For the women: Would a PROOF pic offend you?

[haurni]

I don't think it's appropriate to ask for a 'proof' pic. I've chatted with a few people who turned out not to be exactly as advertised, which was a bit hurtful, but I like them for other reasons so I'm still friends with them. I don't mind giving out (certain) pictures of myself, even if I don't get any in return, because I get a kick out of that. And if I like someone, sure I'd want to see them, but it's their call if they want to provide pics or not. Certainly if I were female and someone persisted I'd most likely break contact with them.

 

[xBuxombabex]

I don't think it's appropriate to ask for a 'proof' pic. I've chatted with a few people who turned out not to be exactly as advertised, which was a bit hurtful, but I like them for other reasons so I'm still friends with them. I don't mind giving out (certain) pictures of myself, even if I don't get any in return, because I get a kick out of that. And if I like someone, sure I'd want to see them, but it's their call if they want to provide pics or not. Certainly if I were female and someone persisted I'd most likely break contact with them.

I've sent pictures with a sign held up saying hi to a particular person because I know they'd get a kick out of it - not sure how I'd feel about being asked to prove who I am. As others have said I have no intention of meeting up with anyone from here so I'm not too bothered about knowing 'the truth' about them!

 

[xBuxombabex]

Sorry haurni quoted you by accident there!

 

[bestofthebest]

Very interesting thread, and interesting replies. Kudos to everyone that took the time to share their opinion.

 

[BiTodd]

I am a consumate exhibitionist. i just love proving stuff through pictures.

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

I think for guys it's different because of majority to all of the men here are really men. I have yet to hear of a woman pretending to be a man. It's always the other way around.

If anyone has ever had it happen where a woman did pretend, I'd love to hear about it. That's so odd.

 

[haurni]

Sorry haurni quoted you by accident there!

That's okay... you can send me a pic to prove you're sorry.

 

[xBuxombabex]

That's okay... you can send me a pic to prove you're sorry.

Hahaha - with pleasure!

 

[Arlan]

I don't really understand the point of asking.

If you're talking about hooking up in real life, it would be pretty stupid for them to make stuff up about what they look like or give a fake picture, since they'd be found out eventually.

If you're not going to meet them in real life, who cares what package they come in? Male, female, hyper-intelligent eggplant... does it really matter as long as they're typing something worth reading?

 

[whynotjustsayit]

I don't really understand the point of asking.

If you're talking about hooking up in real life, it would be pretty stupid for them to make stuff up about what they look like or give a fake picture, since they'd be found out eventually.

If you're not going to meet them in real life, who cares what package they come in? Male, female, hyper-intelligent eggplant... does it really matter as long as they're typing something worth reading?

The point is probably that devotedly hetero men are repulsed by the idea they may be communicating in a sexual manner (flirting, discussing desires with, cybering, etc.) with one of these weirdo fakers out there who go around tricking hetero males into talking with them based upon misrepresenting themselves as women.

 

[Arlan]

The point is probably that devotedly hetero men are repulsed by the idea they may be communicating in a sexual manner (flirting, discussing desires with, cybering, etc.) with one of these weirdo fakers out there who go around tricking hetero males into talking with them based upon misrepresenting themselves as women.

I know that. I guess what I meant is that I don't really identify with that mindset. I'm bi, or something like that. It's complicated. In any case, gender isn't a deal-breaker IRL any more than online. However, I do find some people physically attractive, and others not so attractive. People don't suddenly become less fun to talk to if it turns out they do nothing at all for me, physically.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

I know that. I guess what I meant is that I don't really identify with that mindset. I'm bi, or something like that. It's complicated. In any case, gender isn't a deal-breaker IRL any more than online. However, I do find some people physically attractive, and others not so attractive. People don't suddenly become less fun to talk to if it turns out they do nothing at all for me, physically.

Interesting. Well, I can see if you're bi and not hung up on knowing what someone might look like that you talk with online, then a proof picture would be unnecessary and irrelevant for you.

I don't know what the typical experience is but I would guess more straight men than not want to know what the woman looks like that they're talking with...men reputedly being so visually oriented and all. I know that even if they don't ask for my picture right away, in general men almost universally sure don't hesitate to ask what I'm wearing. Sometimes I think mental (or actual) images of sexy clothing are more important to men than a woman's actual looks !

 

[Arlan]

Interesting. Well, I can see if you're bi and not hung up on knowing what someone might look like that you talk with online, then a proof picture would be unnecessary and irrelevant for you.

I don't know what the typical experience is but I would guess more straight men than not want to know what the woman looks like that they're talking with...men reputedly being so visually oriented and all. I know that even if they don't ask for my picture right away, in general men almost universally sure don't hesitate to ask what I'm wearing. Sometimes I think mental (or actual) images of sexy clothing are more important to men than a woman's actual looks !

But if they already have their mental (or actual) image, why risk ruining the fantasy by demanding proof that they might not get? As long as I don't find out what y'all look like, I will imagine you look like your avatars, even though I suspect strongly that most people don't actually use their own pictures. The avatar is the only image I have, so I go with it. It even works with the cartoon avatars. (Maybe not the non-anthropomorphic ones, like the butterfly.)