How do you kik?

RacyWilde

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I’m very new to Lit and sexting (only two weeks old!). I plunged right in not knowing anything. As an am-writer I’m really interested in people’s kinks. I’ve had some great fun with some great guys. But, I want to learn more about what other people do when they approach someone on kik (any chat) for the first time - process and habits.

I’d love to discuss and get your insights into:

1. How you pick your people? Are you particular or enjoy everyone? Why?

2. What’s your goal from a kik chat?

3. Etiquette, intros, and expectations - what makes you leave/stay?

4. What do you do when you realise you don’t connect on the level you want, even though the person is really nice? (How do you tell them? :eek: )

5. And, how many kik buddies do you normally have at any one time?

6. Basically, your general experience.

Or, any other advice you’d like to share. ;)

Since I’m asking, I’ll give too:
As I said I’m new to everything. I plunged straight into kik chats. I contacted like 10 people who said they were online (they actually weren’t) until I found someone who was. It was fun. So, I though to put up an ad late one night on the personals just to see what would happen. I had to take it down an hour later. Great response. Yikes! lol. Now I’m on a mission to get to the bottom of my waiting list! (I have OCD like that 0.0.)

I have no expectations - I like everyone, so I’m pretty easy going and am accepting of other peoples kinks (I’m very kinky myself.) But I’m learning I’m a little too easy with pics and vids (I think I need to play harder to get). I just feel if I want a pic from the guy, I should be game enough too. But, I haven’t had any bad experiences with kik, so I haven't developed a cynical temperament yet…lol.

The hard thing is, I’m overloaded…lol. All the initial 10 are getting back to me, I’ve still got a waiting list (it’s growing somehow), and people I thought I was just hooking up with for fun are now wanting more. 0.0. ooops.

I went into the experience without any long term plans, (in fact I was not looking to build any relationships) but I’ve been surprised. I’ve met quality people that I’ve really connected with, so I’m keeping them ;) But, that’s not stopping me from still meeting others for fun. Basically, I enjoy everyone, I’m not looking for ‘the one’, and I think it is making my experiences more enjoyable (than what I’ve read from others complaining on here.)

Thanks in advance

:kiss:
 
I have come to enjoy using kik for both RL and online playing/ getting to know etc. It is just a lot easier to keep seperate. As far as number at a time, I would saw max 3--4, but honestly my goal is pretty much always just one. Timelines can cross, so there is kind of a " dating " phase where I am talking to a few different people and narrowing down to a good partner.

As far as who I pick, if I like and trust a pm I have received, after a couple messages I will kik. I don't usually have a goal in mind I am just as happy with discovering a great person to have a friendly chat about life and sex with as a steamy sexting partner. I think that is why I have enjoyed it so much - the lack of expectations and dedication to honesty. I think good people can sense the difference. Some of those chats expected to be friendly turned steamy, some expected steamy turned friendly. I just love meeting people. This handle is newer, but I have been visiting lit for many years now even though I'm just in my lower 30's. I still believe it is the best community available, hands down.

I think if you can be yourself and have refined the skill of being sexy (and yes it is a skill) thrn male or female, lots of people will be interested!

I am a writer too, so I am always incredibly interested in hearing about others kinks and quirks as well :)
 
I’m very new to Lit and sexting (only two weeks old!). I plunged right in not knowing anything. As an am-writer I’m really interested in people’s kinks. I’ve had some great fun with some great guys. But, I want to learn more about what other people do when they approach someone on kik (any chat) for the first time - process and habits.

