do you ever think about an ex-lover during sex?

[quimsical]

See....that would actually make sense.

The issue is that a "yes" or "no" isn't really what people are after....they want:

"Oh GOD yes! I think about my ex's fat dick fucking my pussy and wish my lover was half that big!"

You know...or something.

Honestly? I'd feel guilty if I ever thought about someone else when having sex. I'm all about the person I'm with; if I can't be all about the person I'm having sex with, what's the point, really?

The guilt is probably Catholic school. The "being about the person I'm with" is probably old school.

If I'm single and having a stroke moment rich with fantasy and reverie, then yeah. An ex (or two) may put in a guest appearance.

Q

 

[Prince Albert]

I have at times;just thoughts of ex's. The worse was my wife calling out her first husbands name,"just at that perfect moment".

 

[Cherry_Rose]

I don't think of anyone else, I do think about particularly intense moments my husband and I have shared say... if he's eating me out? like my mind drifts to the last time he fucked my face is the shower.. or something... lol I don't know if this comes under a related thought pattern? That said, hubby always wants to know what I was thinking about while he eats me out, so I've not really had to keep it to myself either.

 

[GracefullyYours]

Honestly? I'd feel guilty if I ever thought about someone else when having sex. I'm all about the person I'm with; if I can't be all about the person I'm having sex with, what's the point, really?

The guilt is probably Catholic school. The "being about the person I'm with" is probably old school.

If I'm single and having a stroke moment rich with fantasy and reverie, then yeah. An ex (or two) may put in a guest appearance.

Q

I agree

 

[GracefullyYours]

so then Gracefully.... are we to take it thats what youve been thinking about with a current lover hehehe

....No. As I said before...I think about the man I'm with.

 

[seekingmalefwb]

I often think of my old BF ... he was black. Having a BBC is so hot! My husband just doesn't understand ... <sigh>

Damn, now I am going to think of Joan's ex too!

 

[jennanips]

Totally

Have thought about someone else plenty of times. Makes sex with my husband a hell of a lot better.

 

[johor]

I have done so many times. Some times when things have been a bit uninspiring during sex or I am tired, a bit of spark from a fond memory has proven helpful. Over time though I do it less and less. I now think more of other times I have been with my wife or the fantasies I have shared that include her.

 

[skate and fuck]

Yes sometimes. There is a benchmark, but nobody will ever live up to it. So far. Not even the woman it happened with.

 

[stickwork]

Only after they've left the room.

 

[GracefullyYours]

Only after they've left the room.

*slap*

 

[stickwork]

*slap*

Or when I'm alone.

 

[Monkey_Face]

I just close my eyes, go to my happy place, and try not to let her see me cry.

 

[stickwork]

I just close my eyes, go to my happy place, and try not to let her see me cry.

I'm tearing up with that face.

 

[JD_Cockefeller]

My mind wanders.

 

[geoppy]

I dnt actually.. but me n my girl sometime pretend like we r having sex with someone eles.. kinda roleplay stuff.. thats kinky

 

[mantra23]

I'm in the moment so I have to say No. On the other hand sometimes when I'm along masturbating you bet I do.

 

[handsfree6969]

Not during....I get into the moment and the woman I am with...feeding off each other's energy