Fuck it- let’s start swiping

[guffmut]

Minor update- I had dinner with another gentleman last Friday night. It was not the most amazing evening ever but it was fine.

I’ve talked a little with both guys since then but no future plans at this point

I have a few other flirtatious back and forth a going as well

I have done one dumb thing- I am continuing to speak with a 24 year old grad student (not at the college I work at and I’m 34 for reference) who clearly is looking for a hook up…….. but he’s realllllllllly hot and I shouldn’t do that kind of thing ………… but if offer I’m surely going to do that thing.

Yeah, there's absolutely nobody on this site who's going to tell you NOT to do him (and tell us all about it later ).

 

[InCNCestBangPie]

I have done one dumb thing- I am continuing to speak with a 24 year old grad student (not at the college I work at and I’m 34 for reference) who clearly is looking for a hook up…….. but he’s realllllllllly hot and I shouldn’t do that kind of thing ………… but if offer I’m surely going to do that thing.

Dumb according to who? Personally, I wouldn't, but I'm not into younger guys. If you think it's dumb & say you shouldn't, then I'd go with your gut feeling. Besides, it's my understanding that you're on these dating sites in search of more grounded, deeper connections. If you're under the impression that's not what he wants, no need to waste the time.

Of course...leading a horny younger guy around is quite fun. But a hot younger guy?? Fuck yes, lol. It's exciting, I get it. Just trust your instincts. Because you're already doing so well. Hell, I trust your instincts, lol.
Keep enjoying your journey!

 

[Malcolm_79]

Dating sites suck... new to it but no luck unless I pay for it lol.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Minor update- I had dinner with another gentleman last Friday night. It was not the most amazing evening ever but it was fine.

I’ve talked a little with both guys since then but no future plans at this point

I have a few other flirtatious back and forth a going as well

I have done one dumb thing- I am continuing to speak with a 24 year old grad student (not at the college I work at and I’m 34 for reference) who clearly is looking for a hook up…….. but he’s realllllllllly hot and I shouldn’t do that kind of thing ………… but if offer I’m surely going to do that thing.

Why shouldn’t you do that sort of thing? Not a rhetorical question.

 

[boogiefever]

Minor update- I had dinner with another gentleman last Friday night. It was not the most amazing evening ever but it was fine.

I’ve talked a little with both guys since then but no future plans at this point

I have a few other flirtatious back and forth a going as well

I have done one dumb thing- I am continuing to speak with a 24 year old grad student (not at the college I work at and I’m 34 for reference) who clearly is looking for a hook up…….. but he’s realllllllllly hot and I shouldn’t do that kind of thing ………… but if offer I’m surely going to do that thing.

Did you do that thing? You know the thing…

 

[Soma99]

Did you do that thing? You know the thing…

Sooooooooo yes……….. but not with the young guy

Last friday night I let a friend for dinner, then one of her coworkers and her husband joined us, then one of the husband’s friends come out…….

Everyone else called it a night except the husband’s friend……..

Honestly he was pretty straightforward and asked me to go back to his place……

Well Soma got laid for the first time in months!!!!!!

Probably not going to be a long term thing, but it was fun for the evening!

 

[Dhfranklin94]

Minor update- I had dinner with another gentleman last Friday night. It was not the most amazing evening ever but it was fine.

I’ve talked a little with both guys since then but no future plans at this point

I have a few other flirtatious back and forth a going as well

I have done one dumb thing- I am continuing to speak with a 24 year old grad student (not at the college I work at and I’m 34 for reference) who clearly is looking for a hook up…….. but he’s realllllllllly hot and I shouldn’t do that kind of thing ………… but if offer I’m surely going to do that thing.

Have fun and be safe.

 

[Jaws82]

Sooooooooo yes……….. but not with the young guy

Last friday night I let a friend for dinner, then one of her coworkers and her husband joined us, then one of the husband’s friends come out…….

Everyone else called it a night except the husband’s friend……..

Honestly he was pretty straightforward and asked me to go back to his place……

Well Soma got laid for the first time in months!!!!!!

Probably not going to be a long term thing, but it was fun for the evening!

GET IT!

