Help me I need advice

[Gingersnap]

One of my best friends had this problem and she was drop dead gorgeous. After spending time with both of them I figured out the problem. Her husband was more gay then bi. I hope this isn't the problem here. I am with the majority if he won't talk to you maybe he will talk to a therapist with you. I don't know how old you are but I think you're too young to be going without it. Why don't you let him know how serious you consider the problem to be. Then if he won't get help ........ I know what I would want to do but you have to decide. I think the bit about control might be a real consideration too. I wish you the best and hope that he listens and talks with you.

 

[Expertise]

Bruiser you are a tool.

The gravol thing is a possible answer. Its sedative effect. Could also be performance anxiety (specificaly his fear of not being able to become erect). There are no easy answers but it is HIS problem, not yours. Unfortunately you have to suffer its effects. I can only suggest other outlets, maybe not the most desirable solution but...
if hes not giving a little I question his commitment anyway. Certainly if you have discussed this at any length. Hope it works out for you.

 

[Beebeeblue]

Bruiser hon, I searched the internet,and finally came across a pic of you.
Thot the rest of the crew would be interested also.

http://www.watchersweb.com/when_will_i_see_you_again.htm

 

[Guest]

thanx for the pic i needed a laugh...

 

[Skitten]

Try talking with him and if that doesn't work
be there for him. Maybe something is going on and he is afraid to tell you about. Sometimes men are not able to communicate openly as we would like my suggestion to you is be stick it out and be there for him no matter what. I think it will be worth it in the end.

 

[Guest]

Thanks again everyone. I have talked to him about the gravol and he says he is going to work on quiting

 

[Nogard]

See if you can get him to a doctor. He'll probably resist since most men can't admit a problem in this area. Many times this is a medical problem. A chage of medication sure helped me

 

[Guest]

Looks like he's doesn't care about you.
If I wouldn't have sex with my wife for month she'd kill me.
But seriously, you should talk to him and tell him that if he can't satify you that you're just gonna look elsewhere for satisfaction.
Why don't you send me a picture of you(of course not a nude one) just to get an idea of
what he's ignoring for such long periods of time.
Also I'm very curious to see what you look like.
You must be a hell of a woman, if you can be so patient

My E-mail is nyx@newyorkcity.com

 

[Imlucious]

Did you try some outrageous role playing or shocking that it would just turn his head? Maybe he thinks sex is sex. Maybe it is too much work for him. Let him know that sex can be anything he wants it to be...Start conversations that are extremely out there. He may call you crazy, or a sex freak, but give it a few weeks and guarenteed that it was on his mind daily, and the idea, well lets just say he will become very intrigued about it. Search the net, you'll have a few laughs between you guys, and his sexual thoughts will soon awaken. But most of all, dont give up.

 

[Jeff726]

I find it really heartbreaking that someone would have this sexual problem and it puts the relationship in jeopardy. Also, suggesting that lonely should look elsewhere is not neccesarily a bad idea. For all I know, her husband may be cheating on her as one person thought. If this is so, then yes she should leave.