Finding a sub.

[HB1965]

I just wanted to wish you good luck on your search.

If you are interested in just distance domination what difference does it make if there is a male involved?

Possibly because I see it as being something that I just want between the two of us. I don't want any manipulating her side of things other than me.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Possibly because I see it as being something that I just want between the two of us. I don't want any manipulating her side of things other than me.

I can understand that. My husband is not involved at all in my relationship with my PYL and he in no way manipulated me. But being married I do have responsibilities other than those due to my PYL.

 

[HB1965]

I can understand that. My husband is not involved at all in my relationship with my PYL and he in no way manipulated me. But being married I do have responsibilities other than those due to my PYL.

And that is understood

 

[slaveselene]

If I may, I have been lurking and I would like to ask a few questions. I am knew to Literotica and essentially new to BDSM. You would laugh if I told you of my two attempted experiences.

My questions are really as follows:

1. How does a long distance BDSM relationship work? Is it strictly like role-playing?

2. While many people, I'm sure, are facinated by what they "assume" BDSM is, I am still not sure, I have an understanding of the underlying concept. If you have someone/a man or woman who is an "Alpha" and chooses to take that role, how is that so different than being a master--other than getting into the fetishes and role playing?

3. During my little adventures, I found myself in the very dangerous position where someone was able to overpower me physically, but not mentally or emotionally. What is domination about? Does my question make sense?

Thanks for letting me step in on the conversation. If you would prefer me to repost in a separate thread, I would be happy to.

Best wishes on finding your sub.
Ellora

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=134134

Thats a link to a very good essay on Alphas

 

[subbie_333]

not meaning to stir up whats already settled; but i'd like to put a slightly finer point on it;

If you put an add out there on a BDSM site (or any personal for that matter), there are a couple of things i see friends/ other posters here constantly run into;

Although it IS a good idea to be as specific about what you want as you can, expect that you will get a high volume of quieries from people who do not use the filters properly, let alone bother to read your profile before trying to contact you.

Honestly, i dont think Netzach is wrong to call these people idiots.

I mean really, what kind of common sense does it take to read through someones profile to determine whether or not you would actually want (or even have a chance) to contact them, let alone a Dominant.

unless you're just mass mailing, which in itself seems to be a universally reviled tactic, likely employed by the desperate, stupid, or predatory.

Some get a thrill just from shooting a raunchy PM/email to somebody. And, others get an even bigger thrill from receiving a PM/email reply that is humiliating them by telling them how much of an idiot they are

 

[subbie_333]

hell i used to send them to myself

pervert

 

[midwestyankee]

Uh, way to go with invalidating the experience of bi women who are sick of being treated like Free Sex Show.

If it's idiotic to you and it keeps happening and happening, you get to call people on their shit. Just sayin'. being treated like the fetish soup kitchen for straight people is not MY idea of a good time and I'm not going to pretend it is. Asking is fine, being an asshole once rejected is the common norm.

It's a bit offputting also to continually be approached by people based on their incorrect stereotypes about your sexuality and how it works. "Enjoy the soft touch of my electrodes, bitch."

*Bi Bunny Snort*


(disclaimer: used elsewhere)

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Be prepared to be inundated by the idiotic mdom/femsub couples with the guy wanting to watch the girl experience "the soft touch of a woman," though. Just warnin' ya.

When I do sub to a woman, which I do plan on happening one day, if I was to experience "the soft touch" I'd probably disappointed.

 

[Shagly]