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[Beck31]

Hmm. I think that is why I stopped cybering except with one specific person. I do remember chatting with an ex on FB and getting carried away. Not to the extint of sex but a lot of hugs and kisses.

 

[Aurelia_Malys]

I don't think it's cheating at all. To me chatting is just another way to express your fantasy, and to use your imagination. yes you maybe involving another person in it. But then again, you do the same thing if you go to a shrink, you let out your most inner thoughts, sometimes about sex, life or what ever is on your mind. Hell most people just go to a bar, and get so drunk and talk to a random stranger.

Either way, be it chatting about wild sex, or just intimate parts of your life. Your just expressing yourself. Instead of holding it in. And we all need someone to talk to about what's on our minds.

The part of it that usually hurts your partner the most. is when you choose to hide it from them.

Again just my opinion.

Except the OP asked about cyber sex ... not just chatting.
(though again i agree ... the deceit is the problem, not the act itself ... if you are doing something you need to hide from your significant other, then imo there is a serious problem)

 

[Paul_Chance]

Yes, But

Yes, if there was an agreement not to engage in the sexual acts with another person, then cyber is a sexual act with another person, and therefore cheating. And, I think in this day and age, the rules around cyber and sexting should be discussed early in a relationship.

On a personal level, I have never restricted a partner from cyber or sexting - to me, it is a safe sexual release, a form of interactive masturbation. As the IRL partner, I have benefited from having partners with active cyber/sext lives, both as a partner for cyber/sext and also as the beneficiary of coming home to find a girlfriend on the computer, wound tight as a drum, needing to be fucked. Win/win!

I have also been in relationships where it was out-of-bounds and I've been equally comfortable with that.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

Cyber sex is cheating if it's something you do that you hide from your SO or spouse. IMO it doesn't matter whether or not you have feelings for the cyber chat partner. That's irrelevant.

Just because it's done online without skin to skin contact, sweat and possible exchange of body fluids doesn't mean it isn't a real sexual act or event.

 

[silvastormcloud]

Cyber sex is cheating if it's something you do that you hide from your SO or spouse. IMO it doesn't matter whether or not you have feelings for the cyber chat partner. That's irrelevant.

Just because it's done online without skin to skin contact, sweat and possible exchange of body fluids doesn't mean it isn't a real sexual act or event.

+1

Any time you can't tell your partner about something you have done then Its time to stop and reconsider.

More to the question Cybersex is more than just chatting about sex and it is cheating.

 

[Beck31]

Thank you for your honest imput silvastormcloud.