Gag Reflex

[Howling_Ire]

Catalina... you go girl!! That's a great attitude and will ultimately get you much better care.


Justina, I don't blame you for being cautious in your small town. But, you do have a right to confidentiality. I bet your doc knows all kinds of juicy secrets about people you see every day and has never breathed a word of them to anybody.

i agree with Desdemona..my dad's an er dr, and i have some other relatives that are in various feilds of the medical professon...trust me, expeicaly with the emergency guys, but other dr's too, they have seen it before..i mean they have people come to them on a regular basis with all kinds of bizzar problems, which will make most of the one's anyone here comes to them with look like nothing

like people who eat things, my dad actualy had to tell this guy who obessively eats quarters that sence they just can't get him to stop it, and it's getting to the point operating on him for blockages is dangerioius, that he can only eat the one's that don't have the eagle on the back, because they are thinner and pass t hrough him, where as the older one's with the eagles on the back get stuck when he eats large amounts of them.

so if you have to go into the dr cause you can't take dick in your throat, think about the fact you're not bringing him a belly full of eagle quarters and smile.

also i can relate on the gag reflex..i agree with the lots of spit and relaxing advice..but i've never been good at deep throat, and honestly i've puked on my partner before... he loves me so he just washes up, makes some bad jokes, and forgives me..because well... if you love someone, you over look vomit. i know i know, tmi

 

[catalina_francisco]

I would also support the doctor option as I knew a young girl who choked to death on an aspirin all because she felt stupid telling the doctor she was having problems with gag reflex. Was a tragic loss for a bit of embarrassment.

Catalina

 

[niteshade]

Ok, guys, I have a Dr. appt. on Monday morning. I was going anyway for my birthcontrol shot (god I love that, only once every three months!) So I have promised myself I will ask him. It is just gonna be really wierd. Then again, I was going to have to tell him about my nipple rings anyway. so I can just get it all over with at one time.

It should be interesting. Getting ready for the yearly, and Dr. Sam asking if I have anything I need to ask him about.

"Well, Actually I wanted you to check the progress of my nipple piercings... do they look to be healing well to you? Ohhhh, and another thing... I keep choking on my boyfriends cock... can you recommend a solution?"

Actually, I wrote everything down. I will probably just walk in and hand him the list, mouth tightly closed.

 

[Howling_Ire]

hey good for you, i know it can be hard going in for things that are embariseing... i had a very bad night one night and a couple of months later had to go in and explaine to a dr why i really realy needed an HIV test. so i know it can be embiraseing and hard, but you're doing the right thing.

you could start out telling the dr that even brushing your teeth makes you gag, and that you've had some other problems..and if you feel they are takeing it to lightly bring up the blow job problem..sometimes putting your little toe in the water is alot less intimidateing

 

[Mr Blonde]

Just be direct and to the point with the doctor. Nothing wrong with writing it down. Tell him if he does not know that you would like to be referred to some sort of specialist.

I think more women have this problem and it is sort of under-discussed. One ex-girlfriend threw up on me. My last girlfriend felt uncomfortable with gagging. It happens.

Good luck and please report back with the results.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Just a random thought....

Have you ever given any thought to changing to a female doctor or better yet a female ARNP (advanced registered nurse practioner)? Alot of health insurance plans these days cover ARNPs for things like yearly exams.




What is a Nurse Practitioner?



Just my opinion of course, and I'm biased, being an RN, but give me an ARNP over old and crusty Dr. Bill, Bob, Sam or Ted any day

~anelize

 

[James G 5]

Just a random thought....

Have you ever given any thought to changing to a female doctor or better yet a female ARNP (advanced registered nurse practioner)? Alot of health insurance plans these days cover ARNPs for things like yearly exams.

Just my opinion of course, and I'm biased, being an RN, but give me an ARNP over old and crusty Dr. Bill, Bob, Sam or Ted any day

~anelize

IMHO, many female medical professionals (at least on the Dr level) would be more likely to go off on a feminist line about how awful it is that she's doing it and a LOT more likely to feel BDSM is abuse
(as opposed to all the nurses I know who're doing it themselves)
This is, admittedly, not an informed opinion but is based on a few things I have read, so I could be WAY off base

 

[niteshade]

Ok so I think I can help out on this one....

