excuse me please, I need some direction

[InnerDarkness]

Sorry if i had hijacked this thread a little bit LOL...

I had someone from here on Lit offer to be my safe call...and I have one other person lined up, too as a back up

and Sir has talked with some family members of His and they will be His safe call...

we are both being very safety cautious about this, and I really appreciate everyone sharing their information here and over on my other thread!

 

[Etoile]

That's actually a good point. These days, you can just say you know your friend was going to meet someone they'd met online, even if they hadn't. That would explain to the police how you know it's an abduction. BDSM doesn't have to come into it.

 

[DVS]

Has anyone who was the safe call ever had to call the police? Exactly what does one say to the cops in this situation?

I once knew a Domme who had her car stolen. In the trunk were all of her toys. When the car was recovered, the toys were missing. She asked the policeman about her "suitcase from the trunk". He asked if there was anything in it, and she hesitantly said "yes".

He left for a bit, and returned with her case. He asked her to open it and be sure everything was there. She said she turned several shades of red, but he told her not to worry, because he had seen it all, being a cop.

I'm sure that's the case, in most larger cities. The police have seen and heard it all, and so have E.R. rooms. You would not be the first to call, in such a situation, a little embarassing, maybe.

 

[WriterDom]

Quoting a non-lit Dom:

Safe calls are good for helping the police find the body... Not much else

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Agree or disagree?

I can see his point.

Quoting Mr. Blonde, "60 minutes past deadline: I call the cops and tell them everything"

60 minutes is a long time for a sub in trouble. Not to mention convincing the cops that they need to check up on this person, and their reaction time.

That being said, I do expect the sub to make whatever arrangements they feel they need.

 

[Safphyre]

I'm really glad to see this post for a couple resons.

I am in a position where I have been e-mailing with a Dom and a Domme in my area. Both independant of each other. The Dom and I have started "talking" about setting a place to meet and I feel that is in the near future with the Domme as well.

It is more comforting to me to see man Dom/mes, whose advice I have learned to trust, all say basically teh same thing. It makes me less nervous about asking the right questions of the individuals I may meet and know what reactions are normal ...and what aren't so I can better protect myself.

Of course the last problem is that since I have no real friends I am undecided how to handle mine but I am sure that will be rectified ( I love that word ...it just sounds so naughty ... doesn't it? ) in time.

One last thing ...when deciding on how to handle your safe calls ...wouldn't it be better to have your person call you ? I may just be being paranoid here .... but I am very bad with street names and the like and I feel it would be rather easy to deceive someone about where they are. Would it not be a second way of "double checking" by having them call you and knowing that at least the phone # is legit? Of course checking the license and all that should give ya a generally good way to safegaurd yourself but there are some really sick people out there and there a very ingenious ways you can falsify most documentation if you really set your heart to it ...

 

[ZenDragoness]

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[NemoAlia]

I'm bumping this thread to say:

I'm totally excited to be able to say to the guy I'm meeting tomorrow, "Hi. My father will be calling during our lunch date. He knows your full name, your phone number, your address, your place of work, your IM name, the place we're meeting, and when. If I don't tell him I'm having a wonderful time, he's calling the cops. And I plan to call him when the date is over too."

Excited, of course, because I'm going out on a date!