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Sooooooooo yes……….. but not with the young guy

Last friday night I let a friend for dinner, then one of her coworkers and her husband joined us, then one of the husband’s friends come out…….

Everyone else called it a night except the husband’s friend……..

Honestly he was pretty straightforward and asked me to go back to his place……

Well Soma got laid for the first time in months!!!!!!

Probably not going to be a long term thing, but it was fun for the evening!

Glad you enjoyed.

 

[AlexBailey]

I have done one dumb thing- I am continuing to speak with a 24 year old grad student (not at the college I work at and I’m 34 for reference) who clearly is looking for a hook up…….. but he’s realllllllllly hot and I shouldn’t do that kind of thing ………… but if offer I’m surely going to do that thing.

Congratulations on your new adventure and props for being open minded.

When I was nineteen, a thirty five year old work-friend of my step mother seduced me at a formal party. She was cute, fun and horny and said I was spoiling her against guys her age.

We had a some casual rendezvous that seemed almost like mentoring sessions. It lasted a couple of months and was good for both of us. It was stress free in spite of the fact that my dad and stepmother knew. They didn’t encourage it but they were certainly amused.

That was over thirty years ago and fortunately I told my wife about it. When my father passed a couple years ago she came to the funeral. She wound up hanging out and meeting my wife. It was all good - no regrets.

Seize the day!

 

[Soma99]

Little update:

It’s been a busy weekend- just as I was leaving work yesterday I got invited to meet a guy at a bar near campus. I dropped in and ended up having a few drinks- I needed to drive home so nothing too wild but it was a nice encounter.

I was pretty tired this morning but I still made my Saturday morning meeting at a park with a guy and our dogs. The weather was terrible but I actually really liked him. He’s probably my favorite guy so far. I wish the weather had been better since we only ended up together for about a half hour, but I really hope to see him again.

Went home and took a nap- now I’m getting ready to meet another guy tonight- this will be our second “date?” (Not the guy I had sex with)

Anyways- busy weekend, but there is a STRONG chance I’m gonna want to watch some porn tomorrow night so if your around I usually do that around 10:30 east coast time. Maybe you can join me!

 

[Unleashthelegions]

Alright- it’s been a long time since I’ve made any real effort to date- I got a new job, had a knee issue, and the weather has been cold as fuck.

But starting today I’ve updated multiple dating profiles and even signed up for a more “adult” (not like a kinky one, like one used by generally older people more serious about finding a relationship——- I think) one.

I’ve set the age ranges pretty wide, and am going to say yes as much as I can handle.

I’m sure 98% of people don’t care- but I’m happy to keep anyone who does updated on the cluster fuck I’m sure I’ll turn the next few months into.

So let the unfruitful swiping and increase to my overall screen time begin.

May god have mercy on my soul and possibly my vagina.

Good luck, I hope the search goes well.

 

[Soma99]

Little update:

It’s been a busy weekend- just as I was leaving work yesterday I got invited to meet a guy at a bar near campus. I dropped in and ended up having a few drinks- I needed to drive home so nothing too wild but it was a nice encounter.

I was pretty tired this morning but I still made my Saturday morning meeting at a park with a guy and our dogs. The weather was terrible but I actually really liked him. He’s probably my favorite guy so far. I wish the weather had been better since we only ended up together for about a half hour, but I really hope to see him again.

Went home and took a nap- now I’m getting ready to meet another guy tonight- this will be our second “date?” (Not the guy I had sex with)

Anyways- busy weekend, but there is a STRONG chance I’m gonna want to watch some porn tomorrow night so if your around I usually do that around 10:30 east coast time. Maybe you can join me!

Ok well tonight did not go well, and it was my fault.

This was tooooooooooo much for me- I was small talked out, he tried and didn’t ask him things, and I didn’t really give him anything.

I feel bad, he tried and I was kinda an ass. I can’t really explain it to him either- like what do I say “hey sorry- I was just worn out from talking to all these other guys!”

Now I can’t sleep because I felt tired before I left and had a bunch of caffeine……. Thank god I have tomorrow to recover

 

[Drsquirrel0]

Ok well tonight did not go well, and it was my fault.

This was tooooooooooo much for me- I was small talked out, he tried and didn’t ask him things, and I didn’t really give him anything.

