Dom/sub made or born?

[1shadylady]

for incubus'_sub

ur point is well taken and i thank u for ur response.
i wish u happiness. i am no longer living the lifestyle and accept the fact that every relationship is different.. but still a pix of a little girl ..?????

 

[incubus'_sub]

Thank you ADR, I take that as a real compliment coming from you.

Shady, the scene hasn't changed at all, there are no more male submissives than there ever were. What has changed is that the internet has allowed much greater communication over vast distances so that people with similar interests can now be open about them & discuss them with others without embarrassment or fear. Whereas we were once basically stuck in small communities, never knowing or meeting like minded people and therefore staying hidden, we now have the means to interact & be accepted.

 

[incubus'_sub]

It's not just any little girl for ****'* sake, it's ADR herself.

Stop stirring, NOW.

 

[A Desert Rose]

for incubus'_sub

ur point is well taken and i thank u for ur response.
i wish u happiness. i am no longer living the lifestyle and accept the fact that every relationship is different.. but still a pix of a little girl ..?????

I'm really sorry if my AV perplexes you. LOL

I happen to like it. I noticed you could not deny that I am cute.

Keep wondering, dollface. But don't let it furrow your brows too much... that causes wrinkles, you know.

 

[sub UK girl]

as to why females search for dominate males...

there is an oxymoron if i ever heard one..LOL

they are searching for the.. Father figure..someone who will make all the decison's for them ..tell them what to do, when to do.. it is something that has happened since woman's LIB has taken over.. we wanted to be equal and now that we are given that right.. we don't like it so...now the trend is that women are looking for a master/dominate one

now a days there are very few fathers' in most females lifes so they think if they find a male that is bossy/pushy etc etc then they think ahhh dominate man..

well surprise to you woman, a man can not dominate u unless u allow him too .. so that fact is.. who is the controlling one then..? Watch or read the ..Story of O and understand..

It strikes me that you have a touch of "rage against the machine".

I am not, nor ever was, searching for a Father figure. I have a Dad/Daddy/Father, and he's the one that helped my Mummy make me.

Ok, more seriously, I am a sub, but I am also a strong and assertive woman. My, my, how can that be? I hear you cry. It's because giving up that control that I have in most areas of my life, and handing it over to my Dom, turns me on.

I love being at his mercy and him having total power and control over me. It's a trip, a buzz, a rush. Then, when the scene/play session/whatever, is over, I go back to being that confident, decision making, controlled woman again.

It really is as simple as that.

I have many roles in my life and the one I crave the most is my submissive role toward my Dom. When I am submitting to him, it feels so natural, and I feel that I am exactly who I want to be. However, that in no way diminshes my own strength and my own ability to make decisions for myself. I merely choose to give up the decision making for a while.

I don't know if you can even begin to understand that, though.

As for whether I was born or made this way, who knows? Probably a bit of both.

We really are all different.

 

[1shadylady]

match..
game to ya'll..
have a lovely evening........

 

[A Desert Rose]

match..
game to ya'll..
have a lovely evening........

Oh come on.... the fun just started.

Dontcha hate when the loser takes her ball and goes home mad?

 

[RJMasters]

Because I'm just soo damned cute.. that's why.

Not only do I agree, I think its a perfect answer.





It is remarkable how so many think they have a right to impose their misconceptions upon others. What's really funny is when they continue to show their ingnorance and stupidity by not admitting they made a mistake and back up, but rather plunge forward into further disgrace by shifting blame.

And all this time I thought I was the only one who had the right to do that!

 

[1shadylady]

not mad....
just gonna sit on sofa and read for a bit...
u can keep the ball......LOL

 

[A Desert Rose]

Not only do I agree, I think its a perfect answer.





It is remarkable how so many think they have a right to impose their misconceptions upon others. What's really funny is when they continue to show their ingnorance and stupidity by not admitting they made a mistake and back up, but rather plunge forward into further disgrace by shifting blame.

And all this time I thought I was the only one who had the right to do that!

Thank you!

What's wrong with just liking your AV? I mean sheesh... why does some one have think there is some hidden psychological reason for using one? I have no agenda or deep subconcious neurosis (although some might disagree with that) that drew me to using this AV.

I just like it.

I'm so shallow, it's not even funny.

