Does your partner know?

[jackflash81]

No, it is my secret. I feel guilty some times, but it works as a good release for me so in the end, I am happy to keep going for the moment.

X

 

[analgirl69]

Yes and no.

Um.. well, yes and no. He knows I read the stories. In passing I've mentioned the forum. I said very little because I don't think 1) he would understand my need to talk to people about the things he gets weird about when I talk to him. 2) he would be weirded out if he knew exactly what my fetishes/fantasies were because when he asks me to tell him some, he gets awkward. (So I delete history after reading a story.)
I think it might irritate him a little that I'm open with strangers when I can't tell him everything. But when I try, he closes down. And he's so quiet. I don't have anyone else to talk to. I'm on maternity leave for a year and bored as hell. Lol. If I can't talk to him or my best friend about it, onto the internet I go. Lol.

 

[Daniel_Hart]

Um.. well, yes and no. He knows I read the stories. In passing I've mentioned the forum. I said very little because I don't think 1) he would understand my need to talk to people about the things he gets weird about when I talk to him. 2) he would be weirded out if he knew exactly what my fetishes/fantasies were because when he asks me to tell him some, he gets awkward. (So I delete history after reading a story.)
I think it might irritate him a little that I'm open with strangers when I can't tell him everything. But when I try, he closes down. And he's so quiet. I don't have anyone else to talk to. I'm on maternity leave for a year and bored as hell. Lol. If I can't talk to him or my best friend about it, onto the internet I go. Lol.

Maybe you shouldn't delete the internet history...perhaps he would love to know what turns you on, without having to ask you directly. Could be a shy/confidence thing.

 

[analgirl69]

Maybe you shouldn't delete the internet history...perhaps he would love to know what turns you on, without having to ask you directly. Could be a shy/confidence thing.

Hmm. It is a shy/confidence thing, but yes. It would freak him out. Lol. I want domination and to be quite roughed up, even a little hurt... and he is not like that. AT ALL.

 

[skirt_chaser]

Hmm. It is a shy/confidence thing, but yes. It would freak him out. Lol. I want domination and to be quite roughed up, even a little hurt... and he is not like that. AT ALL.

How rough? You sound like kinky fun!!

 

[analgirl69]

How rough? You sound like kinky fun!!

Hmm, well, I like to be submissive and degraded an ok amount. I like spanking (which he does, but not very long and he could be harder..), hair pulling (sometimes we do a little, but not much at all..), some bondage or him pinning me down so I can't get free, throat and face fucking (we don't really. I deep throat but that isn't the same as him grabbing my pigtails and thrusting in until I gag..), cum shots, maybe a little choking, lots of name calling, telling me what to do as an order rather than at best gently pushing my head down shyly. Hell, it'd be hot to call him "sir" and have him "punish me if I did something he didn't like. I wouldn't mind a collar and chain. All of this on me of course.. And although we have anal many times a week, it's often in the spooning position cus he's tired.. I like doggy style while he smacks my ass really hard. I like that he's admitted to liking to use huge toys on my ass and wants to try fisting.. it wasn't my thing before but it sure is now because I can see how much it turns him on and pleasing him turns me right on. I don't want to hear "does this feel good? Are you close? Have you came yet?" It may sound crazy, but I want him to not give a shit. Then maybe the pressure would be off and I could more often. Honestly, I just want to be used for his pleasure and please him. But he doesn't seem to want that.

 

[skirt_chaser]

Hmm, well, I like to be submissive and degraded an ok amount. I like spanking (which he does, but not very long and he could be harder..), hair pulling (sometimes we do a little, but not much at all..), some bondage or him pinning me down so I can't get free, throat and face fucking (we don't really. I deep throat but that isn't the same as him grabbing my pigtails and thrusting in until I gag..), cum shots, maybe a little choking, lots of name calling, telling me what to do as an order rather than at best gently pushing my head down shyly. Hell, it'd be hot to call him "sir" and have him "punish me if I did something he didn't like. I wouldn't mind a collar and chain. All of this on me of course.. And although we have anal many times a week, it's often in the spooning position cus he's tired.. I like doggy style while he smacks my ass really hard. I like that he's admitted to liking to use huge toys on my ass and wants to try fisting.. it wasn't my thing before but it sure is now because I can see how much it turns him on and pleasing him turns me right on. I don't want to hear "does this feel good? Are you close? Have you came yet?" It may sound crazy, but I want him to not give a shit. Then maybe the pressure would be off and I could more often. Honestly, I just want to be used for his pleasure and please him. But he doesn't seem to want that.

