Guys, ever told an old friend you were interested in him / curious / available?

[Deleted member 5476586]

When I was coming out, I emailed a good college friend and told him I was gay. He replied, telling me he was gay. He’d had a few affairs, but wasn’t currently sexually active, and had no interest in coming out, so long as he didn’t have a life partner.

I didn’t tell him I’d been having masturbation fantasies about him for a couple of years, after he put me up overnight on the occasion of my giving an invited talk at his institution.

 

[griff5499]

Did you finally tell him you were having fantasies about him?

 

[BiDrew42]

My high school best friend and I were lovers for three years. We lost contact after I went in the Air Force, but I fantasized often about him for several years. We reconnected on FB a couple of years ago after 40+ years. His profile showed that he was married and had adult children. After I accepted his friend request, he sent me a message asking if I remembered our camping trips. Since our camping trips usually involved sex, I responded that I remembered them very fondly. I didn't hear back from him for quite awhile after that. Back when we were lovers, his family was very religious and he was extremely conflicted about our sexual activity. His FB profile reflected that he was still religious so I didn't follow-up. After about 8 months, I got another message from him saying he also remembered our camping trips very fondly. This led to discussions about some of the things we had gotten up to back in our younger days and eventually I asked him if he had ever had sex with any other guys. He told me I was the only one and when he asked me if I had been with any other guys, I think I shocked him with the amount of gay sex I'd had over the years.

After several months of conversation via messenger, we finally started speaking occasionally via phone. One day he admitted that he sometimes thought about having sex with another man. I told him I would be available if he ever decided to act on those feelings. I think that scared him and he withdrew a bit. Our conversations became few and far between and were rarely about sex after that. Then one day a few months ago he told me that if he ever did decide to try gay sex again, he would like it to be with me. I told him again that if he ever made that decision, I would be available. I'm almost certain it will not happen, but the thought of having sex with him again excites the hell out of me. I still vividly remember how his cock looks and tastes, and how wonderful it felt buried deep in my ass. I will gladly make a trip back to the U.S. for just one more time with him!

 

[lordpenizworth]

My high school best friend and I were lovers for three years. We lost contact after I went in the Air Force, but I fantasized often about him for several years. We reconnected on FB a couple of years ago after 40+ years. His profile showed that he was married and had adult children. After I accepted his friend request, he sent me a message asking if I remembered our camping trips. Since our camping trips usually involved sex, I responded that I remembered them very fondly. I didn't hear back from him for quite awhile after that. Back when we were lovers, his family was very religious and he was extremely conflicted about our sexual activity. His FB profile reflected that he was still religious so I didn't follow-up. After about 8 months, I got another message from him saying he also remembered our camping trips very fondly. This led to discussions about some of the things we had gotten up to back in our younger days and eventually I asked him if he had ever had sex with any other guys. He told me I was the only one and when he asked me if I had been with any other guys, I think I shocked him with the amount of gay sex I'd had over the years.

After several months of conversation via messenger, we finally started speaking occasionally via phone. One day he admitted that he sometimes thought about having sex with another man. I told him I would be available if he ever decided to act on those feelings. I think that scared him and he withdrew a bit. Our conversations became few and far between and were rarely about sex after that. Then one day a few months ago he told me that if he ever did decide to try gay sex again, he would like it to be with me. I told him again that if he ever made that decision, I would be available. I'm almost certain it will not happen, but the thought of having sex with him again excites the hell out of me. I still vividly remember how his cock looks and tastes, and how wonderful it felt buried deep in my ass. I will gladly make a trip back to the U.S. for just one more time with him!

Your friend sounds like many men who "circle" the homosexual lifestyle and occasionally knock on the door, but never/seldom enter.
It's clear that he wants to -- but he's not in a place to admit it to himself yet.
When a guy disappears on me, I assume he's still thinking about it and months later when he circles back, I'm no longer surprised.
That doesn't mean anything is going to happen; most of the time it doesn't.
Good luck to you (and to him).

 

[Mike302]

I'm still not sure about the guy who might be interested in me.

He says alot of favorable things about me, and I heard he and his wife are having issues, (separated by work, older kids, pets, grudges, little to no intimacy) but he's also very Christian. At least he pretends to be at work.

I should inquire about if he's still going to church and see where he's at existentially.

There is second guy I've known for a long time, too, and we have mutual friends. He's been happily married a long time and has teen kids. He's big on camping / hiking. Very fit & handsome. Travels for work a lot.

He wants to be faithful to his wife, but it's been a challenge because like I said, he works, is fit & handsome. If he has cheated, he's kept it from his closest friends. He's not religious. But he has said sex with his wife is him giving her oral with a PIV follow-up. She hasn't given him oral in ages and that's what he talks about...he wants to fuck a womans throat so badly!

Unfortunately, he makes queer jokes. Is that a cover? I dunno. He'd be great guy for me to entertain because he'd keep quiet, he's healthy, and he take some of his fantasies / frustrations out on me.