I’d love to discuss and get your insights into:

1. How you pick your people? Are you particular or enjoy everyone? Why?

2. What’s your goal from a kik chat?

3. Etiquette, intros, and expectations - what makes you leave/stay?

4. What do you do when you realise you don’t connect on the level you want, even though the person is really nice? (How do you tell them? :eek: )

5. And, how many kik buddies do you normally have at any one time?

6. Basically, your general experience.

Or, any other advice you’d like to share. ;)

Since I’m asking, I’ll give too:
As I said I’m new to everything. I plunged straight into kik chats. I contacted like 10 people who said they were online (they actually weren’t) until I found someone who was. It was fun. So, I though to put up an ad late one night on the personals just to see what would happen. I had to take it down an hour later. Great response. Yikes! lol. Now I’m on a mission to get to the bottom of my waiting list! (I have OCD like that 0.0.)

I have no expectations - I like everyone, so I’m pretty easy going and am accepting of other peoples kinks (I’m very kinky myself.) But I’m learning I’m a little too easy with pics and vids (I think I need to play harder to get). I just feel if I want a pic from the guy, I should be game enough too. But, I haven’t had any bad experiences with kik, so I haven't developed a cynical temperament yet…lol.

The hard thing is, I’m overloaded…lol. All the initial 10 are getting back to me, I’ve still got a waiting list (it’s growing somehow), and people I thought I was just hooking up with for fun are now wanting more. 0.0. ooops.

I went into the experience without any long term plans, (in fact I was not looking to build any relationships) but I’ve been surprised. I’ve met quality people that I’ve really connected with, so I’m keeping them ;) But, that’s not stopping me from still meeting others for fun. Basically, I enjoy everyone, I’m not looking for ‘the one’, and I think it is making my experiences more enjoyable (than what I’ve read from others complaining on here.)

Thanks in advance

:kiss:

Very nice, Racy. Glad your experience using this so far has been positive. It's my preferred way to chat and share pics and vids. It can be very easy to be overloaded, especially being an attractive, intelligent, and sexually open woman. But you'll figure it out as far who the true keepers are.
 
I have come to enjoy using kik for both RL and online playing/ getting to know etc. It is just a lot easier to keep seperate. As far as number at a time, I would saw max 3--4, but honestly my goal is pretty much always just one. Timelines can cross, so there is kind of a " dating " phase where I am talking to a few different people and narrowing down to a good partner.

As far as who I pick, if I like and trust a pm I have received, after a couple messages I will kik. I don't usually have a goal in mind I am just as happy with discovering a great person to have a friendly chat about life and sex with as a steamy sexting partner. I think that is why I have enjoyed it so much - the lack of expectations and dedication to honesty. I think good people can sense the difference. Some of those chats expected to be friendly turned steamy, some expected steamy turned friendly. I just love meeting people. This handle is newer, but I have been visiting lit for many years now even though I'm just in my lower 30's. I still believe it is the best community available, hands down.

I think if you can be yourself and have refined the skill of being sexy (and yes it is a skill) thrn male or female, lots of people will be interested!

I am a writer too, so I am always incredibly interested in hearing about others kinks and quirks as well :)


Yeah, I think Literotica is a pretty great place too. And I've noticed that many people have been on here for longer than five years. That's a great marker to say how good a place is, I think. I am also amazed at the openness and honesty. It's very refreshing.

I've heard people talk about kik but have never used it until now. It was so easy to sign up and I think the little app is fantastic. But, I do wish they had a coy lip-biting emoji...lol.

And, I also just worked out how to make videos...lol. Now that is going to be dangerous ;)
 
Very nice, Racy. Glad your experience using this so far has been positive. It's my preferred way to chat and share pics and vids. It can be very easy to be overloaded, especially being an attractive, intelligent, and sexually open woman. But you'll figure it out as far who the true keepers are.

Awww, thank you. :kiss:

(Problem is... I think there are so many keepers on here 0.0 ...lol)
 
I don't like giving out my Kik username unless I know that person well enough. Keep that info private unless you want to be bombarded with dick pics and stupid requests.

It's hard for me to contact with someone unless I'm looking for something particular. That's what makes it hard for me. On the bright side, I've filtered a few friends and they're very precious. :)
 
I don't like giving out my Kik username unless I know that person well enough. Keep that info private unless you want to be bombarded with dick pics and stupid requests.

