Gay bar protocol

Honestly after reading most of what was posted here I wouldn't ask some of you for advice on anything. To those that took me at face value and didn't try to paint me as some dumb ass homophobe thank you for your helpful words.
 
I am potentially going to meet up with another MWM at a gay bar and I am wondering what is the protocol for behavior in a Gay bar. Been in plenty of hetro bars in my life and I know how to act there. The last thing I want to do is do something accidentally offensive and be so damn dumb I didn't know I did it.
Why meeting at a gay bar? You aren’t trying to pick up anyone just go to a bar you both like
 
I was just wondering why two MWM who are meeting up would go to a gay bar?
I can only speculate that he had been there before and felt comfortable and safe there. For me I didn't care where we met up just that we would meet up.

Actually, that's not really true, I'm not a car or park or public restroom kind of guy. Meet in a public place and figure it out from there.
 
I don't know if you read between the lines of the first post. After all, you seem to be familiar with this kind of thing.
There were no lines to read between as I was straight forward and honest in my first post. You keep trying to insinuate that I had some hidden agenda, and I didn't, and still don't. Good grief I'm glad the guy I finally met isn't like some of you here. Like I said previously I wouldn't ask a few of you here that commented for advice on anything let alone the topic I posted here.

Honestly I would love to be able to delete this topic and be done with it.
 
There were no lines to read between as I was straight forward and honest in my first post. You keep trying to insinuate that I had some hidden agenda, and I didn't, and still don't. Good grief I'm glad the guy I finally met isn't like some of you here. Like I said previously I wouldn't ask a few of you here that commented for advice on anything let alone the topic I posted here.

Honestly I would love to be able to delete this topic and be done with it.
Sorry this thread got so angry. Many people seem to be on edge these days, wanting to argue with whoever shows up next.

Anyway, I'm glad you asked because I could see myself facing the same uncertainty someday, and would wonder if there's anything particular I should consider before joining someone in a gay bar. The best advice I heard here was essentially to forget it is a gay bar at all and just assume it's full of ordinary people happy to get out of the house to have a good time with others.
 
Sorry this thread got so angry. Many people seem to be on edge these days, wanting to argue with whoever shows up next.

Anyway, I'm glad you asked because I could see myself facing the same uncertainty someday, and would wonder if there's anything particular I should consider before joining someone in a gay bar. The best advice I heard here was essentially to forget it is a gay bar at all and just assume it's full of ordinary people happy to get out of the house to have a good time with others.
And that "forget it is a gay bar at all and just assume it's full of ordinary people happy to get out of the house to have a good time with others" is some fabulous advice. Thank you for understanding what I was trying to say.
 
There were no lines to read between as I was straight forward and honest in my first post. You keep trying to insinuate that I had some hidden agenda, and I didn't, and still don't
You weren't meeting another married guy at a gay bar to see if you two wanted to do gay stuff together?

Forgive me, I honestly thought it was 100% about that.

Married guys talking about meeting each other for this kind of thing is very common on Literotica, so, if I jumped to the wrong conclusion, then my mistake.
 
You weren't meeting another married guy at a gay bar to see if you two wanted to do gay stuff together?

Forgive me, I honestly thought it was 100% about that.

Married guys talking about meeting each other for this kind of thing is very common on Literotica, so, if I jumped to the wrong conclusion, then my mist
How does my saying that directly that I was meeting another MWM at a gay bar for a potential hookup have anything to do with someone reading between the lines?

Honestly, I appreciated all those who had sincere helpful advice. Sadly you have not one time been one of them. I'm not sure what your problem is with me, and frankly I don't care. But every post you have made to me is either snarky or openly hostile. I'm done with you.
 
How does my saying that directly that I was meeting another MWM at a gay bar for a potential hookup have anything to do with someone reading between the lines?
In that first post I was talking about, you didn't say it was a potential hookup, that's why I was talking about reading between the lines. How is that some kind of an attack?

I thought you were saying-without-saying that you were doing the same thing every guy in every thread with the word "married" in the title in this forum or the LGBT Personals forum wants to do.

