First Thread. Discussing Fetishes

[lovebound]

Lizzie and lovebound, I am with you 100% ... power and control .... whew, totally my thing.

I also like anything that pushes boundaries.

Other things that turn me on (some of which are more unusual than others): cheesecake, wristwatches, long toned legs in high heels, an arched back, lipstick on the edge of a glass, the smell of cinnamon, collars, leashes, handcuffs/restraints, rope, and gambling (i think because it makes me think of losing myself in a wager to someone else)

I find that really cute actually... I think I'll steal it for a story if you don't mind!

Pretty sure I share most of those, including cinnamon, for some reason.

 

[Rosemaryythyme]

Hands down the power and control for me. Nothing turns me on more than a guy just taking what he wants whenever he wants.

 

[SkAoUt]

I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out if I've got any fetishes. I've got lots of kinks but few fetishes. Its not a constant thing. My kinks are fluid and changing.

I guess pregnant woman is a fetish however its contextual. I don't creep on women that're up the stick in public. No heavy breathing, shuffling to get closer etc... It ranges from the awe of life without the sexualization and grows from there. I can't say what happens for my perception to change. Probably she does something that turns her from a mommy to a woman. Could be something as simple as a look.

 

[where]

the only real fetish I have is fingerprints.

I have lots of kinks though.

 

[where]

actually, I also fetishise really big, tall men.

 

[Lancecastor]

It's only a fetish if you are not able to become aroused without it and if it's more important than intimacy with a person.

You're all just wanking on your egos talking about what turns you on.

Playground II.

 

[DarkBee]

It's only a fetish if you are not able to become aroused without it and if it's more important than intimacy with a person.

You're all just wanking on your egos talking about what turns you on.

Playground II.

Since you seem to know it all (but probably missed the turn to the GB), why don't you tell us what yours is then?

 

[Lancecastor]

Since you seem to know it all (but probably missed the turn to the GB), why don't you tell us what yours is then?

I know enough to know faux fetishists when I see them.

If you're going to have a "Fetish Forum" with any credibility, you should at least define your terms....otherwise, it's just another Playground.

Definition

Fetishism is a form of paraphilia, a disorder that is characterized by recurrent intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies generally involving non-human objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner (not merely simulated), or children or other non-consenting persons. The essential feature of fetishism is recurrent intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving specific objects. While any object may become a fetish, the distinguishing feature is its connection with sex or sexual gratification. A diagnosis of fetishism is made only if an individual has acted on these urges, is markedly distressed by them, or if the fetish object is required for gratification.

For some people with a paraphilia such as fetishism, paraphilic fantasies or stimuli may be necessary for erotic arousal and are always included in sexual activity, or the presence of the fetish object may occur only episodically. For example, the fetish object may only be necessary for arousal during periods of stress , and at other times, the person is able to function sexually without the fetish or stimuli related to the fetish.

Description

As stated, a fetish is a form of paraphilia, and in fetishism, the affected person has created a strong association between an object and sexual pleasure or gratification. A fetish is not simply a pleasant memory—it is a dominant component of most sexual situations. Most fetishes are objects or body parts. Common fetishes involve items of clothing, stuffed animals, or other non-sexual objects. Body fetishes may involve breasts, legs, buttocks, or genitals.

A person with a fetish often spends significant amounts of time thinking about the object of the fetish. Further, the object is intimately related to sexual pleasure or gratification. In the extreme, the presence of the fetish object is required for sexual release and gratification.

 

[blade_rocknut]

Age old wisdom.

Don't feed the FUCKING TROLL

 

[Lancecastor]

You are a married man who dresses up like a girl...and you're calling me names?

Please read the Sticky at the top of this Forum...and don't do it again.

 

[blade_rocknut]

Read the sticky...yes. excellent advice.
Re-read it yourself....all of it.

You are now ignored, as I should've done to begin with.

 

[small1]

Kilts

Don't really think this is a fetish, but a man in a kilt does turn me on a lot. And I do mean a lot.

 

[Lancecastor]

Read the sticky...yes. excellent advice.
.

Good girl.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

It's only a fetish if you are not able to become aroused without it and if it's more important than intimacy with a person.

That's pretty much it.

I rarely, rarely become aroused without it. But it's also very much tied with the intimacy I share with that person. I don't think I can separate the two.

 

[ClassyGirl]

I have an innocence fetish... if anyone would call that a fetish. many of my most frequently used masturbatory fantasies are from my first sexual experiences and losing my innocence. Thinking about taking someone's sexual innocence, that sort of thing.

 

[DarkSidEclipse]

Skirts and whats under them

Trying to figure what kind of a panties a woman is wearing when they wear tight pants

Camel toe

Role Playing/Costume play

 

[Lancecastor]

That's pretty much it.

I rarely, rarely become aroused without it. But it's also very much tied with the intimacy I share with that person. I don't think I can separate the two.

Maybe tying the two together is the way we normalize or romanticize the fetish...don't know. But i know what you're saying.

 

[Emerald_Lilly]

I find that really cute actually... I think I'll steal it for a story if you don't mind!

Feel free to steal it for a story ... It is actually the basis for the historical romance I am writing.

 

[bronco20]

absolutely love the high heels look....as for more kinkier things im am very much into brother/sister incest...

 

[Xelebes]

Piss
Cotton
Glasses

Mostly. I'll watch some of the other weirder stuff like scat, blood (save for menses and flowerblood) and puke but only as a voyeur.

 

[fuckmeat]

Religion.

Religious imagery. Sin and redemption. Kneeling. Forgiveness. Tasks to earn same. Stone gothic churches. Ritual. Articulation of desire.

moans softly in agreement

I don't suppose you've ever considered dabbling in the SRP forum?

 

[louducca]

this is a bit embarrassing to admit but until i read the post from lancecastor i was definitely misusing the term fetish for what i now know is faux fetish. seriously, i appreciate the clarification. thank you.
the only confusion remaining for me is whether or not a fetish has to be both the must have arousal ingredient and the preferred mode of transport over intimacy or if only having one of the two would qualify it.
in the case that it might be the latter then i guess i do have a fetish; and even though it's about as basic as i imagine a fetish can get it's still absolutely a necessity for me to become aroused - Big Tits. That's my fetish. And while I'm sure someone is thinking that there are any number of waify super models out there that could get me going, my response to that is - what's the point? I just don't see why I would even bother if tits weren't on the menu.