How best to end a D/s bond?

[ImOnIt]

"I just don't think we're compatible."

Alternatively, this can be condensed to

'We're not compatible.'

 

[scraggles]

Im new to the D/s lifestyle..and as a New Submissive am at a hard place for the first time...I have an online Master,( my first) and know now I need to end the relationship.. however I am very strongly bonded to him mentally...but we recently met for first time.. IRL and its just NOT there for me physically...and the sex not that great.. how do I proceed? I would miss him so much online.. Dont want to hurt him and will miss him so much from an online stand point.
Any advice will be appreciated, Thanks

as An update..I did it..was just honest and said in IRL..expectattions were not met, yada.. yada.. but it was great while it lasted and as mature adults need to move on.. whew..such a relief..and thanks to all for the advice so IM FREE now..and just want to have some fun..before finding my next "REAL Dom"..

 

[satindesire]

as An update..I did it..was just honest and said in IRL..expectattions were not met, yada.. yada.. but it was great while it lasted and as mature adults need to move on.. whew..such a relief..and thanks to all for the advice so IM FREE now..and just want to have some fun..before finding my next "REAL Dom"..

Good for you hon. Glad you were brave!

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

as An update..I did it..was just honest and said in IRL..expectattions were not met, yada.. yada.. but it was great while it lasted and as mature adults need to move on.. whew..such a relief..and thanks to all for the advice so IM FREE now..and just want to have some fun..before finding my next "REAL Dom"..

You sound unequivocally pleased, which would mean that you made the right move. May your inbox runneth over.

 

[NomadLady]

You sound unequivocally pleased, which would mean that you made the right move. May your inbox runneth over.

Ditto that sentiment...

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

I just had an inappropriately snarky thought that I suspect I should keep to myself.

You're withholding snark??? Snark away.

 

[richard_daily]

Avoid online masters like the plague.

This.

 

[DeepGreenEyes]

Well... I genuinely wish to cast no aspersions on scraggles, but it occured to me that a relatively new poster, having read around a bit but being new to the community, aching to feel more welcomed by the regular posters, might fabricate just such a scenario; right up to the happy bait line of "just wanting to have some fun now"

an unfair subject to bring up at this juncture, but you did ask.

Yes, I did. And now I get to chastise you for being so suspicious. God, life is unfair.

Plus you've given everyone the idea now. Never listen to me again.

 

[scraggles]

well I can see your point Stag..that some might think my situation might appear a fabrication and my Comment of "wanting to have fun"..as a ploy for attention..but actually I am being sincere and just looking for input from those knowledgable and with the level of life experience in D/s to offer a naive submissive some sage advice.
I havent been touched by the level of cynicism..that some have on the boards..and I know Im vulnerable but nothing ventured...nothing gained..

 

[FungiUg]

I accidentally typed "be sage" there.... that comes later.

... and the chance to be many other herbs. I prefer being oregano.

 

[FungiUg]

what special about oregano?

I use it more in my cooking than I do sage?

 

[satindesire]

what special about oregano?

(please don't tell me it gets used in douches)

Even if it was, douching is archaic and harmful and should only be done when it's a prescription douche given to you by a doctor. Herb douche just sounds gross anyway.

*takes off nerd glasses*

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Y'all spice up my life.

 

[FungiUg]

I suppose I could understand the theoretical appeal of ginger, but in general I would prefer not to be an herb.

Ah, but do you pronounce the H?

 

[scraggles]

Y'all spice up my life.

I prefer to think of myself like Basil...tastier when served raw.!!

 

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[zbreadman]

My advice is stop lying to yourself and your family. Just a matter of time before the life style catches up to you and the devastation begins

 

[Stella_Omega]

My advice is stop lying to yourself and your family. Just a matter of time before the life style catches up to you and the devastation begins

What the hell is wrong with cooking with herbs?

I love thyme, myself. Never have enough of it.

 

[midwestyankee]

What the hell is wrong with cooking with herbs?

I love thyme, myself. Never have enough of it.

Perhaps you need to read a book on thyme management.