How to writer erotica without saying pussy and other silly words

[CopperSkink]

My two cents about writing for self opposed to writing for audience:

Harry Belafonte once quoted his mother as saying, "Harry, only sing songs you love to sing because any song you hate to sing is likely to be the one that's your biggest hit ever, and you'll be singing the damn thing for the rest of your life." Or something.

I write for myself because I feel a void in every piece of writing I've ever read. I haven't hit that perfect story yet either in others' or my own, but that's why I write. Still, I like the imaginary world I've made up for myself. But to write for someone else? I can understand that, that's a gift that can only come from you when someone asks you to write something. Writing for what's popular, that's something I have a problem with. Then all you're doing is throwing your lot in with what everybody else is doing. Why be an author if you don't want to add something unique to the mix?

 

[wildehafer]

For example if a woman came up to me and said; "I want you to drive your hardness deep inside the silk walls of my pussy," my response would be; "Well your friendly aint ya.".


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Lanzarote

I would say to her "You need an editor."

As perhaps you do as well.

Then I would fuck her.

 

[mynameisben]

Steer clear of his throbbing sceptre and her glistening honeypot, and you'll be fine. There's being figurative and there's being unsexy.

Another one to avoid is, "She flushed as I plunged her bowl."

I damn near failed Poetry-101 for that little boo boo.

 

[AsylumSeeker]

Speed bumps? SPEED BUMPS??

Yes, SR. A few readers thought that clever. Obviously not you.

 

[sr71plt]

Yes, SR. A few readers thought that clever. Obviously not you.

Why obviously not me? Do you have your smilies turned off?

(Don't bother to answer, though)

 

[haremfaery]

This was a discussion on another site. But a female writer I know uses it all the time.

For me, the words make a difference based on the story, if the rest is written in flowery language, then I don't mind flowery words used when they get to the sex part.

I usually use cock, but when it comes to women's bits, I have more trouble.

 

[wildehafer]

This was a discussion on another site. But a female writer I know uses it all the time.

For me, the words make a difference based on the story, if the rest is written in flowery language, then I don't mind flowery words used when they get to the sex part.

I usually use cock, but when it comes to women's bits, I have more trouble.

How about box, snatch or cunt?

Honestly gotta call it something and just dancing around the subject just makes it seem ridiculous, unless it's a Mills and Boon and then that's just the equivalent of elevator music.

If you're writing a story with sex and want it to be hot and realistic, use words that evoke the primal sex urge. Sex is a basic instinct, basic words are useful in describing it.

Leave the fancy stuff for romance.

 

[driphoney]

How about box, snatch or cunt?

Honestly gotta call it something and just dancing around the subject just makes it seem ridiculous, unless it's a Mills and Boon and then that's just the equivalent of elevator music.

If you're writing a story with sex and want it to be hot and realistic, use words that evoke the primal sex urge. Sex is a basic instinct, basic words are useful in describing it.

Leave the fancy stuff for romance.

A Wildhafer spotting!

What's wrong with romance? You can't have both romance and erotica?

Damn.

 

[Tonguemeister]

A Wildhafer spotting!

What's wrong with romance? You can have both romance and erotica?

Damn.

Trust her ... the lady is truly wise ...

 

[snoopercharmbrights]

... when it comes to women's bits, I have more trouble.

Yes, women's bits have caused trouble for me, usually when I have tried to interact with them ...

... For me, the words make a difference based on the story, if the rest is written in flowery language, then I don't mind flowery words used when they get to the sex part. ...

This can be useful. If you write about a "nice" girl who wouldn't even think of her "private forest" in any other terms than that, it really shows up what a nasty man the hero is when he uses words like "cunt hair" to refer to it.

 

[AsylumSeeker]

Speed bumps? SPEED BUMPS??

Someone actually thought this was clever. I'll try to locate the usage, but with so many stories submitted and such a frail memory perhaps not.

 

[driphoney]

Trust her ... the lady is truly wise ...

 

[haremfaery]

This can be useful. If you write about a "nice" girl who wouldn't even think of her "private forest" in any other terms than that, it really shows up what a nasty man the hero is when he uses words like "cunt hair" to refer to it.

Very true, how your characters think about sex and sexual parts can help to show more about them. You can use imagery to set the scene. I once co-wrote a steaming scene between a nymph and a demon of sorts, there was all sorts of imagery using the four elements and very flowery language. Women loved it. Men not so much--too obtuse. But it was a real stretch to write it. One friend commented, "Wait. What? They were having sex?"

I try to use the words I think my characters would use. But I personally still have trouble with the word cunt.

 

[palisa]

if you want to write true erotica you have to work to make the reader feel the same emotions as the characters. If you can do that, regardless of the depth of description of the sexual connection of the characters, then you write erotica. Otherwise......

Exactly. But that's hard to do.

 

[haremfaery]

Stacia_Kane on livejournal did a wonderful workshop online on how to write sex scenes. She is funny and clever and sexy and is a published writer of erotica. She's the one who made me want to become a sex-writing strumpet.

If you go to livejournal and look her up I'm sure you can find the posts. She gives some exercises to try to improve your writing. She also took scenes that people wrote and edited them to show how they could be improved.

I highly recommend you check her out. You can find me on LJ too--same ID.

 

[Guest]

"She flushed as I plunged her bowl."

Tacky.

And HILARIOUS. I shot coffee out of my nose.

 

[AsylumSeeker]

SR, in hindsight I see your intentions, lol. Not quick on the uptake, sorry.