How unusual are we?

[bailadora]

I read a letter and response from Dear Abby years and years ago that I will always remember. It was from a woman who wrote in complaining about how some other women would write in complaining that their husbands were found to be cheating on them and she basically called them crybabies and that if they had been taking care of their man then their men wouldn't be cheating on them.

And it's very easy to be judgmental when you only have one side of the story - which is what is presented in most of the cases - both here and in columns like Annie's Mailbox. IMO, the statement, "Take care of your man or he's gonna cheat" is a vast oversimplification. Quite frequently, problems in the sack are merely symptoms of larger issues outside of the bedroom. But it's easier to focus and blame it on sex.

 

[bailadora]

Back to my original question. My own answer is that I think we are unusual in our openness about sex. I think that openness a good thing. And yet, in my community, I'm not at all open about the topic. I wouldn't want it known that I come here. And I bet I'm not alone in that.

I think it's also a case of knowing your target audience, Culloden. As in, who do you know IRL who would be open to such topics. Interestingly enough, while I'd never talk as freely as I do here with my own sister (who I consider my best friend), I often do so with my sister-in-law and her husband. They're also 13 years younger than I and quite more open minded in their thinking.

 

[subwannabe]

Bailadora:

I agree with everything you have said. I certainly don't want to disagree with you because I think you are right. My posts have come off of very limited information and are only expressing one side of an arguement. There can be many variables to any given situation and obviously generalities and stereotypes aren't always right.