How do you see your sexuality?

[J1biboi]

Bi leaning toward straight.

I was described once as being bi leaning toward straight. I have always thought of myself as being bi, ever since I knew that there was such a term. And although almost all of my sexual activity has been with women, my first sexual experience was with another boy. And as far back as I can remember, I have and I guess always will have the desire to suck cock.

 

[J1biboi]

I always wished I was a female rather than the male I am. I cross dress when I am able to (when wife is out or away) and on the beach check out the women before the men. I once said to a friend that I am 75% male and 25% woman and he replied "more like 55% male and 45% woman." With hindsight I see he was correct.

There are tests online that you can take to determine your sexuality. I don't know how accurate they are. If I remember correctly, I was 66% female and 34% male, that is probably pretty close.

 

[sr71plt]

I am bi and see no gender boundary to sex is sex is sex. As long as I was attracted to the other and vice versa . . .

 

[oralgami]

Like many others here, I can only have emotional relationships with women. The idea of kissing a guy repulses me. Nevertheless, in my mid-40's I was unhappily married in what had become a sexless marriage. I began to fantasize about having oral sex with a guy similarly situated. I loved receiving oral and the idea of giving such pleasure to each other willingly and without the necessity of a special occasion or even foreplay excited me. Two guys sucking each other's dicks exactly the way we wanted.

Once I started to consider actually doing it, I wondered what the implications were. I could rationalize that a small number of experiences that I was just curious and still straight. Once I acted on my urges and found the anonymous hookup to be intensely exciting and pleasureable, I accepted that I must be bi - especially when I got over my aversion to cum in my mouth and got into the excitement of feeling cum emerge from a dick sliding back and forth over my lips. Lately I've come to the conclusion that I can't be bi if I'm not slightly attracted to men. I'm a straight guy with a penis fascination. The only part of a guy that remotely interests me is his groin area. Regardless, labels don't matter.

 

[PJPenner]

I am attracted to specific men and women. There isn't a particular type, weight, height, hair color, skin color, etc. My attraction is based on the person and it really doesn't make a difference if it is a man or woman. The one common factor though is that he or she is always confident in their sexuality and their sexual prowess.

I have had some really great male and female lovers over the years. I have been very fortunate and blessed.

 

[Somehowyou]

There are tests online that you can take to determine your sexuality. I don't know how accurate they are. If I remember correctly, I was 66% female and 34% male, that is probably pretty close.

Yes, leave it up to an on-line test. this is the best way to decide your sexuality.


Me? I have no idea. When I go out in public I am the biggest pussy hound. I have to fight to hold this inside and act respectable but I would like to bed every desirable young woman (and some of the older ones) that I see. have you ever seen Bill Murray in What About Bob eating dinner? That is me around woman or that is how i feel inside.

Here is the curious thing. When I masturbate in the evening on this site and I look at porn most of the time it is cuckold or shemale captions and videos . Once in awhile it is cock on cock rubbing - there was a beautiful video about two men that came simultaneously rubbing their cocks. It seems I want a beautiful female with all the trappings and a cock!!!!! I don't get it?

 

[J1biboi]

Yes, leave it up to an on-line test. this is the best way to decide your sexuality.


Me? I have no idea. When I go out in public I am the biggest pussy hound. I have to fight to hold this inside and act respectable but I would like to bed every desirable young woman (and some of the older ones) that I see. have you ever seen Bill Murray in What About Bob eating dinner? That is me around woman or that is how i feel inside.

Here is the curious thing. When I masturbate in the evening on this site and I look at porn most of the time it is cuckold or shemale captions and videos . Once in awhile it is cock on cock rubbing - there was a beautiful video about two men that came simultaneously rubbing their cocks. It seems I want a beautiful female with all the trappings and a cock!!!!! I don't get it?

I certainly wouldn't leave it up to an online test to determine my sexuality. But just from my thoughts and feelings, I think that the assessment was pretty close. I have often wondered what it would be like to be female and a lot of times wished that I was a girl. And if I were female, I'm sure that I would be bisexual, because I am emotionally attracted only to women. Like you, when I was out trolling, I was looking for pussy.
But I have always had the desire to suck cock, and I have tried it and I liked it. And when I masturbate, it is almost always watching a guy sucking a big cock.
I know what you mean about a beautiful female with a cock. Shemales and fembois are so fucking hot!

 

[Confuzzeled]

It seems like I'm like most in this thread....

I love the female body, i am emotionally attracted to women. However, i almost would rather see a nice cock than a pussy. I'm very picky with guy's overall physical appearance. Its not something i normally think about.. kissing guys isnt a turn on for me at all. I'd rather suck him, which I always thought was super weird until i saw so many people in similar boats from this thread!