 

[1shadylady]

i was not shifting blame..
i answered a question..so be it .. i reckon my answer was unacceptable..not blaming anyone i respected the answers given to me and stated that i will do some more research/reading on the sofa as suggested.
ya'll the one that are ragging me now..
i am not mad
i gave u the ball to play with
what more do u want from me.. never to appear/post here again.
let me know

 

[dolf]

not mad....
just gonna sit on sofa and read for a bit...
u can keep the ball......LOL

sounds to me like admitting to being in the wrong.
sounds to me like acknowledging the need to learn more before entering debate.
that's cool
xx

i think lots of us first come here with head firmly implanted in anus....we get over it & we fit right in. welcome hon!

 

[bunny bondage]

*blows referee whistle*

okok, things got somewhat hostile in here! guys, it seems that shylady is not used to being around people so open and experienced with their bdsm sexuality and asked her question in what turned out to be a provokotive manner. her ideas about the "lifestyle" are not the same as ours, and we can't blame her for what she thought because of her inexperience. she's here, she must be willing and wanting to learn.

shylady, we will gladly welcome you here and share with you our experiences in the reality of the bdsm lifestyle. but you must first accept that we are each submitting or dominating (or both) according to our own lives, needs, desires, fantasies, fears, and passions - not some manual. there is no "right" or "wrong" way to sub or dom, as long as it follows our only three stipulations: it must be safe, sane, and consensual.

oh, and ADR, thank you!! i'm always trying to learn the science behind bdsm even though it involves pestering every psyc prof i know to give me insight!!

 

[bunny bondage]

double post...sorry...

 

[A Desert Rose]

bunny...

Hey, I just now noticed that you are dressed like a little school girl...

mmmm what deep seated psychological thing does that say about you? hmmmm

LMAO

My God. Who cares what someone chooses as an AV? If you like it... Good on ya!

 

[Kajira Callista]

Not only do I agree, I think its a perfect answer.





It is remarkable how so many think they have a right to impose their misconceptions upon others. What's really funny is when they continue to show their ingnorance and stupidity by not admitting they made a mistake and back up, but rather plunge forward into further disgrace by shifting blame.

And all this time I thought I was the only one who had the right to do that!

thanks RJ this made me spew coke all over the place. lemme go finish reading to see if i missed allt he fun or am gonna have a chance to jump in.

 

[A Desert Rose]

thanks RJ this made me spew coke all over the place. lemme go finish reading to see if i missed allt he fun or am gonna have a chance to jump in.

You better jump in and I want that AV of yours with the pussy prob, posted pronto!

Then we can psychoanalyze you next

(edited because i missed the opportunity at illiteration.. ahahahah)

 

[Kajira Callista]

You better jump in and I want that AV of yours with the pussy prob, posted pronto!

Then we can psychoanalyze you next

(edited because i missed the opportunity at illiteration.. ahahahah)

which one...mouth or downstairs? lol

 

[A Desert Rose]

which one...mouth or downstairs? lol

ahem.... downstairs of course!

 

[bunny bondage]

Re: bunny...

Hey, I just now noticed that you are dressed like a little school girl...

mmmm what deep seated psychological thing does that say about you? hmmmm

LMAO

My God. Who cares what someone chooses as an AV? If you like it... Good on ya!

argh! keep outta my psyche! there's THINGS in there!!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: bunny...

argh! keep outta my psyche! there's THINGS in there!!

well shit bunny.... now I really in! LOL

 

[Kajira Callista]

ahem.... downstairs of course!

who is gonna analyze me?

 

[A Desert Rose]

yeeeeeeehaaaaaaaw KC!!!!!

 

[Kajira Callista]

Lemme put a little of me in here to make things complete. No as a child i was not abused. i come from a normal everyday run of the mill italian familiy from ny. my father has always been a strong constant in my life... still is. As i grew older i looked for "abusive" sexual situations to get into because i got off on it, that was before any understanding of how im made or who i am ever came into play. Analyze away darlings.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Lemme put a little of me in here to make things complete. No as a child i was not abused. i come from a normal everyday run of the mill italian familiy from ny. my father has always been a strong constant in my life... still is. As i grew older i looked for "abusive" sexual situations to get into because i got off on it, that was before any understanding of how im made or who i am ever came into play. Analyze away darlings.

You need a man who can take a firm hand with you.


That will be 200 beans. See the receptionist on the way out.