and a little to one side. He shouldn't notice that you are doing it and hopefully you'll let some air down your throat and it'll help you relax knowing that you won't suffocate.

I'd always wanted to deepthroat but I have a bad gag reflex too - then by accident I took him really deep, started to gag and managed to push him a little to one side - it was enough to stop the reflex.

Thankyou very much EveAnna, I'm willing to try almost anything at this point and this makes sense. Have progressed a little since I last posted. I'm also going to get one of those throat numbing sprays too.

Sorry Kailey, I seem to have hijacked this thread completely

 

[Kailey_86]

Thankyou very much EveAnna, I'm willing to try almost anything at this point and this makes sense. Have progressed a little since I last posted. I'm also going to get one of those throat numbing sprays too.

Sorry Kailey, I seem to have hijacked this thread completely

That's alright. i'm having the same problem as you so this is helpful for me. i'm sure it is helpful for others as well.

 

[shy slave]

When you go down on him, try to angle your throat over him and a little to one side. He shouldn't notice that you are doing it and hopefully you'll let some air down your throat and it'll help you relax knowing that you won't suffocate.

I'd always wanted to deepthroat but I have a bad gag reflex too - then by accident I took him really deep, started to gag and managed to push him a little to one side - it was enough to stop the reflex.

I will have to try this, thank you Eve.

It really annoys me that I can't deep throat him.

Laying on my back with my head hanging far back and lower then the rest of me, gets his cock deep, but it is not perfect.

Maybe I should join the circus and learn sword swallowing lol

 

[pandoravampire]

Im not a PYL, im on the other side. But yes, he is disappointed if things dont go as he'd imagined they might. Either because im not turned on by the experience, or the equipment has not worked. Whatever, the trick is to be adaptable, move passed the silly moment, and change direction, smoothly as possible. As the submissive, i have to do the same, only, just like Ginger Rogers, i have to do it backwards and in high heels lol.

He's better at adapting to things going not to plan, than i am. For instance, if ive got some naughty fantasy running in my head, and ive plotted its execution, and it leaves him cold, im gutted! And struggle to overcome that feeling. Sometimes ruining a nights entertainment. Im a clutz sometimes.

There are many quirks we each have, that are not reciprocated by the other. He likes speculums, i get vaginismus at the sight of them. And scream, loud, when he attempts to use it. Just having it in the room, has me too fearful to enjoy anything that might follow.
I like having oral sex performed on me, he used to not like performing it. Oh deary me, thankfully, things have changed.
He enjoys the sight of me pulling myself open for him to see, i cant stand this. I do it anyway but im sure he'd like it a lot more if i could just get a little something out of it other than feeling like a pig at a abettoire (spelling?).

For me, when im the pleasure giver, i love it, when the person is responding favourably to something ive done for them. It just works! Im sure most of us are like that. I dont think its a bdsm specific issue.

pandoravampire