Have you ever REALLY missed your Dom??

[catalina_francisco]

I personally find "slave speak" a bit foolish, so I avoid relationships with those who feel it is of the utmost importance...

[/hijack of a hijack]

Yep, and most of it is borne of internet fantasy and people too willing to write a book or two to make money...not just in BDSM, but in everyday life. I swear, every man and his dog writes a book now if they trip over their big toe geting out of bed....it has meant a loss of good reading of people who really did have interesting lives and accomplishments worth reading about. I love reading, but in terms of D/s etc., I really think the best line of reference is from everyday people who live the lifestyle in the form they choose, and getting out there and living it ourselves, more so than the multitude of books by often self professed authorities on what is and isn't.

Catalina

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

BiaTcHiNFiRe: I'm sorry for the hyjack of your thread. I'm certain it will get right back on track. You've offered a good topic for discussion.

No need to feel sorry!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I miss my Dom the most when I am on the plane going home after visiting him. But then I feel better when we start making plans for the next visit.

 

[Bill3250]

I am not really sure what you mean??

I mean: my Dom = the Dom I own.

 

[nh23]

I mean: my Dom = the Dom I own.

And just how do you suggest we refer to our PYL? I asked "mine" about this and he said he is "my Dom", so I will continue to refer to him that way.

 

[h_i_s]

I mean: my Dom = the Dom I own.

Yeah yeah yeah... well,


This PYL's pyl wishes that the Dom whom you own, would [in an attempt to balance you a bit] wack you upside that head of Your Dom (I would call it your head.. BUT, since the Dom owns you and therefore owns your head too....... it's not really YOUR head.. it is that Dom's that you own).

Hmm. Maybe that Dom that you own should make it easier to follow and just wack
themselves in thier head that they own??

I am greatful that you have a Dom to call your own too. God knows you need someone to help you get a grip on reality, sweetie.

 

[Bill3250]

And just how do you suggest we refer to our PYL? I asked "mine" about this and he said he is "my Dom", so I will continue to refer to him that way.

Being subservient, and having had few true master/slave relationships, I use the guidelines set out by Lady Isabelle when she led me to my proper place in life: beneath her; adoring her; and never infering that I possed her. I was refer to her as Lady Isabelle, Lady or Madam.

 

[h_i_s]

Being subservient, and having had few true master/slave relationships, I use the guidelines set out by Lady Isabelle when she led me to my proper place in life: beneath her; adoring her; and never infering that I possed her. I was refer to her as Lady Isabelle, Lady or Madam.

Yeah and it's obvious that your Lady/Ma'am could have done well to teach you to keep your subservient nose out of the business of other PYLs and their charges [pyls].
You skipped that chapter, huh??

I use guidelines too.............. from the unwritten book of common sense and experience

.....gained by genuine [aka real, real life, in the flesh, and personally lived by me].
experience.

Book are good, and even they have limits in what they can and can not teach. I can read a book about brain surgery. It doesn't make me a brain surgeon.

 

[Netzach]

Actually, H doesn't get away with "my Mistress" in my immediate vicinity. From him it seems smug and it's not OK by me.

However, I also know he doesn't go around chiding other people for it, that would probably get him stood in the corner faster.

 

[h_i_s]

....................................................However, I also know he doesn't go around chiding other people for it, that would probably get him stood in the corner faster.

I have always loved how Netzach can say what I am saying while using far less than half the words.

 

[nh23]

Being subservient, and having had few true master/slave relationships, I use the guidelines set out by Lady Isabelle when she led me to my proper place in life: beneath her; adoring her; and never infering that I possed her. I was refer to her as Lady Isabelle, Lady or Madam.

Good for you. She set up those guidelines for you. Not for me or anyone else here. "True"...I call BS.

Definition of True
being in accordance with the actual state or conditions; conforming to reality or fact; not false.

 

[Bill3250]

So many protests. Did I touch a nerve?

 

[nh23]

So many protests. Did I touch a nerve?

Not here darling..Just calling BS when I see it.

 

[Netzach]

So many protests. Did I touch a nerve?

Yes. It's called "that's super fabulous for you, but it may not apply to anyone else."

I mean some people might feel that TRUE slaves have their Masters' babies. That's kind of out of your sphere, isn't it?

 

[Netzach]

as for missing one's Dom, I will represent and say that when I was stuck in the hospital for nine days I don't think I ever missed a human in my life like I missed M, my kitty boy. Likewise with a 2 week working stint in NYC - I totally get the sad to get on the plane in both directions factor.

 

[Etoile]

So many protests. Did I touch a nerve?

You wish.

 

[Bandit58]

Almost the same story here Bandit... as you know. Hospital stays are the toughest. Being apart is one thing. Add to that, concern for a master's comfort and care... and it kicks the challenge up a few notches.

Hopefully his absence from you will be brief ... hope you both are under the same roof, as it should be, asap. I have some idea of what you must go through. Feel welcome to PM, anytime.. if you find yourself in need of a 'likeminded someone' to talk with or just a good ear.

Thank you sinn The thought is much appreciated - it is very hard dealing with all this virtually alone.

The good news is the surgery went well, hopefully the fistula will be able to be used in a week, and He will be home in 3-4 days although I think He will be dialysing at the hospital for a couple of times to see how things go before they let us loose at home again.

This has really knocked our confidence though - one of the nurses called it a "minor setback" so I guess it all depends on your perspective

 

[Bandit58]

How many true Doms allow their subs to own them? (i.e. MY Dom!)

I am His sub, so therefore He is my Dom. He is also my husband, and I am His wife. I guess I could call Him the One who married me but I'd get some funny looks from our friends who aren't into the lifestyle