Do you need to mentally feel secure to enjoy pain?

[MiaBabe23]

I think it comes from people not understanding how someone can like pain, but being perfectly fine with seeing someone who enjoys causing pain.
Which, honestly, fits western culture.

Maybe so. I’m honestly not sure
Obviously there’s plenty of admiration for powerful people and figures; but I think the response to hearing about or seeing the inflicting of pain in a sexual context, especially a man on a woman, is much more complex
I think there’s some unease, I know I certainly feel that, both at the idea of receiving and delivering. And while there certainly shouldn’t be shame for enjoying something that both enjoy consensually, especially with aftercare, I think a degree of healthy trepidation is no bad thing. I know I could count on one hand the number of people on here I would trust enough to explore it with, and that’s just cyber…

 

[eroticspank]

Pain enhances the pleasure. Once you have tried both together, it increases the intensity and tolerance for both. Then cums emotions...
ES

 

[eroticspank]

A Domme friend of mine shared this with me: Mild pain is simply a form of disincentive to the Sub that makes his submission that much more compelling - the more difficult it is to bring oneself to do something, the more intense the sense of obedience and submission.

I don't consider myself a Masochist, but the mild pain really helps the scene for me. There is a physical and emotional reaction that puts me in sub space. The Domme above said she enjoys exercising control over someone who wants to submit. That is how I remember it, the great scenes I have been in. She was not into giving me pain, but into challenging me, pushing me to my limits as a sub. In that scenario, I find myself going further than I thought possible, and the feeling is wonderful. But I do need to be able to trust and feel secure with this person before we can go anywhere.
ES

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

In a healthy way probably.

 

[SmilingLez]

For me, being naturally submissive, the mere thought of all the possible consequences for being disobedient is far more intense then actual physical pain.