I say i'm bi, but i'm mostly someone who loves women, but enjoys a nice dick! Labels are overrated.. its such a subjective thing and it can change so often.

 

[none2_none2]

...However, i almost would rather see a nice cock than a pussy. I'm very picky with guy's overall physical appearance. Its not something i normally think about.. kissing guys isnt a turn on for me at all. I'd rather suck him, which I always thought was super weird until i saw so many people in similar boats from this thread!...

Keep in mind that those that get on Literotica and post about love-women-want-cock is not a random sampling of guys. I really don't think it is nearly as common as people would like to think. However, what is more important is that people know themselves -- whether they are unique or part of the crowd with similar desires.

As long as both people want what they want, go for it. Personally if I were single, I just wouldn't waste my time on someone who only wanted my cock. Sure guys don't necessarily need to be taken out to a restaurant, told they are "pretty", be given some jewlery, told that someone wants to spend the rest of their life with them --before they want to get off; but think about the whole concept of wanting just one part of a person.

"He's kind stupid, but he has a big cock."
"I wouldn't want to waste an afternoon with him, but I'd spend 5-10 minutes to drain his cock."
"He's fat, but he has a pretty cock."

I suppose if one is really proud of their cock, such statements might seem like a complement, but still most would probably feel like they were someone's last desperate choice or that they would simply "do" for the moment....

My ideal would be the exact opposite -- a muscular, masculine, hairy man with a vagina. I suppose one would say if I were ever single again, to go out of my way to find such a rare creature (ie perhaps some M->F transexuals might foot the bill). Rather though, thoughout my life, I simply have to deal with the reality of things. Men typically cum with penises. Some sex partners may actually be fine if you ignored their penis. However, if I took the attitude that I'm going to completely ignore the penis, I'd probably have had a lot fewer people to be with over the years. I'm still a top. I simply don't pretend that their cocks don't exist. I'm fortunate in that my partner gets most excited when I play with his ass anyway, so at least in that sense he doesn't feel like I neglect him.

What few people I knew over the years who claimed to be only about the male cock, did seem to change later in life. As you get older, your cock gets hard more because of liking the total package -- not because there is testostrone raging through your body and you see a fettish that is hot.

I remember one guy who was about 10/15 years older than me. He was all about getting sucked. Not my thing, but we would talk when we saw each other at the park. Then he stopped coming to the park, and then finally he started up again. He was totally love sick. He had met some young guy and had fallen head over heals for that guy. He couldn't leave his wife and family, but when the young man dumped him, things were just not the same. What triggered his beyond "getting off" only with another dude, I have no idea. I just know he had changed...

Another example I remember was an old guy who got online who was all sick about loosing his fuckbuddy. They were both married to unsuspecting wives, but the two would take "fishing trips" and such other away times from their wives which had plenty of "non-sporting fringe benifits" (if you get my drift) while they were gone. Unfortunately, they were both up in age, and his friend had developed dementia which included some meanness, so the wife of the man with dementia felt it was best if the other guy stayed way. While he very much missed playing with cock, it was his friend's cock, and the friendship and comradery they had developed over the years during those "buddy trips" that he really missed the most.

Neither one of these guys were planning on coming out and running off to have a "gay marriage" with someone as some may fear. Still they weren't the cock-only cravers that they probably thought they were earlier in their lives.

No matter how "pretty" or "tasty" some may think a body part is, at some point most probably come to the realization that a body part only sex interest dwindles over time if you don't find something else in the person that makes it worth getting it on.

PS: I would like to think that it is maturity alone that makes one realize the need for more than a favorite body part, but perhaps it is also influenced by the decrease in hormones over the decades.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

I started to answer this and ended up writing a novel so spare you I shall not reply

 

[Mirageme65]

I started to answer this and ended up writing a novel so spare you I shall not reply

That's disapointing... I have been enjoying the responses..

 

[rbone04]

The woman I am with is my LOVE. I have dated men and had sex with more than a handful. BUT... I have always found myself seeking an emotionally long-term relationship with women. I think, however, the reason I am so happy now is because I have been honest with the woman I am dating. I am bisexual. She knows this, but is not threatened or judgemental about it. In fact, she is very turned on by the fact and has always been curious about my relationship with men. I am equally turned on sexually by men and women but I have made it a point to help her understand my heart and fidelity is with her. The bonus is... My honesty has kept her turned on by my bisexuality. The discussion of another man in the relationship is always on the table. Also, her willingness to experiment with strapon play or just otherwise "taboo" role playing for a traditional straight couple is easy to talk about and engage in. If she's uncomfortable she lets me know and we drop it, but my HONESTY has helped her realize things about herself she never thought possible. Maybe I'm lucky, but I think more than anything the open dialogue about my past and present sexuality has been nothing but a catalyst for an amazingly comfortable and trusting relationship.