Yzwoman
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- Aug 5, 2013
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I realize this is not a new topic, but I've been experiencing some changes in my early menopausal days and I would love to hear from others who may have had similar problems.
Intercourse has gone from being something that just a year ago I craved and could not get enough of to something that is incredibly painful. Yes, we've tried various lubricants, and I've tried using Replens (although not within a few hours of intercourse). It does become somewhat less painful after the initial penetration, but now matter how hard I try, I cannot hide that initial discomfort from my husband, which often causes... wilting. He's never been one to initiate sex, and now he has even less reason to want it, it seems.
I've mentioned this problem to my doctor. She recommended lubricants, which don't seem to really help that much. I've asked to try some low-dose vaginal estrogen products, but she is reluctant to put me on these given my history of migraines. I have a doctor's visit scheduled but it is not until November. I had a fairly normal gyno visit in the spring of 2015 (they had been watching a small ovarian cyst, but it seemed to be getting smaller). Everything else was normal then, and I don't have any other symptoms related to a cyst or tumor or any other health problems. I exercise regularly, eat well, don't smoke, and am not under undue stress or anything.
I hate feeling like my sex life is over, thinking of my vagina atrophying away. I still dream of sex, and masturbate semi-regularly, but I feel like a fraud in a way and sometimes have difficulty getting as aroused as I used to because of this problem. I miss that part of my life so much.
Is this normal?? Is there anything that might help?
Intercourse has gone from being something that just a year ago I craved and could not get enough of to something that is incredibly painful. Yes, we've tried various lubricants, and I've tried using Replens (although not within a few hours of intercourse). It does become somewhat less painful after the initial penetration, but now matter how hard I try, I cannot hide that initial discomfort from my husband, which often causes... wilting. He's never been one to initiate sex, and now he has even less reason to want it, it seems.
I've mentioned this problem to my doctor. She recommended lubricants, which don't seem to really help that much. I've asked to try some low-dose vaginal estrogen products, but she is reluctant to put me on these given my history of migraines. I have a doctor's visit scheduled but it is not until November. I had a fairly normal gyno visit in the spring of 2015 (they had been watching a small ovarian cyst, but it seemed to be getting smaller). Everything else was normal then, and I don't have any other symptoms related to a cyst or tumor or any other health problems. I exercise regularly, eat well, don't smoke, and am not under undue stress or anything.
I hate feeling like my sex life is over, thinking of my vagina atrophying away. I still dream of sex, and masturbate semi-regularly, but I feel like a fraud in a way and sometimes have difficulty getting as aroused as I used to because of this problem. I miss that part of my life so much.
Is this normal?? Is there anything that might help?