Such a playful little girl. Nowhere to PM you, so your partner doesn't find out all your desires?

 

[analgirl69]

Such a playful little girl. Nowhere to PM you, so your partner doesn't find out all your desires?

I turned off Pms so if he found this by accident he would know I wasn't on here for any mischievous purposes other than to chat with like minded people since he's a little closed off to discussion and even when he tries I find it embarrassing to discuss these things with him based on my perceived reactions from him in the past.

I have mentioned them to him..most of them.. and hinted at the heavier ones.. he doesn't seem interested or doesn't understand what I am asking. I don't think he takes it seriously. I think the truth is he just can't fathom why I would like this and doesn't want to treat me bad. But it's just fantasy! He's sweet to me in real life, as I am to him. I'm not asking for an abusive husband! It's like the lady in the streets, whore in the sheets or whatever. I want him how he is in the streets, but an asshole in the sheets. Lol.

 

[gregy70]

Sometimes I wish my niece knew my handle on here

 

[SkylarFalling]

Hmm, well, I like to be submissive and degraded an ok amount. I like spanking (which he does, but not very long and he could be harder..), hair pulling (sometimes we do a little, but not much at all..), some bondage or him pinning me down so I can't get free, throat and face fucking (we don't really. I deep throat but that isn't the same as him grabbing my pigtails and thrusting in until I gag..), cum shots, maybe a little choking, lots of name calling, telling me what to do as an order rather than at best gently pushing my head down shyly. Hell, it'd be hot to call him "sir" and have him "punish me if I did something he didn't like. I wouldn't mind a collar and chain. All of this on me of course.. And although we have anal many times a week, it's often in the spooning position cus he's tired.. I like doggy style while he smacks my ass really hard. I like that he's admitted to liking to use huge toys on my ass and wants to try fisting.. it wasn't my thing before but it sure is now because I can see how much it turns him on and pleasing him turns me right on. I don't want to hear "does this feel good? Are you close? Have you came yet?" It may sound crazy, but I want him to not give a shit. Then maybe the pressure would be off and I could more often. Honestly, I just want to be used for his pleasure and please him. But he doesn't seem to want that.

This might not sound like what you're into, but it might help him get closer to it, but before my boyfriend really got the whole taking charge thing, we did a lot of kind of wrestling with each other. Playfully, but still kind of serious. Both of us trying to be in charge, rolling around kicking and shouting and laughing and trying to pin the other down. He might find this less intimidating and is still a way he can take charge of you. If you make it into a game, he will undoubtedly want to win. And when you're both out of breath and you can't struggle any more and you're pinned down (this is what tends to happen to me) you might as well encourage him to do what he likes, now he has you caught.

I still do this, starting tickle fights I know I can never win just to get sat on :]

 

[analgirl69]

This might not sound like what you're into, but it might help him get closer to it, but before my boyfriend really got the whole taking charge thing, we did a lot of kind of wrestling with each other. Playfully, but still kind of serious. Both of us trying to be in charge, rolling around kicking and shouting and laughing and trying to pin the other down. He might find this less intimidating and is still a way he can take charge of you. If you make it into a game, he will undoubtedly want to win. And when you're both out of breath and you can't struggle any more and you're pinned down (this is what tends to happen to me) you might as well encourage him to do what he likes, now he has you caught.

I still do this, starting tickle fights I know I can never win just to get sat on :]

Lol. We did that just before we started dating in high school. Me liking being dominated wasn't really a surprise. Him, and 2 other guys all pinned me and tickled me and whatnot one day a few days before we got together. Now that we are together though, not so much. But before I saw your post, I did actually get him to do this yesterday. Lol. I put on my sluttiest shirt and pushup bra that is too small to hold them in all the way, lol, and when he tried to touch, I said he'd have to pin me down because I wouldn't let him touch. Then we started wrestling. I pushed him down and told him I was strong and that he couldn't get me off of him and he couldn't touch. So, like you said, he took the challenge, won easily, and pinned me down as he groped me. Lol. So it did work..

