How Intentional Are Your Sex Scenes?

The second vignette (Her Orgasm) that I wrote centered around the female orgasm. It was for the 750 word challenge, so yes sex was front and center. I was a little bit "uncomfortable" writing the vignette (religious guilt?) as well as submitting it. My first vignette (Fragments - First Love) was about sexual awareness as well as sexual orientation. Sex was inferred but not front and center.
 
The second vignette (Her Orgasm) that I wrote centered around the female orgasm. It was for the 750 word challenge, so yes sex was front and center. I was a little bit "uncomfortable" writing the vignette (religious guilt?) as well as submitting it. My first vignette (Fragments - First Love) was about sexual awareness as well as sexual orientation. Sex was inferred but not front and center.
Grew up Catholic, and although I always rebelled and rejected it, knew enough people that I definitely understand religious guilt. No one can know but you if that influenced how you wrote this, whether it caused you to think carefully about your vocabulary, the images, or you put out a conscious effort to not let it affect you, it worked. It's a very good piece.
 
I compress a lot of relationship information and character development into the sex scenes. They mirror the dynamic between the characters, they expose the relationship between the characters. I try to convey "Character X is like this" without just saying it or having them say it.
 
My sex scenes tend to err towards reasonable and logic, and reflect some sort of real life. For multiple scenes, I try to keep sex somewhat different from one scene to the next, it may be situational, positions are what the characters are capable of.
 
I was just working on the orgy scene in my WIP, which requires me to be very intentional in the sex scenes. At the peak, there's one couple, two three-comes and a four-some all having sex at the same time.My writing is not up to what I want to be, but it's still interesting and challenging for me to tackle interweaving the different activities.
I've been writing for years, and I still don't like writing more than three people.
 
Writing a sex scene before establishing the characters and relationships that contextualize it, is like serving somebody a big meal when they've just woken up and aren't particularly hungry.
I wrote a sex scene where the MC licked her lover's asshole, which was hot for me, because I knew (and the readers knew) that the act was one of control and dominance, rather than kindness, giving or worship. The same scene with the power dynamic revcersed would be very different, even if the physical actions were identical.
 
Writing a sex scene before establishing the characters and relationships that contextualize it, is like serving somebody a big meal when they've just woken up and aren't particularly hungry.
"Heels Over Head" is basically a sex scene and not much else. I use it to establish characters and their relationship.
 
I don't want to tell anyone else what to think, but all of my stories are about something to me. Every sex scene has a purpose, moves the story forward, and relates to what I think the story is about. Sometimes I find more development of characters and themes in sex scenes than in dialogue.

I have a few Google docs full of scenes, story fragments, and ideas that are waiting to find a story that needs them.
 
The problem is I feel a little bit of an obligation to explain why all the supermodels want to bang the pizza delivery guy.

Ruins all my stories.
 
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