Help with going down....

[NeedingMore2]

I wish I had this issue (someone trying to make me cum with their mouth) lol. My issue is that my wife never goes down on me and if she does, she refuses to let me cum anywhere near her face...or on her body for that matter.

 

[plesmore]

I wish I had this issue (someone trying to make me cum with their mouth) lol. My issue is that my wife never goes down on me and if she does, she refuses to let me cum anywhere near her face...or on her body for that matter.

Cum is very nasty stuff that needs to be handled and disposed of properly....

 

[plesmore]

Surprise finger in the butt

I once had a surprise in my butt and it wasn't a finger and it did not make me cum. Maybe guys are different.

 

[BodaciousHombre]

One thing should be clear by now--every man is different with regard to his pleasure. A combo of Naughty Kitty XXX and mctex29 work for me. Also, consider telling him a fantasy in his ear (which, spoiler alert, should end with him cumming in your mouth) while you stroke him before you go down. the imagination can be pretty powerful. good luck. let us all know how it works out.

 

[NightL]

and after all that sound advice - also just ask him what he likes. Ask him to guide you and to tell you how you are progressing along the way.

Also sit back and ask him to masturbate to an orgasm in front of you - give him a little visual stimulation to help him along if you wish - but watch what he does closely and see how you my incorporate that in what you do.

 

[Nezhul]

For me, the more excited I am - the easier I cum. And personally the greatest turn-on for me is my partner's pleasure.
BJ doesn't really excite me all that much.

Try eye contact, try touching yourself or using a vibe in the process.
You can feel it when a girl is making sounds while sucking cock, but it should not be forced.
Try 69 position to make each other cum.
For me if a girl kept sucking while she was cumming - that'd definitely be very hot and show how much she loved it.

That's my perspective. For his - you can only ask him.

Also there are some techniques, true, but most of the advanced ones feel weird rather than pleasant. Its like with kama sutra - while all positions are possible, it doesn't mean they actually feel better. Better perfect the basic staff.
Don't ignore the balls - touch them, lick them, suck them. Be aware that pulling the balls away from the body (lightly) is actually a technique to delay orgasm and you don't want that. Very gently massage them, or simply caress them.
A head of the cock can get used to stimulation. Give it a little rest after a few minutes - 20-30 sec is enough. Either tease it lightly or lick/suck other parts.

Its always Good to give your man opportunities to do something meaningful. Plain blowjob may get slightly boring after few minutes. 69 position or others that let him play with your body are good because of that. Men love to touch you all over, we like to make you moan and look at you.

One thing you may try to learn is deepthroat. But it will be amazing only when you can perform it without gagging and throwing up.

Also some men love dirty talk while others get distracted by it. Find out what's your case, and either start telling him nasty staff, or just shut up and moan.

Find out if there are fetishes that turn him on. The more turned on he is the easier he'll pop.

 

[tightmedicine]

Some men enjoy BJs but it just isn't enough to put them over the edge.

I am rather the same way about oral sex on myself. I like it, feels great, but it just does not get me over the edge.

But I have learned that you should really want to be doing it. He can sense when it's a "job" and not a pleasure. Listen and look for subtle feedback, etc. But mostly have fun. Sucking a cock is one of life's great pleasures.

 

[Hipshot1554]

I thought I would ask for some help with giving a blowjob.
This guy that I'm seeing I can never make him cum from going down on him.
He says it feels good and in his whole life he has only cum twice from a girl giving him a bj.
He says it's not me but I want so bad to make him cum. So please help me and tell me some
technics that might work. Thanks

Talk to him about it. Let him know you want it, and you love doing it.

 

[Conager]

Let your words and actions show you love giving head but you have to mask any eager anticipation that you want to "win" the encounter by "making" him cum.

First, that is inaccurate. No one, ever, makes someone else cum. The neurons in his brain have to fire in a particular way to cause the right signal to release semen. You can and should try to tickle his brain, but only he gets to accept or block that input. Pressure of any kind can widen the gap that has to be bridged for men, or women.

I, too, find it difficult to cum from felatio. But I will cum if I forget it is difficult and simply let an eager little cocksucker go to town. If she starts rubbing her jaw, or looking at the clock or eyeing me to see if I am close, it isn't happening.

Technique has little to do with it. The second girl ever to go down on my cock didn't even really put it actually in her mout...just lapped at the frenulum like a kitten at a bowl of cream. Tirelessly. I came in a wonderfull, relaxed way.

I had other, hot as hell, circus freak/ porn-star-eager girls not get me off; to their frustration and mine.

I sometimes warn them (dumb) but have learned it is better for them, and I, if I don't. Somerimes, if they remark at all about my stamina, I'll lie and tell 'em that I'm doing math problems to make them work for it. Really I am trying to relax and be in the moment and not think about not cumming.

To that end, it may be easier if you get him relaxed, give a massage, try when he is tired but not exhausted and put it off actual fellatio part for a bit. Minimize the importance of it. When you start, just sort of cudfle his cock with your mouth, give the idea you have all the time and interest in the world. If he has repression issues, (it's dirty, but not the fun dirty) emphasize how yummy you find him. You can't oversell that part.

The last girl was a nurse, but employed no special, kinky technique, just went to work. It helps me, sometimes if I say something like, "Oh, no you don't! Don't you dare make me cum yet.."

 

[Bigspurt]

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I thought I would ask for some help with giving a blowjob.
This guy that I'm seeing I can never make him cum from going down on him.
He says it feels good and in his whole life he has only cum twice from a girl giving him a bj.
He says it's not me but I want so bad to make him cum. So please help me and tell me some
technics that might work. Thanks

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Practice makes perfect!

 

[Bigspurt]

I wish I had this issue (someone trying to make me cum with their mouth) lol. My issue is that my wife never goes down on me and if she does, she refuses to let me cum anywhere near her face...or on her body for that matter.

Sounds Familiar!

 

[Sheana_V]

I think most of the advice here is pretty sound. I'll reiterate a few points though.

- It's easier to cum when relaxed. Neither you nor he should feel stressed about whether or not he's going to cum, because then he won't.

- It's easier to make someone cum when they're super frustrated. So, tease him for a long time and then try.

- Ignore porn. Guys cocks are sensitive delicate organs, and trusting in and out of your mouth as quickly as possible is probably not going to work. Explore his piece with your mouth, and pay attention to how his body responds.

 

[Nezhul]

It's easier to make someone cum when they're super frustrated. So, tease him for a long time and then try.

Here I have to partially disagree.
If we talk teasing as in edging - you tease too much and then the opposite effect happens. Basically it becomes really hard to edge or cum.

If we are talking about teasing like kepping him horny and waiting the whole day - that definitely helps. Touch him in the morning, text him about how you want him while he's at work, wear something sexy in the evening, then wear some lingerie specifically for him at night to finally have sex. Don't let him get everything he wants right away, withholding yourself for a few minutes.
Then he'll be horny enough.

 

[dumbeg4]

I don't need help going down but I do when trying to get up again.

 

[joelafayette]

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[bone251]

Maybe try a combined handjob with coconut oil. It is the cooking oil used for movie popcorn and great to use for pancakes. But for a hand job it and Ponds are the best. With the coconut oil you can still do the BJ.

 

[plesmore]

Maybe try a combined handjob with coconut oil. It is the cooking oil used for movie popcorn and great to use for pancakes. But for a hand job it and Ponds are the best. With the coconut oil you can still do the BJ.

How long will coconut oil last or do you have to continue pouring it on?