If I gave him a strong clue, I highly doubt he'd "out" me to our other friends. But he may avoid / discontinue communication with me.

It's too bad for all involved! I know both of these guys well enough I could invite either to the house with zero concerns as long as the wife didn't catch us in the act.

 

[me4youreverypleasure]

Today, I was texting today with one of my wife’s former lovers. Told him I was sitting at home, dress only in sexy black lace panties and matching camisole and feeling very slutty. He’s seen me in sexy lingerie many times as that was my favorite attire while watching my wife and him make long passionate love. It was awesome when I’d lay in bed next to them, she would slip her hand in my panties and jack me off while he fucked her with his big cock. Anyway, he asked why I was telling him about my attire, and I told him I wanted him to drop by so I could suck him off. He asked when my wife would be home from work, I told him, and he said he would stop by after she got home. I’m so excited about giving him head while she watches.

 

[Rose_Button]

Knowing two of my friends were curious, back in the 90s when I was cocky and confident, I just moved in for a kiss and things happened.

Many years later when I was drunk i told a gay friend that I wanted to suck his cock. I remember him laughing and saying. "Go on then." I was out of practice by then, hiding my bi side due to straight relationships for 20 years. I was crap but he noticed i had potential. Just a shame he doesn't like me in knickers and nylon..

 

[Mike302]

I pushed my luck with one of my long-term buddies who never gets oral from his wife.

I wrote to him during a conversation where that came up that he deserves it for all he does and that I'd be willing to "help him out".

He replied, "Now that's a true friend!"

Will he take me up on it? No idea. But he certainly understands he has an offer. Whew!

 

[PFWilly]

I got up the nerve to tell a friend I wanted to suck his cock. I was surprised to see how big it was, and how well it fit in my mouth on several occasions. I was grateful when he reciprocated, but frankly got a LOT of enjoyment from just sucking him dry. He had a very quick recovery time too!

Very glad I opened up…lol.

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

There was an older gentleman at the gym who I suspected was gay. Although I was aware of my evolving homosexuality, I had never met a man in whom I felt a sexual attraction. I never told him, but I can’t count how many times I “accidentally” dropped the soap in the shower to let him see my ass. That man has no idea how much I would have submitted to his desires.

 

[EdgySubMic]

Many tens of moons ago, I developed a mega-crush on a coworker, but was trying to keep it secret, as I knew he's not gay. He'd frequently give me a ride home after work, during which we'd most of the time chat about what happened that day, or about some mutual work or non-work interest. One evening, we'd already driven some three hundred meters (yards) without talking, so he switched on the radio. The very first sounds that came out of it were "Would you go to bed with me?", from the 1998 hit "Would you..." by Touch and Go. I had a very, very, very, very hard time not saying "Yes", or "Would you?", or "Not with you, mam, but there is someone else...", or... (I've since drawn up tens of potential answers and responses to them.) We didn't talk for the full +-7 minutes of that drive; on my side because I couldn't think of any other topic and I was eagerly waiting for him to say something. In fact, the silence between us could have been cut with a knife... at least that's how I experienced it. I have later willingly fantasized that maybe he'd set that entire thing up: that it wasn't the radio, but a cassette recording he'd prepared beforehand.

 

[tristantrotsky]

My high school best friend and I were lovers for three years. We lost contact after I went in the Air Force, but I fantasized often about him for several years. We reconnected on FB a couple of years ago after 40+ years. His profile showed that he was married and had adult children. After I accepted his friend request, he sent me a message asking if I remembered our camping trips. Since our camping trips usually involved sex, I responded that I remembered them very fondly. I didn't hear back from him for quite awhile after that. Back when we were lovers, his family was very religious and he was extremely conflicted about our sexual activity. His FB profile reflected that he was still religious so I didn't follow-up. After about 8 months, I got another message from him saying he also remembered our camping trips very fondly. This led to discussions about some of the things we had gotten up to back in our younger days and eventually I asked him if he had ever had sex with any other guys. He told me I was the only one and when he asked me if I had been with any other guys, I think I shocked him with the amount of gay sex I'd had over the years.

After several months of conversation via messenger, we finally started speaking occasionally via phone. One day he admitted that he sometimes thought about having sex with another man. I told him I would be available if he ever decided to act on those feelings. I think that scared him and he withdrew a bit. Our conversations became few and far between and were rarely about sex after that. Then one day a few months ago he told me that if he ever did decide to try gay sex again, he would like it to be with me. I told him again that if he ever made that decision, I would be available. I'm almost certain it will not happen, but the thought of having sex with him again excites the hell out of me. I still vividly remember how his cock looks and tastes, and how wonderful it felt buried deep in my ass. I will gladly make a trip back to the U.S. for just one more time with him!

I love this wistful, yearning story.
I only wish that it could have a happy ending, with you getting to suck your long-time friend's cock again. That would be the perfect closure.

 

[Cardinal]

I have a friend who casually mentions that he doesn’t see anything wrong with a couple of buddies helping each other out.
Not sure if he’s serious or not, also not sure how far it would go, JO buddies would be nice