 

[SkylarFalling]

Lol. We did that just before we started dating in high school. Me liking being dominated wasn't really a surprise. Him, and 2 other guys all pinned me and tickled me and whatnot one day a few days before we got together. Now that we are together though, not so much. But before I saw your post, I did actually get him to do this yesterday. Lol. I put on my sluttiest shirt and pushup bra that is too small to hold them in all the way, lol, and when he tried to touch, I said he'd have to pin me down because I wouldn't let him touch. Then we started wrestling. I pushed him down and told him I was strong and that he couldn't get me off of him and he couldn't touch. So, like you said, he took the challenge, won easily, and pinned me down as he groped me. Lol. So it did work..

Now he just has to do it for sex. Get naked and make out like you're ready to behave yourself. Then start just sliding out the way whenever he tries to enter you. Winds mine right up

On a related subject, is this what topping from the bottom means? We don't do the full BDSM lifestyle, it wouldn't work as switches, but that's how I get him started sometimes. He just pins me down of his own accord too sometimes.

And the group tickling thing sounds awesome! I don't know if you have already, but if not, make sure you tell him you liked that.

 

[analgirl69]

Now he just has to do it for sex. Get naked and make out like you're ready to behave yourself. Then start just sliding out the way whenever he tries to enter you. Winds mine right up

On a related subject, is this what topping from the bottom means? We don't do the full BDSM lifestyle, it wouldn't work as switches, but that's how I get him started sometimes. He just pins me down of his own accord too sometimes.

And the group tickling thing sounds awesome! I don't know if you have already, but if not, make sure you tell him you liked that.

I totally told him.. and he did what he does 99% of the time. "Mphf." A half-acknowledged grunt. It's what he does when he is..shy? I don't know and feels too awkward to comment and then changed the subject, usually. Lol. Maddening.

We talked a little more about the things I like a couple days ago and he has been a little more pushy lately, which has been awesome. He's made a big attempt at pulling me around more aggressively to kiss me or fool around and it has been so much better. I realized that as much as the BDSM stuff appeals to me, I would be perfectly satisfied with what he is doing right now, if he keeps it up. I hope he does. Cause it's been such freakin good sex the last few times. Lol.

 

[jack82]

I'm fairly new here, but so far, my wife doesn't know. I don't think she'd care, but I'm still a little hesitant to tell her. I'm pretty happy with our sex life, but I'm definitely more adventurous than her, so I think it works out well.

 

[thesweetsweetness]

I'm fairly new here, but so far, my wife doesn't know. I don't think she'd care, but I'm still a little hesitant to tell her. I'm pretty happy with our sex life, but I'm definitely more adventurous than her, so I think it works out well.

Welcome to Literotica.

 

[djsfun2]

Hubby knows I read stories.... Mostly because I need a cover for the rest of my online activities And, as has been said, if I could share this with him, I'd sure be here a whole lot less..,

My thoughts exactly. I'm in the same boat

 

[nflgirl81]

My husband is aware I read stories but not where.

 

[spankmegirl23]

My dont know and i see it ass you are not cheating as you would in real its for
roleplay,
reading,
chating
i dont see a promblem its better then cheating for real .You know this makes me feel better
My boyfriend dont give me sex alot im to point i dont care i come here sounds bad i know but
I do love him and he dont need to know everything

 

[spankmegirl23]

No, it is my secret. I feel guilty some times, but it works as a good release for me so in the end, I am happy to keep going for the moment.

X

I agree it is a great way to end a stressful day !!

 

[peebudy]

i have my wife convinced all my online time is spent on facebook or one of my sports forums.

i would love it if she shared my interests in kinks and fetishes but she's become somewhat of a prude since she's gotten older.

she's also put on weight so she's not comfortable being naked, even though her extra curves don't bother me one bit.

so yeah, if i didn't have Lit as an outlet (outLit??!!) I'd probably be out on the prowl for some strange.

 

[SactoRN]

Yes he knows. Doesn't seem too interested on being on here himself but he knows my screen name as well.

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

Hubby and I are both on Lit. He knows my screen names on all of my various message boards and often reads my posts (as I do his). One of us hiding this from the other would cause very real damage in our relationship.

 

[MoleskineScribbler]

No, it's my secret indulgence and I want to keep it that way?

 

[Belongs2Beth]

My wife and I edit each other's stories.

 

[MsQuote]

He knows, but he has no real interest in joining me here. He's too busy arguing about politics on Facebook.

Aside from writing some beautiful stories for me, I've been trying to get him to write some more. He made quite a tidy profit from writing erotica back in the mid-90's, but he's so ADHD. His current obsession is remote control helicopters.

Whatever makes him happy is fine by me.