It's hard for me to contact with someone unless I'm looking for something particular. That's what makes it hard for me. On the bright side, I've filtered a few friends and they're very precious. :)

Thanks for your comment! x (I really wanted to hear from other women and get their insights.)

Yeah, I've only given my username out for about an hour on Lit and took it down, but people are tricksey and are still making intros lol . I don't mind though. (Maybe I should 0.0)

You know, I don't mind all the dick pics....lol. I think I'm just a perv. (Well, I know I am ;) ) I much prefer them over asshole pics :D But, I'm also fascinated at how guys are so bravado.

It seems a lot of girls (and some guys) like a long romancing lead up to sexting, wanting to fall for the mind first beforehand, but I prefer the sexting first. You get to know a person real quick when you sext them, and then it's easier to tell if you have a connection or not. Before sexting, everyone is on their best behavior. After sexting it gets real. And, the act of sexting tells you so much about a person in a very short time - their desires, their focus, their creativity, whether they are a self-satisfier (which I can't stand)... Guys are primarily physical beings so I like to study them through their natural behavior...lol ;)

I guess I'm not a "hi, how are you? How's your day?" kind of girl. I'm the other sort–"let's just have fun and if we connect then I'll invest in getting to know you". But, I think I'm very different to most girls in that regard ;)
 
Yeah, I think Literotica is a pretty great place too. And I've noticed that many people have been on here for longer than five years. That's a great marker to say how good a place is, I think. I am also amazed at the openness and honesty. It's very refreshing.

I've heard people talk about kik but have never used it until now. It was so easy to sign up and I think the little app is fantastic. But, I do wish they had a coy lip-biting emoji...lol.

And, I also just worked out how to make videos...lol. Now that is going to be dangerous ;)

Lit is great :) And yes, kik is incredibly addicting! Just seeing the little icon can make me hot under the collar :cool:
 
It seems a lot of girls (and some guys) like a long romancing lead up to sexting, wanting to fall for the mind first beforehand, but I prefer the sexting first. You get to know a person real quick when you sext them, and then it's easier to tell if you have a connection or not. Before sexting, everyone is on their best behavior. After sexting it gets real. And, the act of sexting tells you so much about a person in a very short time - their desires, their focus, their creativity, whether they are a self-satisfier (which I can't stand)... Guys are primarily physical beings so I like to study them through their natural behavior...lol ;)

I guess I'm not a "hi, how are you? How's your day?" kind of girl. I'm the other sort–"let's just have fun and if we connect then I'll invest in getting to know you". But, I think I'm very different to most girls in that regard ;)

My problem is... I'm not looking for romance or a fling. I'm happily married. I don't need or want that. I just need people who I can chat with without them obnoxiously hitting on me. A little flirting is fine. Too much of it just ruins the conversation.

Whatever method suits you, do it. As long as you're comfortable with the conversation, I guess. :)
 
My problem is... I'm not looking for romance or a fling. I'm happily married. I don't need or want that. I just need people who I can chat with without them obnoxiously hitting on me. A little flirting is fine. Too much of it just ruins the conversation.

Whatever method suits you, do it. As long as you're comfortable with the conversation, I guess. :)

That sucks, perhaps it is just easier when you are in a happy and fulfilling relationship? I know that I very much am, so I get excited about meeting people even just to talk, with the added fun of sex as conversation. I never had a sister either, so I guess I have always been a little more excited about platonic female friends.
 
I don't like giving out my Kik username unless I know that person well enough. Keep that info private unless you want to be bombarded with dick pics and stupid requests.

It's hard for me to contact with someone unless I'm looking for something particular. That's what makes it hard for me. On the bright side, I've filtered a few friends and they're very precious. :)

picture taker:devil: .....and being a smartass is a great occupation
 
Thanks for your comment! x (I really wanted to hear from other women and get their insights.)