I feel bad, he tried and I was kinda an ass. I can’t really explain it to him either- like what do I say “hey sorry- I was just worn out from talking to all these other guys!”

Now I can’t sleep because I felt tired before I left and had a bunch of caffeine……. Thank god I have tomorrow to recover

Its okay you tried thats whats important

 

[Soma99]

Ok I have not updated this in awhile- here is where my love/ sex/ desperation to not be alone life stands:

So I’m seeing one guy, and he’s fun when we are out, or having sex, but when we just hang out it’s kinda not great. Like we need an activity which is probably not a great sign

Now I’ve been talking to another guy, he’s a little older……….. and he’s married. He SWEARS he has an open marriage, that his wife has dated other people (he says he has not yet) and she has no problem with him seeing another woman. I don’t know though - we are actually meeting tonight - it feels very weird

Why am I doing this- if the idea is I want a real partner a guy married to another person isn’t really an option and yet knowing that I still made sure I got my eyebrows done and shaved everything before tonight.

Ugh Soma, you dumb slut

 

[johnwyne007]

Ok I have not updated this in awhile- here is where my love/ sex/ desperation to not be alone life stands:

So I’m seeing one guy, and he’s fun when we are out, or having sex, but when we just hang out it’s kinda not great. Like we need an activity which is probably not a great sign

Now I’ve been talking to another guy, he’s a little older……….. and he’s married. He SWEARS he has an open marriage, that his wife has dated other people (he says he has not yet) and she has no problem with him seeing another woman. I don’t know though - we are actually meeting tonight - it feels very weird

Why am I doing this- if the idea is I want a real partner a guy married to another person isn’t really an option and yet knowing that I still made sure I got my eyebrows done and shaved everything before tonight.

Ugh Soma, you dumb slut

Well you are getting at least what you need right now. I will say reading your posts and porn fun, you are an incredible catch. I hope you have fun tonight and get what you need. If you want to talk, you are welcomed to message me.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Ok I have not updated this in awhile- here is where my love/ sex/ desperation to not be alone life stands:

So I’m seeing one guy, and he’s fun when we are out, or having sex, but when we just hang out it’s kinda not great. Like we need an activity which is probably not a great sign

Now I’ve been talking to another guy, he’s a little older……….. and he’s married. He SWEARS he has an open marriage, that his wife has dated other people (he says he has not yet) and she has no problem with him seeing another woman. I don’t know though - we are actually meeting tonight - it feels very weird

Why am I doing this- if the idea is I want a real partner a guy married to another person isn’t really an option and yet knowing that I still made sure I got my eyebrows done and shaved everything before tonight.

Ugh Soma, you dumb slut

This feels sus, but why not ask to call/text/speak to the wife to validate? Then you'll know if this has potential or not.

 

[Soma99]

This feels sus, but why not ask to call/text/speak to the wife to validate? Then you'll know if this has potential or not.

I thought about that but I’m not going to ask some third person for permission to go on a date with a guy I’m interested in.

Of course it’s sus- I think the saying is “play stupid games win stupid prizes” and I have spent a lot of my life confirming that

 

[eric_erosfan]

Ok I have not updated this in awhile- here is where my love/ sex/ desperation to not be alone life stands:

So I’m seeing one guy, and he’s fun when we are out, or having sex, but when we just hang out it’s kinda not great. Like we need an activity which is probably not a great sign

Now I’ve been talking to another guy, he’s a little older……….. and he’s married. He SWEARS he has an open marriage, that his wife has dated other people (he says he has not yet) and she has no problem with him seeing another woman. I don’t know though - we are actually meeting tonight - it feels very weird

Why am I doing this- if the idea is I want a real partner a guy married to another person isn’t really an option and yet knowing that I still made sure I got my eyebrows done and shaved everything before tonight.

Ugh Soma, you dumb slut

Hanging out is the majority of a relationship. That is where he makes you laugh, or you share thoughts that you are both interested in. Common interests/hobbies? Similar sense of humor? Sex only is fine unless you want more.

And if that is all you want, we'll I'm in an open relationship too...yeah, that's the ticket, she wants me to have sex with 3 or 4...thousand women. Yeah that's what she told me this morning....

