First serious sexual partner - How did it effect your subsequnet sexual paths ?

[bruisedangel]

It's a very good thing that my first sexual partner left no lasting impression of me. Subsequent partners who were memorable have all made some sort of contribution to my desires, wants and needs. Although, it's highly possible that I've subconsciously looked for certain attributes. The first serious sexual partner that I had led me to know I have an exhibitionist streak and a definite like of sex in outdoor settings. The second serious partner let me know that rough sex and rape scenes do it for me.

 

[kaycee217]

I don't think my first sexual partner has had any effect on my subsequent sex life. Maybe they did, but I just don't know *shrugs shoulders*

 

[eudaemonia]

I've thought about the OP's question quite a lot. I think the effect my first love had on me was a very validating one. He and I were evenly matched in terms of style (level of spontaneity, degree of frequency, etc.) and "fit", so right from the start it was easy between us. We just kind of let nature take its course with learning and trying whatever sounded fun or interesting. Any given session could be sweet, silly, intense, just routine or a combo thereof, but it was always at a minimum good sex. "A useful benchmark," in clinical terms. Ever since I've trusted myself to honor my preferences and limits without shame or debate, to know who to pursue and who to avoid, when to keep trying and when to cut and run.

 

[XsnowbunnyX]

I married my first He's not my only, though, and I don't think it's had any affect on how I relate to men or my sex life in general.

I mean to say, if my first was someone else, I'm pretty sure I'd still be how I am.

 

[CraZSexaYChick]

Good question! Well, I definatley know that I had sex way too young and I think that accounted for some of my stupid mistakes that I made as a teenager. I don't put up with shit about sex cause it's not worth it anymore. I think the fact I've been doing it so long has not only made me great at it ;-) but has helped shape the person I've become. As far as him he's probably in jail somewhere and I haven't thought about him until this question lol.

 

[chromecockring]

My very first sexual partner influenced me in the sense that she taught me how to adore licking pussy. We were both way too immature but she knew what she liked about having her lips licked. She'd guide me and would, between heavy grunts, groans, and moans- tell me what she liked. To the best of my knowledge- she came every time I licked her. Not so with our fucking; but then I was really into making her cum any which way I could. Seeing her shudder, shake and quiver as an orgasm rose up within her was a sight to behold.

We became much more adept at oral than we did straight up sex.

That was many moons ago but even since then, I've been an oral fiend and I still love seeing a gorgeous woman climax.

 

[ravi64]

first sexual experience

my first partner was a much married and very pretty women who just could not get enough cock ,let us say that at 28 she was 10 years older then me she lived in the neighbourhood and wanted a cock every which way she could take it ,she had very heavy and painful monthly blues but wanted anal during those times.what i learnt from her was that the sex urge has no morals and must be satisfied at every opportunity

 

[WriterDom]

She was a year younger and very hot. Up for any kind of sex other than anal at the drop of a hat. It was high school and I don't think many kids were doing anal back then. With the internet it might be different now.

 

[MisterSir]

I haven't had one. What do you bloody think?

 

[irishwoody]

I haven't had one. What do you bloody think?

Seeking serious answers please. I'm interested in whether a persons first serious sexual (not casual) partner has a large (or little) influence on their desires, likes and subsequent sexual development. Please contribute any meaningful answer.

Thanks to all who have answered honestly..

 

[silvastormcloud]

My first partner was much older then me and it took me a long time after him to get my confidence back to a place where i feel comfortable trying new things.

He was such a perfectionist that if something didnt work the first time or if i didnt do what he expected he would just stop or worse yell.

Ever since i have sort of been in my shell a lot and been less adventorours then i thought i would be

 

[deathbypickle]

21 years ago one made me dislike sex and that i was to be used only for a mans pleasure

6 years ago another showed me it doesn't have to be that way....

today I have the best most wonderful man in my life

 

[otakukitten]

My first sexual partner was also my ex-husband. He didn't understand anything about pleasing a woman other than sticking it in and doing the deed. We essentially were both virgins. His inexperience wasn't why I divorced him; that's another story. When I left and sought out someone else, it was this that put me in the path of my own sexual exploration. My current husband gave me first real orgasm and made me feel good, rather than someone who just laid there.