I had my tonsils lasered out of my throat when I was 20 and after that my throat was ULTRA sensitive to anything. and yes brushing my teeth even gaged me for the longest time. So your throat will get less sensitive as time passes, but you have to be patient about that.
But as far as giving head, you really have to concentrate on relaxing your throat muscles. Relaxing your whole body period. And with practice you can overcome the urge to gag.
and I don't mean you lose your gag reflex all together but you can train your self not to gag over every little thing. Kinda like sword swallowing.

Good Luck

and breath through your nose.

Lol.. thank you. Never thought of sword swallowing.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Desdemona]

IMHO, many female medical professionals (at least on the Dr level) would be more likely to go off on a feminist line about how awful it is that she's doing it and a LOT more likely to feel BDSM is abuse
(as opposed to all the nurses I know who're doing it themselves)
This is, admittedly, not an informed opinion but is based on a few things I have read, so I could be WAY off base

In my experience, this is not the case at all. I know alot of women at this level who are feminists, yet believe that a woman has a right to do anything sexually she damn well wants(including BDSM activities as long as it is SSC). But then I may be biased because I only lack 1 class and an internship to be an APRN.


Niteshade, I'm very glad you're going to the doc. The list will do the trick I'm sure.

 

[catalina_francisco]

IMHO, many female medical professionals (at least on the Dr level) would be more likely to go off on a feminist line about how awful it is that she's doing it and a LOT more likely to feel BDSM is abuse
(as opposed to all the nurses I know who're doing it themselves)
This is, admittedly, not an informed opinion but is based on a few things I have read, so I could be WAY off base

James, unfortunately like many you have a misguided view of what feminism is, though I admit there is a lot of information out there to give that distorted view. Feminism is about being respected as a woman, treated as an equal and paid as an equal for the same job, and most of all the freedom to choose while supporting other women in their choice as long as it is their choice and not forced by another or circumstances, where the support remains but in a different way.

I for one have a very strong and respected reputation professionally and personally as a feminist, and I choose to be a slave because that is what I want for my life. I also have publicly supported women's choice to be sex workers, and in the various facets of the porn industry, as long as it is free choice. I also have written about my views as a feminist as to why women arfe judged so harshly for participating in such industries. And as to stodgy views on sexuality....well I have often been told I am far too radical and extreme. Can give you some good titles to read on feminist theory if you want.

Actually come to think of it, my young feminist doctor in Oz, when I told her my male gyno thought I should have a hysterectomy because I am a grandmother now and shouldn't mind having it 'all ripped out' as he delicately put it, said she would like to ask him if he would like her to chop his dick and balls off, as after all he is a grandfather so doesn't need them either. LOL Wonderful woman...Chinese (traditional upbringing and living still within the family realm), open minded, great SOH, intelligent, and beautiful.

Catalina

 

[James G 5]

James, unfortunately like many you have a misguided view of what feminism is, though I admit there is a lot of information out there to give that distorted view.

Nope, my view of feminism agrees 100% with yours
When I speak of a feminist line (and I should have been more specific) I was refering to the dogmatic genderist line that has captured much of the public aspects of the movement here in the US and certainly of the rhetoric spouted by many who get attention in the press here

Unfortunately, what many of those women lose sight of is that feminism is supposed to be about women having the ability to make CHOICES and be treated equally, instead of having to live under some imaginary "gender line" of enforced "acceptable choices" while still claiming victimhood status

Sad, really

But I do apologize for not explaining myself clearly
Unfotunately, it's usually the zealots on ANY cause who get all the attention and tar the ideals behind it

 

[His Precious]

Niteshade, feel free to tell your doc exactly what you have to. I sometimes think drs purposely try to intimidate people because they don't want to take the time with them. They want to hurry you out of their office. It took me years to find a good one. I hope you find a solution to what seems to be quite an annoying problem.

 

[Desdemona]

OK, I'm interested in a report from the doctor. How are you babe? Did he give you any good ideas about the gagging?

 

[niteshade]

Ok... I went to the Dr. and here is what he said.

After a short examination of my throat, he said that he can see no physical reason for the gagging, nor does he see any excess scaring from my tonsillectomy. I do have acid reflux, which he said can contribute to gagging. He also reminded me that my tonsils had been very large, had been for years (my previous doctor put the surgery off for years.) and said that it was possible that after they were removed a nerve was exposed, which is stimulated whenever anything solid, or hard, hits that portion of my throat. This would explain why I can eat chewed food with no problems, but have problems with pills, toothbrushes, and cock. So, on to the other suggestions; I will be buying throat spray at first opportunity, and will try the on the bed trick Anelize and AngelicAssassin told me about.. Also, I will try to just relax, and train myself not to gag. Does not sound like fun.

