Here I am.

[Nicefella]

There can be many reasons your husband doesn't feel like having sex - being gay isn't the most likely unless there are other clues pointing to that. Desire for sex is affected dramatically by the non-sexual parts of our lives as well, so maybe just assume there is something that bothers him to the point of distraction. If you can find out what that is, you can help him.. and then he can help

Exactly. She may want to inquire before assuming her man is gay. In fact that is probably the shittiest thing she can just assume. Why gay? Couldn’t he be having an affair with another woman?

I agree with the above poster - Ask him what he finds sexy instead of assuming what he finds sexy? I think the one thing many women don’t get is that men aren’t all wired to be down to fuck the minute they’re offered easy sex by their partners. Sometimes they may just not be up for it.

Finally - The fact that she is concluding he is gay because he doesn’t pounce on her because she isn’t the worst he’s had is pretty dense. Maybe he doesn’t find seeing her in cutoffs with her vag hanging out to be cute?.

 

[KyleR215]

It is possible that you husband has a medical condition where he no longer gets sexually stimulated and aroused. Low testosterone for example.

Or it could be psychological in nature.

Have you suggested he see a doctor? Or go to couples therapy?

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

You guys are all awesome and have great points, I honestly have questioned if he might be bi, or gay. Just because he’s not rude to others who are gay or against gays but if it’s even brought up to him a question of it he flips out and shuts down( his dad raised him that way. Sometimes I wonder if he’s ashamed of it)

Maybe I’m his decoy? Idk our relationship started as FWB and we had a great sex life tonstart. He had been with other girls before me one long term as well.

I’m not sure what it was but I came across something like a photo in our shared google account of two guys from the waste down like standing in front of each other with their dicks hard… I know he’s had a three some with one of his friends and a chick years before we got together. He chucked it up to be she wanted to be a porn start we both fucked her.

But when I waited for the right time and brought photo up (I know my husbands dick, boxers hairy legs) very well he acted like I’d lost my mind said it must had been spam that ended up in our google photos? I’m not an idiot idk I can’t do anything about it if he can’t accept it other than telling him I’d love him inn anyway even if he one day realize he was more gay than straight.


To him cheating yes I have found emails, texts, etc from the year we married ten years ago recently. ( which I separated from him and dated someone else for a bit and he made me out to be the god awful person… ha)

He’s very controlling and possessive. I guess take his action figures I’ve bought him through the years. Like over 70+ anime characters… he likes too look at them, show them off that he has these cool things but never take them from the shelf but if I or my son went into the man cave and played with one he would lose his shit and say it’s ruined.

Now I’m not perfect. We got together when I was 17 he was my first real boyfriend and I was homeschooled. He was 26. Got married at 18. I have had growing up to still do and he hadn’t done yet. And I do have some issues, anger issues, past trauma he can’t seem to understand and will remind me during arguments “I’m just fucked up because of XYZ hes not the issue” and in the last 5 years or so have been diagnosed with schizophrenia. Which also has had its impact on our marriage.

He refuses going to therapy because he doesn’t have any problems to go to therapy according to him.

When I have attempted to push him or my doctor even to do some reading on being in a relationship with someone with my issues he doesn’t.

And then when I have episodes, am not okay. (Heck one point I told him I needed to be admitted again because I wasn’t okay and was afraid of what’d I’d do he told me he wouldn’t take me because that would cause CPS to be involved and take our son?)

I grew up with a drug addicted suicidal father. A few months before I was born was his first attempt which cause him to have multiple surgeries and become addicted to painkillers. I’ve blacked out a lot but I can count at least 6 attempts he’s made in my life and how that impacted me. I never want my son to feel that way and before my son gets older I just wanted the help. And at that point in time i honestly was off my meds, going batshit in my head had a moment of sanity and asked for help and knew I would switch back to batshit any moment.

I’m not sure if he took it as me being attention seeking, if he ignored it it would go away? Or if he really believes CPS would be called but they weren’t the first time I was atmitted and CPS was never called on my family for that reason. Yes other reasons but not because of ky dad doing that.