 

[guitar_player]

Ok I have not updated this in awhile- here is where my love/ sex/ desperation to not be alone life stands:

So I’m seeing one guy, and he’s fun when we are out, or having sex, but when we just hang out it’s kinda not great. Like we need an activity which is probably not a great sign

Now I’ve been talking to another guy, he’s a little older……….. and he’s married. He SWEARS he has an open marriage, that his wife has dated other people (he says he has not yet) and she has no problem with him seeing another woman. I don’t know though - we are actually meeting tonight - it feels very weird

Why am I doing this- if the idea is I want a real partner a guy married to another person isn’t really an option and yet knowing that I still made sure I got my eyebrows done and shaved everything before tonight.

Ugh Soma, you dumb slut

Your feeling are not lying to you. If it feels like a wrong fit then it probably is. Also if he is in an open marriage then ask his wife if he is in an open marriage.

 

[guffmut]

Hanging out is the majority of a relationship. That is where he makes you laugh, or you share thoughts that you are both interested in. Common interests/hobbies? Similar sense of humor? Sex only is fine unless you want more.

And if that is all you want, we'll I'm in an open relationship too...yeah, that's the ticket, she wants me to have sex with 3 or 4...thousand women. Yeah that's what she told me this morning....

Totally agree with the centrality of hanging out. After my marriage broke up, I had an awesome summer of fun and sex with a pretty good looking woman. But after a few months I realized there just wasn't enough there, and had to move on.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I thought about that but I’m not going to ask some third person for permission to go on a date with a guy I’m interested in.

Of course it’s sus- I think the saying is “play stupid games win stupid prizes” and I have spent a lot of my life confirming that

Makes sense, but not so much as asking permission as validating the honesty if this is something you hope for some stability with.

I'm the master of stupid games, so you're speaking to the champ.

 

[Soma99]

OK so this is what happened.

Friday night I had fun. I like this guy. Fuck I was so annoyed I liked him. I activly avoided talking about anything related to wifey.

So Saturday we were texting again and I told him if he really had an open marriage he would have no issue meeting me again right now. Like stand up and tell your wife your going on a date again. He said no problem. When he met me I had him call his wife and say infront of me "Hi **** I am here with Soma"

So I'm 99% sure he really has an open relationship.

So I guess that's good but it's still not a great fit I don't think.... you know because he's married and all. I don't know. Like if I want to blow him do I have to ask if he has showered since the last time he fucked her? If I send him a nude, will she see it?

Anyways- I'm gonna watch some porn tonight if anyone wants to join me. Look for the thread I will start in a little bit. Obvously cuckold/ cuckquean (spelling?)/ things that make me feel weird will be the theme.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

OK so this is what happened.

Friday night I had fun. I like this guy. Fuck I was so annoyed I liked him. I activly avoided talking about anything related to wifey.

So Saturday we were texting again and I told him if he really had an open marriage he would have no issue meeting me again right now. Like stand up and tell your wife your going on a date again. He said no problem. When he met me I had him call his wife and say infront of me "Hi **** I am here with Soma"

So I'm 99% sure he really has an open relationship.

So I guess that's good but it's still not a great fit I don't think.... you know because he's married and all. I don't know. Like if I want to blow him do I have to ask if he has showered since the last time he fucked her? If I send him a nude, will she see it?

Anyways- I'm gonna watch some porn tonight if anyone wants to join me. Look for the thread I will start in a little bit. Obvously cuckold/ cuckquean (spelling?)/ things that make me feel weird will be the theme.

Well, it sounds like he really is open, or really good at bluffing. Either way, if you're looking for a fuck buddy, he sounds great, but if you want something more permanent, his current marriage may be a problem.

Maybe you can be one giant ball of love as a throuple

 

[Shanes_OralOrations]

Sounds like a convenient fuck-buddy while yo keep looking for lasting one- as long as you won't get attached I guess. Not for everyone (wasn't for me), but I'm sure your lit fans will enjoy hearing about it.

Like if I want to blow him do I have to ask if he has showered since the last time he fucked her? If I send him a nude, will she see it?

I would have thought you'd try to be the one who's taste SHE is sucking off his shaft. At least that would fit some of your porn fantasies I think.