Has anyone been raped.......and loved it

[voltigeur]

I have read this thread with some interest. I dated a lady that had been raped and when we started experementing with mild BDSM play it wass extremely difficult to be Dominant without stiring up bad feelings in her.

When I was being submissive I found that being "forced" to do something that in one part of my mind I didn't want to do but was so excited I didn't say no. That conflict made the orgasm so freeking intense!

One night I got her in a cheap motel and treated her like a cheap whore. Stood back no kissing just made her lift her dress. When I spoke to her I stared at her tits. then told her to kneel holding her dress around her waist as i stood infront an unfastened my pants and put my cock in her mouth. She screamed in orgasm several times that night.

But that was only one incident it was so hard to get that effect regularly. Most of the time she shut down and I'd back off. (Would never want to really hurt, force or degrade anyone.)

Similar to what is discussed here. Not exactly rape but an element of non-consent.

If this is the wrong thread for this type of play let me know I can start another.

 

[Cicca_Jai]

Beware...

The mind set of a vic is sometimes very fragile.
Years of work goes into starting to live life again, a smell, a touch, a song, can trigger flashbacks, many times with dire results.
As a vic I know how hard it is for many who have suffered at the hands of someones impulse issues. Took me years to relax enough to have a healthy relationship in the bedroom. even now 15 years later and tens of thousands in therapy, I still sometimes have night mares and flashbacks.

When you have a partner with this as a BG you have to handel with care.

 

[naughty_shygirl]

I have trouble getting my mind around this subject. The last six relationships I have had, five had been raped. It was almost enough to make me embarrassed to be male and, by being male, be associated by sharing a gender type with men who rape women if that makes any sense.

All but one of the women who had been raped wanted to have rough sex, role play where I was forcing them... and I personally found it difficult to participate in because of the pain I felt for them having been raped. In my mind, I didn't want to be associated with those men in any way, shape or form. Yes, I understand that there is a big difference between a real rape and role play, but for me, I don't know... I had and still have such anger directed to anyone who forcibly, against someone's will, has sexual contact with another person. I'll role play a wide variety of sexual activities, including "rough" sex, but there are lines that I just couldn't cross.

I so agree with you on this. I have had people on other sites want to play these type roles of forcing sex. I love role playing but I find a man who enjoys this particular role very disturbing because it proves that rape turns him on and may be a secret desire. I love that a man actually agrees with me on this point

 

[Phlarn]

I love rough sex. Kicking and biting and cursing and fighting and even laughing, as we each try to get and maintain the upper hand-- that's a fantasy come true!

or being overpowered and forced,until you come like a banshee while swearing revenge... oooh whee!

Real rapes are nothing like that.

I agree. I was raped by neighbor and when I think back to it (and I try not to) I feel nothing but panic. However, when I think of rape fanasties, it is totally different. I would love for my partner to "rape". But actually being raped is something else entirely.

 

[Romial]

This is a messed up topic.

 

[TanyaH]

I'm going to assume that this is about rape fantasies, I don't believe any person could enjoy being raped for real, and I really don't want to go into it.

My ex used to "rape" me. We had a pretty fiery relationship and our fights could get pretty heated, but the makeup sex was always fantastic. One time, during the makeup sex, he asked if he could have sex with when we were fighting next time, and I told him yes.

When we fought we really didn't like one another, so when he initiated sex it was the last thing I wanted, and my struggles were real, but he continued anyway and the sex was absolutely intense and fantastic and violent.

After we broke up we were fuck buddies for a long while and sometimes he would show up at my place at inconvenient times for me and I'd tell him we couldn't do it then because I didn't have time, but several times he would force me anyway, usually I didn't struggle much on those occasions, but the sex was always hot anyway.

We didn't have an agreed upon safe word, but we knew each other inside and out and didn't really need one, there was trust between us.

 

[Kurokami]

The first time my fiancee asked me to force her... I was pretty damn uncomfortable with it. Partly because this was a woman that I care a great deal for and didn't want to hurt at all, and partly because I'd had pretty much the same fantasies, and I wondered whether acting on them would cross some internal line. It took a while, and a lot of discussion, before I felt comfortable enough with the idea to try it.

