Face Slapping

[Leolover711]

I had my face slapped by someone I was dating years ago. His reasoning... "sometimes a woman needs to be slapped". I can't remember the hows or whys of it, but made it made me really angry when he did it, I felt insulted and I asked him to leave my apartment.
Something about it must have stayed with me, for when my Master and I finally got together I asked him to do it as we were having sex. He hesitatingly complied. Of course I enjoyed it, the slap came unexpectedly during a pleasurable act. He slapped me one other time during a break in a blow job. I had become so aroused that I tried to hump/rub against his leg.
He was not amused and smacked me!....that time it was not so thrilling.
Love it and want some more of it, in the proper context of course

Thank you for sharing your experiences. It turns out that that many subbies/slaves find the experience arousing. I have now done this with 3 of them and all found it rather stimulating.

Leo

 

[Netzach]

I can't recommend negotiating this one in advance enough.

with one or two exceptions I usually negotiate this every time I do it, even with someone I've done it with before. A person who likes this one one day can freak out on you the next, it's very volatile for some people.

 

[Leolover711]

I can't recommend negotiating this one in advance enough.

with one or two exceptions I usually negotiate this every time I do it, even with someone I've done it with before. A person who likes this one one day can freak out on you the next, it's very volatile for some people.

sage advice to be sure

 

[pandoravampire]

This could of been a thread my Dom read a few months back, and 'stopped thinking about it and did it'. One day, without ever this activity being mentioned between us, he did this. My reaction was intense. I was ripped bare and humiliated in a way id never experienced. I was so shocked by my response i got very angry. It was the sight of my controlling my automatic response to slap the bastard back, that got him off. That look. So all was wonderful, we played in the sun.

Then, a little bit of tiredness, a little bit of stress, our first ever real row, and he tries something else that's physical, he pushed me outta bed, landing really badly on a wooden floor. I was hurt, but not damaged. I reached out and grabbed the weapon closest to me, i was not in control, i had lost it big time. It took his physical strength to control me, then his Dominance to turn the thing around and gain mutually, from what we discovered from that night. Some of its for later.

Having my face slapped is a quick fire way of dropping me, INSTANTLY. if it works. And it most certainly does, 99.9% of the time for us.

So sometimes, things go a little wrong. If you play on an edge, your gonna fall off now and again. It was a powerful lesson for us both. One that is still revealing more as time goes by.

Id say, yeah, jump in, but be prepared for one hell of a head twister.
But then, one subs edge play, is anothers foreplay i guess.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

This was one I also had to get used to. I also thought it was an abusiv act and I wasn't going to do this.

I don't really remember how it came about, but my slave wanted me to try it on her. I did, and I was surprised at the resultls. she got more turned on and I could not only see it in her face, but she was very wet below. I think the initial shock of me doing it excited her very much. I've since learned that she does like to be humiliated to a point, and the rougher I am with her the better she likes it.

These are things I've learned by listening to her and then applying the things I learned. The better you get to know your partner, the better you become at satisfying them. It's a two way street and sometimes you need a reminder.

 

[Etoile]

Oddly enough, it's not a place-putter for me. I guess maybe because it mostly happens during sex, and not as punishment. It's just a turn-on for me when it's used during sex.

 

[ownedsubgal]

the context definitely makes a difference...occasionally my Master might slap me during sex, and then of course there are those little "love taps" to my cheek as a sign of affection. but most often in our union slaps are used as a disciplinary tool...not really a punishment (at least not by itself), more like a wake up call. maybe speaking out of line, or some other mior infraction. it definitely shuts me up and puts me back in place quick fast and in a hurry.

 

[Ayan23]

my thoughts on face slapping

God, I love it. I don't actually think that face slapping has to necessarily be *degrading*, at least not in a bad way, but the extent to which it's humiliating is SUCH a turn onn...

I've never actually participated in BDSM where i got to have my face slapped or vice verce but I would love to. One time in the chat rooms here I was with a woman who liked being beaten while she was fucked and it was the most incredible experience. I'm a man whose very respectful of women I would NEVER say a woman sometimes needs to be slapped.. but I also would love to slap one hard in the face when she's my sex slave.

 

[mrmadman]

especially in public

I discovered the face-slapping thing a long time ago, almost by accident, I don't even remember how but not looking for it. I just slapped her, and we both had a flash: "O-K! WOW!"

I love spanking, so it shouldn't be a surprise. The skin-to-skin contact, the sharp, explosive sound, the directness and simplicity, the not needing equipment or setup, the instinctive, primal expression of power...

And of course slapping is great in public, when the humiliation/thrill is greatest (and spanking isn't practical anyway).

 

[Loose_by_name]

face slapping is many things
but it can be a reminder of who is owned and by who

Yes Exactly. I totally agree with you .

As for online situations, I originally was 'introduced' to face slapping by first cyber Dom, online and over the phone. He in the UK and myself in Australia.The first time he ordered me to do it I felt quite awkward but after a few goes, I found I got right into it. I enjoyed it so much when asked during chats to prospective Doms, 'What turns you on?'. Face slaping was my number one response.

My Owner enjoys watching me sub out as he slaps........He also enjoys watching me watching him. Sometimes it's a gentle stroke of my cheek and sometimes a full on slap, reddening my cheeks.

The 'not knowing' makes me as wet as the actual slap - positively intoxicating .

 

[Sheaf_Beast]

I would love to hear thoughts from Doms and subs on their experince with face slapping.

Thanks.
Leo

This is something that is strictly negotiated prior to the scene. I hold reservations to an open handed unrestrained face slap. Your partner will flinch, that will cause missed strikes, unsafe for the eyes other sensitive areas.

The safest way I have found to do a face slap is to hold partners head close and tight to my body, hand under chin. Then with my hand semi cupped give a good solid strike to the side of face. It is loud, you have partner restrained and braced and the shock travels thru partners face to my body.

This is all strictly negoiated prior, I would never do a face strike without prior consent.

 

[Leolover711]

Great to see so many thoughts on the subject. It continues to be a source of highly charged eroticism for 2 of My pets. Though it somehting used sparingly and only when the tension is just right.