Hotwives, what do you like about it?

[PapaRomantic]

Do I struggle to stay within our rules? Let me come back to that one ... I should answer the second one first.

Is it strictly sex with boyfriends? No. There's a connection. It's impossible (for me) to be that intimate and not have a connection. Without it ... the sex would not be as good. I can't compartmentalize that completely.

Do those relationships have ALL the same emotions ... found in traditional bf/gf relationships? No. As I said, there's a connection but I wouldn't say its the same ... I do have a husband and I truly do love him. None of my bfs have remotely gripped my heart like him.

Now, do I struggle to say within our rules? Sometimes. Sex can be overwhelming for me and the wrong guy can tempt me. The concept of "rules are meant to be broken" is stupid to me. I'm sure that people don't really mean it when they say that and it's probably mostly tongue in cheek. But breaking rules that are there to protect the marriage ... even little ones ... would be devastating, at least, to us. Maybe, if I hadn't done what I did ... rules could be blurred a little. But not with our past. So I have been tempted ... but I'm more grounded now. Rules help that. As well as the remembrance of how painful it was for both of us when I broke them.

Your honesty in answering these questions is amazing! Thank you for sharing with us - I'm glad this works well for you!

 

[LexiSmiles92]

Being honest about my shortcomings is cathartic ...

Being honest about what I like is fun ...

 

[peruchica]

I got introduced to the concept of being shared in my early twenties and instantly got hooked on it. I've been someone who has always been very sexual and always had a very hard time being monogamous. It's one of the main reasons why I avoided getting into a relationship for so long. I enjoyed the freedom of being able to have fun with wherever I wanted, whenever I wanted.

When I met my husband, he knew that I was very sexual and knew about my past promiscuity but never judged me for it. When he and I officially started dating, I intended to remain monogamous since I was definitely in love with him. That only lasted a few months though. And it was just a matter of time before I started to stray. My cheating was always purely sexual though. Never had any kind of romantic connection with anyone else. Fast forward a couple of years when my husband asked if I would want to have a threesome with him and his friend and I instantly said yes. That's how our open relationship began. Eventually I told him about the cheating as well and he absolutely loved it and we've enjoyed the lifestyle ever since.

As far as what I enjoy about it, it's a combination of things. Like I said, I've always been a very sexual woman so just being able to have the variety, frequency, and feeling desired by so many different men is extremely satisfying to me. Additionally, though, I absolutely get joy out of doing things that I know are going to get my husband riled up. Whether that's surprising him in the middle of the day with a text or a picture of me with another man, or him actively sharing me with his friends, a co-worker, or even a random stranger is so arousing.