The results were... fucking intense. We both enjoyed it hugely, despite my initial hesitance. The fantasy is hot, whereas actual rape is awful, which was the distinction I suppose I hadn't properly made at that point.

Now, we comfortably repeat the fantasy whenever, along with plenty of others. Sometimes, I end up on top, at others... not so much. No matter what, though, I'm glad she trusted me enough to show me that side of her, and frankly, I'm glad I didn't end up disappointing her, either.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

The mind set of a vic is sometimes very fragile.
Years of work goes into starting to live life again, a smell, a touch, a song, can trigger flashbacks, many times with dire results.
As a vic I know how hard it is for many who have suffered at the hands of someones impulse issues. Took me years to relax enough to have a healthy relationship in the bedroom. even now 15 years later and tens of thousands in therapy, I still sometimes have night mares and flashbacks.

When you have a partner with this as a BG you have to handel with care.

Very true...and it doesn't even have to be b/c of having been raped - but just b/c of a traumatic experience. I came close to being raped in high school (the only thing that stopped him -I'm convinced- is b/c a teacher happened to hear the commotion...later reporting that we were in an intimate embrace -fucking idiot ) and to this day - the smell of a certain cologne, and a specific word said - will make me freeze up and then usually I cry...just b/c of trying to get the memory to go away.

 

[LindsayRae]

Being controlled and forced to do sexual acts is very hot!!!

That is not the same as rape. Had you really been raped you wouldn't associate what happened to you with "a sexual turn on". "Forced" sex with a trusted partner is exciting, giving up control to him, feeling the weight of his body on you... But that does not compare to real rape. Rape is "hateful" and not lustful. In most scenarios it HURTS someone, both physically and emotionally, and can end in death. Nothing sexy about that. Nothing sexy about the worry of gaining STDs or pregnancy, either.

 

[LindsayRae]

P. S.

No......you are so right....its not nice,at all at first
But ,as it went on....i began to respond.....and found it was amazing.....maybe its not right to ceel like that....but I am so turned on every time I think about it......

Were you talking about the time a man raped you and you "loved" it, when your "mother in law snuck into your bedroom and finger raped you" or the time you "raped" the boys in your family?

Your posts are all over the gambit.

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

Real life rape has very little to do with sex. I hope the OP gets beat the fuck up and raped with a knife to their throat then come back and tell us how hot it was.

Asshole

 

[LindsayRae]

Real life rape has very little to do with sex. I hope the OP gets beat the fuck up and raped with a knife to their throat then come back and tell us how hot it was.

Asshole

Wow. I wouldn't even wish that on you. Wishing rape, murder, or "being beat the fuck up" is not humorous.




FYI, the OP claims to be a woman who was raped and "loved" it...

 

[RjThoughts]

Having stopped a gang rape I can NOT understand how someone could "love it." I saw terror and panic in a pair of young eyes. I still see them in my nightmares begging for me to help her. Rape is NOT sexual it's all about forced dominance!

 

[compliant]

Horrible

My friend was raped.
She was terrified. Rape cannot be regarded a sex act. Its an act of voilence & dealt with accordingly.
The scenario can be re-enacted in role play which is fine & harmless. Even ive done that.

 

[Very_Bad_Man]

Wow. I wouldn't even wish that on you. Wishing rape, murder, or "being beat the fuck up" is not humorous.




FYI, the OP claims to be a woman who was raped and "loved" it...

The OP is totally full of shit and is more likely to be a fat 50 year old truck driver with three teeth.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The OP is totally full of shit and is more likely to be a fat 50 year old truck driver with three teeth.

It's possible. And you are equally likely to be a very sweet woman.

But you ID as a very bad man. As far as I'm concerned, that's all you are.

 

[LindsayRae]

The OP is totally full of shit and is more likely to be a fat 50 year old truck driver with three teeth.

So, that is okay to "wish rape on him"? Like I said, I wouldn't even wish rape on an ass like you.