Yeah, I've only given my username out for about an hour on Lit and took it down, but people are tricksey and are still making intros lol . I don't mind though. (Maybe I should 0.0)

You know, I don't mind all the dick pics....lol. I think I'm just a perv. (Well, I know I am ;) ) I much prefer them over asshole pics :D But, I'm also fascinated at how guys are so bravado.

It seems a lot of girls (and some guys) like a long romancing lead up to sexting, wanting to fall for the mind first beforehand, but I prefer the sexting first. You get to know a person real quick when you sext them, and then it's easier to tell if you have a connection or not. Before sexting, everyone is on their best behavior. After sexting it gets real. And, the act of sexting tells you so much about a person in a very short time - their desires, their focus, their creativity, whether they are a self-satisfier (which I can't stand)... Guys are primarily physical beings so I like to study them through their natural behavior...lol ;)

I guess I'm not a "hi, how are you? How's your day?" kind of girl. I'm the other sort–"let's just have fun and if we connect then I'll invest in getting to know you". But, I think I'm very different to most girls in that regard ;)

i am all for skipping the Hi's ,,,,,,,"pats my knee and looks at you "
 
I love kik. For keeping up with someone, and sexting, it's great. I prefer skype though for really getting to know someone, just because I'm faster with my keyboard than I am with my thumbs.

One person mentioned not having luck with kik. My thing is, you HAVE to be able to carry a conversation. And it is a talent and a bit of an art. For instance, I hate text speak. I don't shorten words (on purpose!) and also, I think it's actually kind of sexy to get someone so aroused (and so much so yourself) they suddenly forget how to spell and puntuate! ;)

But if you're speaking with text speak and monosyllabic answers, and never leading the conversation but leaving me to carry it... it won't work, no matter what client you're using.

I've thought about doing some stories taken directly from kik chats. (All personal details witheld, of course!) I've been lucky to have had some fantastic partners, and it seems in this day and age, it would almost be educational! :D:rose:
 
Apparently I am no good at KIK. I have had only one very very short conversation on KIK and then my chat person became non responsive. I guess I am new and most likely boring. Maybe I didn't mention sex and bored the other person. I don't know. I just wanted somebody to talk to every now and then instead of the same two other people in this world that I know. I will have to work on it.

That's happened to me too. They disappear, or drop off. I imagine then getting caught masturbating by their boss or something...lol. I just delete them after a week of no contact ;)
 
i am all for skipping the Hi's ,,,,,,,"pats my knee and looks at you "


I agree... if you've had 20 already in a week, all the intros start to get a little tedious...lol. I was thinking about starting a thread that just states all my intro info so when people contact me we can start straight into the good stuff ;)


I love kik. For keeping up with someone, and sexting, it's great. I prefer skype though for really getting to know someone, just because I'm faster with my keyboard than I am with my thumbs.

One person mentioned not having luck with kik. My thing is, you HAVE to be able to carry a conversation. And it is a talent and a bit of an art. For instance, I hate text speak. I don't shorten words (on purpose!) and also, I think it's actually kind of sexy to get someone so aroused (and so much so yourself) they suddenly forget how to spell and puntuate! ;)

But if you're speaking with text speak and monosyllabic answers, and never leading the conversation but leaving me to carry it... it won't work, no matter what client you're using.

I've thought about doing some stories taken directly from kik chats. (All personal details witheld, of course!) I've been lucky to have had some fantastic partners, and it seems in this day and age, it would almost be educational! :D:rose:

I've also thought about using kik convos for a short story. I think some great stuff happens in kik sessions. I have this one kik buddy where we send large instillments to each other every other day, and he writes so beautifully - puts me to shame...lol. He's got me crafting drafts just so I can affect him the way he does me with his amazing writing. And no, he has no work up on here as he has never really written anything, which is such a shame. Amazing talent, he can get me in the mood with just knowing he has written something for me 0.0 .
 
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