So I read between the lines. Did I read it wrong? Do you see what I meant now when I was talking to the other person about failing to read between the lines? How is that even about you?

I didn't even think you were trying to hide it. I thought it went without saying.

Again, if I reached the wrong conclusion, and you weren't trying to hook up, then I'm sorry. It was an absolutely honest mistake, under the circumstances.

I'm not sure what your problem is with me, and frankly I don't care. But every post you have made to me is either snarky or openly hostile.
Well, I hope I'm blocked, then. The only problem I have with you is the way you read hostility into everything I write - even when it was not aimed at you at all. You still manage to take it personally even when I'm talking to someone else entirely, about something I didn't expect you to contradict at all.

If I want to be hostile, I'll just do it, I won't be passive aggressive about it, and I won't go back later and say "aww, you took me all wrong!" More likely I'll just not engage. I don't enjoy being hostile.

I found out I'm not the only person you do this to, either. So is it me and all of them too? Or is it you?
 
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In that first post I was talking about, you didn't say it was a potential hookup, that's why I was talking about reading between the lines. How is that some kind of an attack?

I thought you were saying-without-saying that you were doing the same thing every guy in every thread with the word "married" in the title in this forum or the LGBT Personals forum wants to do.

So I read between the lines. Did I read it wrong? Do you see what I meant now when I was talking to the other person about failing to read between the lines? How is that even about you?

I didn't even think you were trying to hide it. I thought it went without saying.

Again, if I reached the wrong conclusion, and you weren't trying to hook up, then I'm sorry. It was an absolutely honest mistake, under the circumstances.


Well, I hope I'm blocked, then. The only problem I have with you is the way you read hostility into everything I write - even when it was not aimed at you at all. You still manage to take it personally even when I'm talking to someone else entirely, about something I didn't expect you to contradict at all.

If I want to be hostile, I'll just do it, I won't be passive aggressive about it, and I won't go back later and say "aww, you took me all wrong!" More likely I'll just not engage. I don't enjoy being hostile.

I found out I'm not the only person you do this to, either. So is it me and all of them too? Or is it you?
My first post was about protocol. When I followed up I clearly said what I was attempting to do. I haven't hidden a single thing.

It's you, plain and simple.
 
I haven't hidden a single thing.
Nobody's accusing you of hiding anything. Or suggesting you were. It's the absolute opposite - the other guy didn't understand why you were meeting a guy in a gay bar. Why am I getting all this shit for pointing it out to the guy?

You're on a war path for no reason.
 
Nobody's accusing you of hiding anything. Or suggesting you were. It's the absolute opposite - the other guy didn't understand why you were meeting a guy in a gay bar. Why am I getting all this shit for pointing it out to the guy?

You're on a war path for no reason.
Well if a guy doesn't understand why a man is meeting a man in a Gay bar all I can do is pity him.
 
What a wild adventure this post turned into. Sorry it turned that way.
You know what? Fuck it, I asked a simple straight forward question and got some really great advice and some shit from assholes. Fortunately, every man I've met, either Gay or Bi has been an amazing person and understanding of what I was doing.

Like so much in life this is what it is!
 
I am potentially going to meet up with another MWM at a gay bar and I am wondering what is the protocol for behavior in a Gay bar. Been in plenty of hetro bars in my life and I know how to act there. The last thing I want to do is do something accidentally offensive and be so damn dumb I didn't know I did it.
hahaha I know I know. Some people are super duper sensitive. They are looking for anything to get mad about.
 
I can only speculate that he had been there before and felt comfortable and safe there. For me I didn't care where we met up just that we would meet up.

Actually, that's not really true, I'm not a car or park or public restroom kind of guy. Meet in a public place and figure it out from there.
I agree. I dont want a fast wham bam. relax enjoy have fun
 
Nobody's accusing you of hiding anything. Or suggesting you were. It's the absolute opposite - the other guy didn't understand why you were meeting a guy in a gay bar. Why am I getting all this shit for pointing it out to the guy?

You're on a war path for no reason.
🤤
 
Wow! Wild how they gaslight!! You seem genuinely kind and thoughtful. Would love to meet with you! Cheers and ignore the retards! 🥂
 
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