 

[sedona]

I'm interested in what the doc said too. It's not easy to be honest with a doctor about everything, but they can't give you the best care if you aren't. I've had some jerky, judgmental doctors in the past--thank god I'm now confident enough to say "adios" to those types!

I've never had to address BDSM issues with my doc but I am also involved in polyamory and swinging so I frequently have to explain why a happily married woman gets a complete STD workup every 6 months. I'm in an HMO which means high doctor turnover which means I get a new doctor just about every year. So I end up repeating the same story over and over. Yee ha.

I also do martial arts and one time I had a gyno appointment the day after I sparred with 5 black belts. I had bruises all up and down my arms and legs. My husband accompanied me to the doctor--we do this sometimes, especially when the other one is nervous about something. The doctor took one look at me and asked, "How did you get all these bruises?" I said simply, "From my karate class." She looked disbelieving, and flashed my husband the most evil look I've ever seen. I realized that she thought he came along to keep me from talking!

When we left that day, my husband was quite upset. He said, "She thinks I beat you!!!" He was really broken up about it.

Of course, he does beat me sometimes, but not in a bad way.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Ok... will try the on the bed trick Anelize and AngelicAssassin told me about.. Also, I will try to just relax, and train myself not to gag. Does not sound like fun.

i see i need to apologize for this one. How not to sound cruel here ... That description is a sadistic one and has an inherent intent for the partner to fail. The towel is there for a reason. At best, you won't be able to limit the amount of saliva during the session, which makes it ripe for a humiliation scene.

Now, with that said ... nothing says you have to take it that far. i'm sure Anelize can vouch for the first aid step of clearing the airway as a means of opening your throat to the fullest. And i do wish you the best of luck in what ever manner you chose to go.

 

[niteshade]

i see i need to apologize for this one. How not to sound cruel here ... That description is a sadistic one and has an inherent intent for the partner to fail. The towel is there for a reason. At best, you won't be able to limit the amount of saliva during the session, which makes it ripe for a humiliation scene.

Now, with that said ... nothing says you have to take it that far. i'm sure Anelize can vouch for the first aid step of clearing the airway as a means of opening your throat to the fullest. And i do wish you the best of luck in what ever manner you chose to go.

LMAO... no apology needed AA... I was going on the general idea, not the exact spirit of your post. It was also suggested by Anelize, and I think one other, that my throat would be open more, which might help. I thank you for your good wishes, though, and your apology.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

LMAO... no apology needed AA...

you might think differently if ... never mind

 

[niteshade]

you might think differently if ... never mind

LOL... maybe so... but then, you are on the east coast, so I don't feel too scared.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

LOL... maybe so... but then, you are on the east coast, so I don't feel too scared.

Darlin' i'm north of you ... well within striking distance.

 

[niteshade]

Darlin' i'm north of you ... well within striking distance.

Um... you did mention being in another time zone, did you not???

Wondering if I should start listening for the whip???

 

[James G 5]

if you're suffering from reflux it can make the gagging MUCH worse. I've had bad reflux for YEARS, and it's not just acid backwash, it can become complete reverse peristalsis (and I probably spelled that wrong ) where you're swalloing in reverse, so to speak
When I am having a bad attack, it's hard to swallow WATER because of the feeling of there being a lump in my throat, and simple things can make me gag. Trying to sit or lay or swallow in certain positions makes it WORSE.
Additionaly, sometimes when I go down on a woman my sinuses start to run due to position or stimulation and swalowing the resultant mucous trips the reflux.
Controlling the reflux (and a little nasal spray) makes this all 100% better.
Nexium's working REALLY well for me on the reflux. Mebbe if you can get yours under firm control you'd have less gagging issues?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Um... you did mention being in another time zone, did you not???

Wondering if I should start listening for the whip???

Different time zones yes, but what makes you think i'm on the eastern side of mine?

i'll leave the whip for Him ... i'm enjoying the mental raking.

 

[niteshade]

Different time zones yes, but what makes you think i'm on the eastern side of mine?

i'll leave the whip for Him ... i'm enjoying the mental raking.

Ok, so how close is close exactly????