 

[sereneone4u]

Very true...and it doesn't even have to be b/c of having been raped - but just b/c of a traumatic experience. I came close to being raped in high school (the only thing that stopped him -I'm convinced- is b/c a teacher happened to hear the commotion...later reporting that we were in an intimate embrace -fucking idiot ) and to this day - the smell of a certain cologne, and a specific word said - will make me freeze up and then usually I cry...just b/c of trying to get the memory to go away.

I was raped and there are times I will have flashbacks. My husband and I could be in the middle of sex and all of a sudden it would not be him, but my attacker and I would feel like he was stabbing me instead of making love with me and we would have to stop. One of the things I appreciate about him is that never at anytime was he pissed that we stopped in the middle of the act, he was worried about me and making sure I was okay. I have not had flashbacks in years, but I totally agree about a certain smell, color, etc triggering.

I think sometimes a woman who has been raped playing through a rape fantasy, is in a way her taking control of what happened to her. Kind of like we have relationships with people like our parents, trying to react our life scripts. Not that life scripts are the healthiest way of coping with parental issues, just saying that I think for some of us it is a part of working through it.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

Question?

I think everyone agrees that rape is more about extreme dominance and control than about sex, and considering that some women have extreme fantasies, don't you think it is possible that some women might crave the extreme dominance and control of rape? Some fantasies in BDSM can get pretty extreme.

 

[LindsayRae]

I think everyone agrees that rape is more about extreme dominance and control than about sex, and considering that some women have extreme fantasies, don't you think it is possible that some women might crave the extreme dominance and control of rape? Some fantasies in BDSM can get pretty extreme.

A rape fantasy is still different than the elements of a real rape. Within the fantasy realm, someone is still with a trusted lover. They "know" that "no matter what" they won't be ___________________ because "those are the rules". Whereas a real rape is "dictated" by the rapist.

I can understand the fantasy and have enjoyed being "held down" by my man or "trying to fight him off while he forces a kiss"... But when I was raped, that man hurt me. As in, physical pain. I couldn't say "RED" or some safe word. I couldn't say "Okay, I'm done now". I'm lucky he didn't murder me. I'm lucky I wasn't cut, shot, or beat to a bloody pulp. I'm also lucky I didn't contract an STD or become pregnant by him.

Those are the differences between reality and fantasy.

 

[Nasty_Deeds]

A rape fantasy is still different than the elements of a real rape. Within the fantasy realm, someone is still with a trusted lover. They "know" that "no matter what" they won't be ___________________ because "those are the rules". Whereas a real rape is "dictated" by the rapist.

I can understand the fantasy and have enjoyed being "held down" by my man or "trying to fight him off while he forces a kiss"... But when I was raped, that man hurt me. As in, physical pain. I couldn't say "RED" or some safe word. I couldn't say "Okay, I'm done now". I'm lucky he didn't murder me. I'm lucky I wasn't cut, shot, or beat to a bloody pulp. I'm also lucky I didn't contract an STD or become pregnant by him.

Those are the differences between reality and fantasy.

I do agree that rape is traumatic for most women, but I don't think you can apply your experience to every woman who has been raped. Some women might see the experience differently.

 

[sereneone4u]

A rape fantasy is still different than the elements of a real rape. Within the fantasy realm, someone is still with a trusted lover. They "know" that "no matter what" they won't be ___________________ because "those are the rules". Whereas a real rape is "dictated" by the rapist.

I can understand the fantasy and have enjoyed being "held down" by my man or "trying to fight him off while he forces a kiss"... But when I was raped, that man hurt me. As in, physical pain. I couldn't say "RED" or some safe word. I couldn't say "Okay, I'm done now". I'm lucky he didn't murder me. I'm lucky I wasn't cut, shot, or beat to a bloody pulp. I'm also lucky I didn't contract an STD or become pregnant by him.

Those are the differences between reality and fantasy.

 

[wryteitu]

It happened to me once when I was younger. A friend of mine liked to rub his cock between my ass cheeks and this one time he just got over excited and pushed it in. I hurt so bad and I made noises that I still can't explain. At the time very traumatic but later I realise it was exciting...

 

[LindsayRae]

From one SURVIVOR (not victim) to another... *HUGS*

 

[Kitty_Schrödinger]

This thread is just so wrong, the idea is so sick...

Hugs to all of you brave, wonderful ladies