Have you stopped caring if your fetishes get exposed to family and friends?

[Bigboobbabe]

hahaha! if my mom & dad said that to me? I'd honestly have the same exact reaction! (I'd TOTALLY still open it of course! )

I decided a ling time ago, i don't care what they find when I am gone. If anyone is going to judge me, i hope they have the decency to be jealous of my toy chest.

When cleaning out my dad's house, my brother found a shoe box with a vibrator and some Polaroids of Dad and his 2nd wife. They had divorced long ago.

We joked about mailing it to her and letting her know we wanted to return her property to her.

 

[Tom_Brown]

My parents , daughter and family know about my fetishes and a lot of my friends do as well . It’s not hidden from anyone .

How does your daughter feel about them?

 

[Tom_Brown]

I grew up in a very conservative, religious family. Many of us (brothers, sisters, cousins, nieces, nephews, etc) are on a family group text thread.

I fucked my sister (and later, her daughter), but they don’t know my kinks. There are other family members that I would love to fuck, but not sure that they would go for it.
I do not want for any of them to know of my kinks (or the fact that my wife fucked a couple of guys).

 

[pixie07]

How does your daughter feel about them?

My daughter loves my wife's current boyfriend. And she has a bossy personality so she definitely doesn’t mind my fetishes .

 

[lily_wall_]

I have an innate drive to please everyone around me. So that conflicts with me not caring what they know about me. Luckily my mom knows everything, even the ones she doesn't approve of, but still luvs me. I can't even dream of my husband finding out. And then the people I know in professional circles.

What's weird is I've caught myself caring about what an anonymous stranger on website like Lit thinks of me and my fetishes. There were times in the past that I've talked and made some good friends on here and then was worried to comment on particular thread because others might see it. I've deleted and created new accounts 4 times because of this fear. It's silly, I know. But I've got a lot better since those days

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I/ we are stuck in the still hiding it phase.
I try and say or do things so people get a good idea for example we went to a wedding for a friend's son abd several of my our longtime childhood friends were there. As we walked by a swing hanging from the rafters in the converted barn I said look honey we can be swingers now and she slapped my shoulder but another friend said" I thought you guys already were "
I just smiled and let everyone form their own thoughts and opinions.

Our kids know we are very sexual but don't know about our swapping years.
I personally hoped we would see in our lifetime a change in the sexual attitude in the U.S. where nudity and sexuality were more accepted but I will be dead long before that will happen.

 

[KimHeart]

After I turned 30, I stopped worrying so much about whether my fetishes accidentally got exposed to my family and friends.

One night, I admitted to my younger brother that I like dominant women, forced bi, and that I’ve crossdressed.

I think my mother knew this too before she passed away because sometimes she would verbally domme me by asking if I was pregnant and who was the father....

I feel like life is too short to have daily anxiety worrying about who knows what sexual pleasures you enjoy.

Sadly no but that is to kind of be expected. Most of my family is very judgmental and very religious so none of what my husband and I do would fly. My mom and sister are more open-minded but my mom comes from a healthcare background so I'd probably never hear the end of the dangers. My sister probably would not care but we just have grown apart and become very different people.

On my husband's side of the family there is a lot of deeply religious people so again it would not fly. His cousin does know as her and her husband swing and play as well.

We do have some friends that know but most of those came from some manner of lifestyle as well or are just people we have always been open and honest with.

The reason we both worry is people tend to judge and with the current cancel culture you see people losing their jobs over drinking and posting pictures let alone enjoying sex. So for the time being we keep things within the circle of trust.

 

[Mrs_and_mr]

I don’t have any family, but most our friends know to some degree. My wife’s really good friend know. I’m referred to as the wife or the mrs.