It’s just the fact that I’m exhausted at trying with someone who shuts me down, could careless if I died, but fuck if someone gives me the time a day he’s marking his territory and scaring the only friends I have off.

It’s unhealthy I know and I know most will say run but I just know I can’t raise my son alone right now. I’m not stable enough for that.

I CANNOT live with my family. They are worse than him. And I don’t want to go through filing harassment charges against him like the last time I left him. And honestly I’m terrified to be alone. That’s when it’s the worst.

I had made a friend who for once I felt normal, comfortable, and accepted and safe for the first time in years and I’m pretty sure he somehow sabotaged that… that friend ghosted won’t contact me back so I’ll never know and it’s better if I just let it go then bring it up to him but it’s terrifying that if I do leave will he do that to everyone I ever try to have in my life? But thanks guys you’re input was great

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

I’m not asking anyone for money? Yes I liked the idea of a sugar baby but it’s unrealistic. Please I hope everyone understands I do not want any money. Thank you. I was sharing answers to questions. Thank you.

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

I’m going to be a good little girl and keep my mouth shut or I might get my self into trouble if I respond any further to you

 

[Greekguy1963]

I’m going to be a good little girl and keep my mouth shut or I might get my self into trouble if I respond any further to you

I like trouble!

 

[Booboobear84]

I’m not asking anyone for money? Yes I liked the idea of a sugar baby but it’s unrealistic. Please I hope everyone understands I do not want any money. Thank you. I was sharing answers to questions. Thank you.

It's part of the scammer tax. Even people who are legit are suspected. It's because scammers try to paint believable pictures. It leaves most of us unsure.

 

[Bustone]

Here I am sitting here in a office chair in our man cave. short shorts, one leg propped up and the other on the ground basically for the world to see in front of my husband watching videos on his phone… there’s no way he can’t notice me being “slutty” but why can many men go out of their way to hit on or speak to me and him just completely ignore me?

Is he gay? I’m basically starting to believe he has to be gay. Doesn’t want a divorce but won’t do anything to try and feed my needs.

I’m not ugly, I am 28 curves, I’m not the worst he’s been with and he’s told me how wonderful I am in the past.

Why does he ignore the hints? I guess I have a gay husband.

I didn’t Know you had another husband the husband you have is ghosted and shut out of our marriage I’ve tried so hard to talk to you and it’s like I’m speaking a foreign language

 

[Bustone]

Here I am sitting here in a office chair in our man cave. short shorts, one leg propped up and the other on the ground basically for the world to see in front of my husband watching videos on his phone… there’s no way he can’t notice me being “slutty” but why can many men go out of their way to hit on or speak to me and him just completely ignore me?

Is he gay? I’m basically starting to believe he has to be gay. Doesn’t want a divorce but won’t do anything to try and feed my needs.

I’m not ugly, I am 28 curves, I’m not the worst he’s been with and he’s told me how wonderful I am in the past.

Why does he ignore the hints? I guess I have a gay husband.

Maybe it’s because I seen all the videos you are in being fucked and you keeping it a secret

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

I didn’t Know you had another husband the husband you have is ghosted and shut out of our marriage I’ve tried so hard to talk to you and it’s like I’m speaking a foreign language

Hold on buddy. If you are my actual soon to be ex husband… how could you be trying to talk to me leaving every chance you have?

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

Maybe it’s because I seen all the videos you are in being fucked and you keeping it a secret

Well.. as far as I’m am aware the only person who’s videoed me during sex is my soon to be ex I think you have th wrong girl buddy. I get it though. I’ve been there but trust me I don’t think I’m who you think I am. Good luxk

 

[Bustone]

Well.. as far as I’m am aware the only person who’s videoed me during sex is my soon to be ex I think you have th wrong girl buddy. I get it though. I’ve been there but trust me I don’t think I’m who you think I am. Good luxk

I don’t, you know what’s funny? You don’t pay attention. How you just answered me “buddy” you’ve answered like that before your picture dead give away but ok Amanda Lorena olvera keep making a fool out of yourself keep being a narcissistic pos

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

I don’t, you know what’s funny? You don’t pay attention. How you just answered me “buddy” you’ve answered like that before your picture dead give away but ok Amanda Lorena olvera keep making a fool out of yourself keep being a narcissistic pos

I only laugh because I’ve been in your shoes. lol I honestly would love to give you clarity but am unsure how. I promise I am no Amanda. Take it from me. If you are at this point of the relationship you will hurt at first but letting go is the best thing I have done yet. If you need someone to talk to I’m here.

