Erection Killers

[horrorotic]

I still think.

You think are the operative words, others think differently. There's no right or wrong, just preference.

And IMO in the heat of the moment is when people will tend to say some odd or even silly things, adrenalin, lust, onset of orgasm can lead to some jumbled thoughts and words.

I'd think it stranger if in the middle of sex someone could carry on a logical grammatically correct conversation, if that's the case someone is doing something wrong.

Also...sex is a noun, just saying.

 

[Hypoxia]

Generally, one reader's erection-killer is another's hot turn-on. For any term or image employed, some will despise it and some will love and demand it. Write what feels right and damn the torpedoes.

 

[HankDolworth]

Generally, one reader's erection-killer is another's hot turn-on. For any term or image employed, some will despise it and some will love and demand it. Write what feels right and damn the torpedoes.

I’ve had a few comments about my characters and their “choking behaviors”.

Hey really great story, but I’m not a fan of the choking behaviors.

Uh, okay, The characters got off on the “choking behaviors” that was their dynamic, they loved that shit. Story got good reviews, so maybe a few more kinda liked “choking behaviors”

maybe I need to make that a tag on my stories.

 

[GinnyPPC]

"Sexing" is best reserved for chicken farmers.

But sexting on the phone with your partner, now that is fun.

 

[starsong1977]

I figure this topic has been discussed a million times but I can´t seem to find any discussion about it. There are so many great writers here. I have page after page of favorites. Both authors and stories. But some people say things that ,to me, just kill an otherwise good story.

For example, not knowing where a prostate is. Or referring to it as a prostrate for that matter. I read things like, "he finally got all ten inches of his cock up my ass and found my pleasure button......." Jeez Louise it´s barely inside the anus. You can easily reach it with a finger.

Another one is calling her pussy "her sex". Sex is not a noun. It is a verb. And using it as a noun ruins a story for me. There are probably only a thousand words for pussy but "sex" isn´t one of them. In my opinion.

And finally the reason I addressed these erection killers is that I have read several stories lately that get ruined for me by using the word "lover". Who knows, maybe
it´s just me. But if I was in the heat of some good sex, and the girl said "fuck me lover" I´m afraid I would start laughing and lose my woody. I mean, does anyone in the real world call their partner "lover" during sex. And that´s a question. Maybe they do. But it sure sounds stupid to me. A definite erection killer.

Any thoughts? So many good stories. I just hate for them to be ruined by these kind of things.

I had to laugh because I was just talking to someone the other day about this. Well emailing about this. I hate the word cunt. I know some women use it and I have been known to encourage my former partners and now husband quite verbally but cunt just bugs me to no end. "Whose pussy is this" bugs me too but I usually ignore it. Whose cunt is this would probably make me snap their dick off. My husband learned that quite early lol

 

[deucie]

Yeah, it's the elaborate purple prose euphemisms that are the erection killer. Pussy, cunt, cock, dick, those words are all good

I AGREE WHOLE HEARTEDLY.

 

[deucie]

btw

I used the term erection killers because I noticed it on another thread as I was trying to come up with a title. Pet peeves would have been a better description. Thanks ericalauren. And I still prefer her pussy to her sex. lol

 

[MimiRay]

I figure this topic has been discussed a million times but I can´t seem to find any discussion about it. There are so many great writers here. I have page after page of favorites. Both authors and stories. But some people say things that ,to me, just kill an otherwise good story.

For example, not knowing where a prostate is. Or referring to it as a prostrate for that matter. I read things like, "he finally got all ten inches of his cock up my ass and found my pleasure button......." Jeez Louise it´s barely inside the anus. You can easily reach it with a finger.

Another one is calling her pussy "her sex". Sex is not a noun. It is a verb. And using it as a noun ruins a story for me. There are probably only a thousand words for pussy but "sex" isn´t one of them. In my opinion.

And finally the reason I addressed these erection killers is that I have read several stories lately that get ruined for me by using the word "lover". Who knows, maybe
it´s just me. But if I was in the heat of some good sex, and the girl said "fuck me lover" I´m afraid I would start laughing and lose my woody. I mean, does anyone in the real world call their partner "lover" during sex. And that´s a question. Maybe they do. But it sure sounds stupid to me. A definite erection killer.

Any thoughts? So many good stories. I just hate for them to be ruined by these kind of things.

I've called my husband "lover" during sex ever since we were married. It sounds more erotic to me than "husband," "hubby," "shit for brains" or any of the other pet names I have for him when we're NOT making love.

Sometimes I use his real name, but there's no law that says I have to all the time. The pet names that people use for one another are highly individual, and I don't see why one in particular should raise eyebrows. Unless maybe it really Is "shit for brains."

 

[MayorReynolds]

In agreement that "sex" is a noun and a perfectly acceptable one. It's an elegant way to describe her vagina when I don't want the moment to be particularly nasty.

 

[MsNatalie99]

Overly elaborate sexual position

It is always an erection killer for me when I have to read through an entire paragraph about where what part of who is. Elaborate sexual positions can be fun. Chinese wheelbarrow, jackhammer, doggie style, all great. However, if the sexual position is difficult to describe in writing, it's probably difficult to imagine reading. Ultimately I will lose interest in the entire scene.

 

[MartaMaine]

Using the word 'pussy' is something I've struggled with as it seems very American but I've never found an alternative that I like.

For me an erection killer is a story that is way too long.
I want to read about sucking and fucking and taboo things, not about what they had for breakfast.

I suppose that's the difference between erotica and porn although I'd still draw the line at cereal brands!

 

[CZOFTW]

I just discovered a new boner killer: talented authors who seem embarrassed to write stroke stories. The stories start hot and promise hotter but then the author starts to gloss over the sex. A long awaited scene comes and goes without delivering satisfaction or even happening off screen. It's ok to give us what we want!

 

[UtherVierDragon]

I just discovered a new boner killer: talented authors who seem embarrassed to write stroke stories. The stories start hot and promise hotter but then the author starts to gloss over the sex. A long awaited scene comes and goes without delivering satisfaction or even happening off screen. It's ok to give us what we want!

Though if this thread shows anything, "what we want" is highly variable. And, for me at least, finding the right balance between clean, conventionally acceptable prose and hot fucking is always a challenge.