I honestly will send you the same photo with out my face covered privately if you like. I promise you

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

I don’t, you know what’s funny? You don’t pay attention. How you just answered me “buddy” you’ve answered like that before your picture dead give away but ok Amanda Lorena olvera keep making a fool out of yourself keep being a narcissistic pos

I’m so sorry to say this but at least from where I am from it is very common to call someone “buddy” many do…..

 

[Bustone]

I’m so sorry to say this but at least from where I am from it is very common to call someone “buddy” many do…..

What is it going to take for you to pull your head out of your ass? Do I have to hurt you?

 

[Pad_Foot]

Enjoy your hunt for spice !
Sorry you have to ignore some folks along the way
Don’t let the deter you !

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

lol this poor guy i truly feel for him but like I don’t know how else to explain to him I’m not his wife Amanda. I thought it actually was my husband for a moment but after messaging him it’s clearly not and he’s not giving it up

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

What is it going to take for you to pull your head out of your ass? Do I have to hurt you?

Well if you were my Ex you would have already hurt me multiple times. Do I need to remind you with the photos of my black eyes on separate occasions? I mean I know you say I deserved them but did you for get those? Or can you comprehend that I am not Amanda lol

 

[Bustone]

Doesn’t matter what you say behind a screen you will face me soon it’s just destroying you don’t give a fuck about me

 

[jp8155]

Oh no. I’ve grabbed him like that once before and he shut me down didn’t like it at all. Very vanil

Here I am sitting here in a office chair in our man cave. short shorts, one leg propped up and the other on the ground basically for the world to see in front of my husband watching videos on his phone… there’s no way he can’t notice me being “slutty” but why can many men go out of their way to hit on or speak to me and him just completely ignore me?

Is he gay? I’m basically starting to believe he has to be gay. Doesn’t want a divorce but won’t do anything to try and feed my needs.

I’m not ugly, I am 28 curves, I’m not the worst he’s been with and he’s told me how wonderful I am in the past.

Why does he ignore the hints? I guess I have a gay husband.

Grab me like that and push my face deep into your thighs and I'll do you forever.

 

[Broken_paladin]

I dont know what kind of alternate universe I stumbled into this place is but this is the weirdest shit I have read in my life what the actual fuck is going on in here

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

I dont know what kind of alternate universe I stumbled into this place is but this is the weirdest shit I have read in my life what the actual fuck is going on in here

oh my god i made some popcorn and just entertained it a little

 

[DinglyDangly]

oh my god i made some popcorn and just entertained it a little

When it's in someone's head, you are who they think you are, you're fighting a losing battle

 

[Sallyhansen6914]

When it's in someone's head, you are who they think you are, you're fighting a losing battle

Oh I can speak from experience I know

 

[DinglyDangly]

Here I am sitting here in a office chair in our man cave. short shorts, one leg propped up and the other on the ground basically for the world to see in front of my husband watching videos on his phone… there’s no way he can’t notice me being “slutty” but why can many men go out of their way to hit on or speak to me and him just completely ignore me?

Is he gay? I’m basically starting to believe he has to be gay. Doesn’t want a divorce but won’t do anything to try and feed my needs.

I’m not ugly, I am 28 curves, I’m not the worst he’s been with and he’s told me how wonderful I am in the past.

Why does he ignore the hints? I guess I have a gay husband.

I have a friend whose husband is the same, now. He's not interested in her sexually, but loves her dearly. She lives in hope that she will get her husband back, but it might take time.